"Dear Sh! I'm single and masturbate regularly but sometimes it's a bit boring. What can I do to make it more exciting?"
Hi there,
Thanks for getting in touch!
The art of pleasure should be applied to sex with yourself as you would with a new lover. The trick is to not just masturbate but seduce yourself...
Of course, sometimes a quick sesh is just what the doctor ordered, but avoid falling into the habit of a finger-jingle without variation.
Put time, energy and imagination into having great sex with yourself, as you would a lover. After all, this is the longest sexual relationship you will ever have!
There is no right or wrong way to enjoy a solo pleasure. There are lots of things to try:
- Fingers
- Sex toys
- Shower on full blast
- Washing machine on slow spin
- Legs spread
- Thighs clenched together
The key is relaxing, fantasising and exploring new ways of getting yourself off.
Tips for spicing up masturbation
A few drops of lube will heighten sensitivity, and we have a great selection of vagina-friendly lubricants here. You should never use baby oil, vaseline or moisturizer - unless you relish the idea of an itch in your ditch...
Reading erotica is a great way to source fantasy material. This is especially good if your imagination needs a kick-start or weaving a sexy scenario seems like hard work.
For women who find orgasms elusive or their hands tire before it arrives, the throbbing of a vibrator will often help.
Seduce yourself!
So, next time you make a date with yourself, enjoy an utterly indulgent time.
- Champagne? (Yes, please!)
- An aromatic bath lit by candlelight? (You tease!)
- Dress to undress (Strip-tease!)
And if the chemistry is right, let the romance swing into raw desire and have a long, delicious sex session with yourself. Take your time and build up your arousal. Yes – you know how to give yourself a quick orgasm. But resist having one until you really can’t take it anymore… Read up on edging here - you can thank us later *wink*
The orgasm you eventually have will make your head spin!
Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx
2 comments
An analogy I heard ages ago and like a lot is that “Masturbation is like eating. Whatever you do it will satisfy you but how you do it makes a lot of difference to how enjoyable it will be”. I take it that while sometimes a quickie “snack” is great other times a “5 course gourmet dinner” is needed, and that no matter how nice a “dish” is you get board of it if its all you have to “eat”. as a result I have both a well stocked larder and a full toy and dressing up cupboard!
Brilliant analogy and so true Camilla!