Please could you give me some advice on which is best toy for anal sex – a butt plug or a dildo?
I’m kind of new to all this and would appreciate some advice.
Thanks in advance…
So, choosing the right kind of sex toy for anal play depends on how you want to use the toy and the kind of pleasure you’d like to experience from it. But as a beginner it’s very difficult to know!
Probably the best way it to start your anal discovery with a finger, covered in a condom or latex glove, if you’d prefer….
Cover both your anus and finger with some lube and gently, with patience, start exploring.
Going in will essentially feel the same, but once up there, do you prefer simply the feeling of fullness of your finger staying put or do you prefer a sliding in and out motion?
Butt Plugs – Best For Feelings of Still Fullness…
If you more prefer a feeling of fullness, then a butt plug is a great anal sex toy for you as, after the initial insertion, it’s not designed for much movement, beyond a slight wiggle or tilt.
The narrow neck at a butt plug’s base is what makes it stay in place – your sphincture muscle will naturally close around where it is narrowest – so, whilst there are no rules to how you must play with any sex toys and you can make small in-out movements with it, it may feel jarring to try to slide a butt plug in-and-out once this muscle has tensed around the narrow neck portion.
A butt plug is a good toy to get a ‘feel’ of what it’s like simply to have something up your bum, which in itself can be very arousing.
Anal Dildos – Best for In-and-Out Strokes…
If you crave a feeling of stroking in-and-out, then a dildo is actually the best toy for this kind of anal pleasure, because they have regular shafts, with no pronounced narrowing.
Again, there’s NO rules and you can simply slide a dildo inside and hold it there with no movement. But, unlike a butt plug, you can’t really let go, as the anus’ natural instinct is to (ahem) ‘expel’ …so it will start to slide out.
Our dildos start from finger- size, like the Wirly Girly 1 Slim Dildo, so even if you are new to anal sex, you won’t be feel overwhelmed.
If you plan to strap on a dildo for anal sex with your male or female lover, then you’ll need a longer dildo such as Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo or, even Wirly Girly 3 Slim Dildo as some of the dildo’s length is lost once it’s worn in a harness.
Both these styles are super popular anal dildos; slim enough for unintimidating anal sex, with gently ribbed shafts for stimulating the responsive nerve-endings in the anal canal and the extra length allows for proper strokes, without the toy slipping out altogether which can be frustrating!
The bases of all Sh! dildos & butt plugs are all safe for anal play as they flare enough to prevent dildos from slipping inside and getting lost inside.
Remember, whenever you play – lubricant is your friend and absolutely key to pleasurable anal sex, so whichever toy you choose, treat it and yourself with a lovely coat of lube to ensure maximum glide and pleasure.
Hope this helps and do give us a shout if you need any more advice
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