We are all for body positivity but right now we’re thinking you should love yourself a little more literally. This month is International Masturbation Month, whilst these days male masturbation is accepted as an inevitable part of growing up, female masturbation can still be treated as a bit of a shameful secret.
San Francisco sex shop Good Vibrations kicked off the inaugural Masturbation May in 1994 in reaction to the firing of U.S. Dr. Jocelyn Elders. What had Dr Elders done? Suggest that it might be a good idea to include masturbation in sex ed.
But then here we are 22 years later and what do we teach our children about pleasure? Would we not rather they experiment with themselves rather than jump straight into sex? How are girls meant to know how to enjoy pleasurable, consensual, safe sex if we teach them that touching themselves is abnormal or something to be ashamed of? How are we supposed to have awesome sex positive lives if we refuse to talk about something that literally everyone does.
Teenage girls and women are still far less likely than their male peers to admit to masturbating and 56% of women say they have never used a sex toy. When 75% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone and as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble orgasming it might seem like a few vibrators could come in handy.
You might not feel up for a sponsored Masturbate-a-Thon but that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate.
So other than the obvious (it’s fun) why should you be masturbating this May?
For Your Health
In the past people accused masturbation of corrupting the body and soul, but in fact nothing could be further from the truth. Masturbation can help relieve menstrual cramps, headaches and other aches and pains. It might also help build resistance to yeast infections, tone your PC muscles and improve your sleep.
For Your Mood
Masturbation is the perfect stress buster, forget spa days and long walks. It releases endorphins like dopamine and oxytocin that can help to boost your mood and relieve stress.
Masturbation is a great, safe, pressure free way to learn about your body and it’s responses (which is why it should maybe be included in sex education). Porn, films and magazines can all give us unrealistic ideas about what sex is and what it should look like. Also it’s hard for someone else to know what you like if you don’t know what you like.
To Try Something New
Masturbation is also a great way to try something new, at your own pace with no pressure or performance anxiety. If you’re considering playing with a first vibrator, but not sure you’ll enjoy it, curious about anal play, but worried you’ll hate it or drawn to strap ons, but worried about how to work it, experimenting on your own can give you pleasure and confidence.
We’ll leave you with a few tips on how to enjoy a great night in.
First off, set aside a decent amount of time, especially if you’re not a ‘confident’ mastubator. You want to be able to relax without worrying your parents are about to come over or your dinner will burn. You’re spending some time with a very special person so feel free to set the mood with candles or a relaxing bath. We’d definitely recommend some erotica or other stimulation to get you in the mood.
We also always recommend lube, and arousal oil if you have trouble orgasming. If you’d like to experiment with toys try searching the blog for guides for beginners, picking toys and getting the most out of your vibrator.
If you’d like to find out more about unlocking your orgasmic potential come along to our fun, educational and inspiring ‘Orgasmic!’ class on the 1st of June. It’s women only and you get 20% off after the class.