Learning about your clitoris and how to pleasure it is key to getting the best from your vibrator. We’ve previously written about what to consider when choosing a vibrator for your clitoris. Following on from that, here are our top tips on using your new clit vibe to maximize your pleasure.
Many clitoral vibrators are shaped to mirror the shape of your labia lips. This means they can be rested long-ways to stimulate the whole vulval area. The vulva is often overlooked in favour of the little clitoral pleasure bean, but the vulva is highly sensitive too.
How to stimulate your clitoris with a vibrator
Rather than just diving directly for your clitoral tip (the ultra-sensitive pea-sized button at the top of your inner labia lips), start by using your vibrator to stimulate around the whole vulva. Beneath the outer and inner labia lips lay lots of erectile tissue. Sensual stimulation causes blood to pump into the area, making you aroused, wet and swollen.
Many vulva-owners find that the best place to stimulate the clitoris isn’t directly on the tip – this tends to feel uncomfortable and too intense for pleasure. Try slightly off to one side instead. Imagine your clitoris as a clock face with 12 at the top and 6 at the bottom. Explore the areas around 11 o’clock or 1 o’clock, as these tend to be the most sensitive times on the clit-clock-face.
Every clitoris is unique, of course, but most vulva-owners will agree that direct stimulation of the clit can be overwhelming. We recommend taking a different approach. When playing with your new clit vibe, set it to low vibration and start stroking the sides of your clitoris. Explore the whole area and focus on spots that feel really good before working up to a more intense setting – let your clit guide you. It’ll let you know when it’s ready for more.
One of the main reasons Rabbit Vibrators are so popular is to do with the clever bunny ears. In use, the split ears lay on either side of the sensitive clit, delivering a buzz to the areas that love it most.
Pros & Cons of strong clit vibes
Clitoral vibrators are often intense, which many find great for clit play, especially if they have difficulty reaching orgasm. We regularly get asked by worried customers if strong vibrations will ‘ruin’ their clitoris. The answer is no.
Strong vibrators can temporarily desensitize your clitoris or numb your fingers if you handle the vibrating element for too long. This is, of course, subjective, as some people will be more sensitive than others. If you feel your clitoris beginning to feel desensitized, take a break. If your hands start to feel numb, just nestle the vibrator between your labia lips, then lie back and relax whilst the vibe will buzz away hands-free.
Another fun way of toning down strong vibrations is to cup the vibrator in the palm of your hand, letting the vibrations spread through the palm of your hand and out through your fingertips. Vibrations will feel super-gentle, and this is an incredibly sexy way to touch a blindfolded partner.
Another way to handle strong vibrations is by wrapping your toy in a towel or using it through the fabric of your panties until you become used to the buzzing.
Clit vibes with corded battery packs
Vibrators with separate battery packs may seem clumsy or a bit ‘old school.’ But, actually, they are great sex toys! The battery pack allows you to lie back, close your eyes, and control sensations from your hand rather than having to fumble for the faster/slower buttons between your legs. For some folks, this can help with the ‘switching off the mind’ that’s essential to orgasm.
This type of vibrator also makes handling the controls over to your partner so much easier.
How to take care of your clit vibe
Make sure you clean your clitoral vibe after every use. Use Sex Toy Cleaner or antibacterial hand wash and warm water. Be careful to not get water inside the battery area or where the connecting wire (if your vibe has one) attaches to the toy.
If your vibrator has a cord, make sure to not put stress on the connection. Dangling your vibe by its wire will result in a frustratingly intermittent buzzing or stop working altogether.
