Ah, the G-spot. The rare and unrivalled superstar of female orgasms. So special and precious that some even doubt its very existence! But after all our years of experience in advising women on the discovery of their ‘happy place’, at Sh! we definitely know better!
So, maybe you’ve been fantasising about the ultimate in penetrative sensation, or you’ve just heard your friends talking about how amazing G-spot stimulation and orgasms are, but you’re still struggling to hit your peak or maybe even find your G-spot!
Never fear! We’ve put together a short guide to shed some light on the ins and out of your G-spot, how you find it and the moves you need to be making for maximum satisfaction. Maybe you’ll discover it’s not so elusive after all…
How to find your G-spot
Finding your G-spot takes a lil’ bit of time and exploration, but baby the journey is the destination! Don’t put pressure on yourself if you can’t find the Holy Grail straight away, relax and enjoy the sensations of exploring. Getting to know your own body and being comfortable is key to understanding your own ‘process’ when it comes to reaching orgasm. There are no wrong answers here so feel free to move along as quick or as achingly slow as you desire! The beauty is, the G-spot ‘wakes up’ with arousal and will become easier to find the more you’re enjoying yourself.
It’s often best to begin your exploration simple, with fingers and lube. This can be fun with a partner you trust and communicate with well, but it’s often best to start your research alone and at your own pace. This way you’ll have some idea of the sensations, how they make you feel and what to expect – meaning you’ll have a more confident and fulfilling time with a partner and your G-spot further down the line! Make sure your fingers are clean and your nails are free from dirt and snags for a far more pleasant experience.
The G-spot area is located on the front wall of the vagina, about half-a-finger inside and up. You’ll find your fingers will naturally follow the inner slope of your body, but as a guide curving them upwards towards your belly button will give you a better angle. Often, new explorers make the mistake of delving a little too deeply – blame mainstream porn and the idea that ‘bigger/deeper is better’ – the sacred pearl of the G-spot is often not as far within as you’d expect! We wish we could draw you a map to the exact spot, but here every woman is unique, and like we said you’re bound to have fun figuring out what works best for you!
The G-spot is actually erectile tissue that swells and becomes firm as you become aroused, ready for stimulation. As you feel around, try and find a cluster of tissue that is slightly more hard and bumpy than the typically smooth surface of your vaginal walls. You should notice a gently significant change in sensation. Feeling that? Bingo! You’ve just found your G-spot!
Remember as we mentioned, we are all different and unique goddesses! Your G-spot may be higher up inside or could be larger in size (easier to find! Lucky you!). G-spots can vary from the size of pea to a walnut – all are completely normal, natural and loaded with the potential to send you into orbit!
Can’t quite find it? Don’t give up hope! Orgasms take time to build and the G-spot itself can take a while to respond. Up your chances by seeing to it that you’re nicely relaxed and incredibly aroused. Give yourself lots of attention and you’re sure to have a great time practising. Still no luck? Just try again another time. Women of all ages frequently visit Sh! to tell us they’ve just discovered their new super power! It’s really never too late.
All this being said, it’s true that G-spot stimulation just doesn’t cut it for some ladies. This is completely fine! There are plenty of other types of stimulation out there. But you’d be doing your wonderful body a disservice if you didn’t at least give it a try.
Increasing sensation alone or with a partner
So now you’ve found your special spot, it’s time to experiment with it and find out how it likes to be stimulated. Oh yes, now the fun REALLY begins! You might choose to do this alone or with a partner, but either way there is a special technique that you can use that has been shown to work for a lot of lucky G-spot owners:
Work your finger (or fingers if you prefer more than one) in bit by bit and massage the G-spot firmly. Remember to use plenty of lube in order to keep your movements smooth and deliciously swooping. You want to get your fingers into a curled position and use them to massage the wall of your vagina in a ‘come-hither’ motion (also known as your ‘new favourite’). It can be tiring to do this on your own, so a G-spot toy can be helpful. Yes, this technique is so legendary that toys have been crafted to replicate its exact movement. For ease, it’ll have a handle to hold and a tip that curves upwards towards your hot-spot.
If you’re experimenting with a partner, try lifting your knees towards your chest, which will give them better access for finding your G-spot and allow you to simply lie back and enjoy. Rather than having them thrust their fingers in and out vigorously, ask them to firmly massage the area instead – we call this ‘juicing the G-spot’, and from here the view is so spectacular that your partner might enjoy it just as much as you do. (Almost!)
Best positions for G-spot stimulation
Now you’ve got to grips with things and know whereabouts your G-spot is located, it’s time to ramp things up and work on using different positions to keep hitting your pleasure spot and maybe even achieve some toe-curling orgasms!
Doggy style is a great position for G-spot stimulation and is also perfect if you enjoy the feeling of being dominated. Being on all fours with your back arched ensures your G-spot is receiving maximum attention. A lot of women also find that riding ‘on-top’, cowgirl style is key to a penetrative orgasm, as from here you control the pace and the spot that gets hit! For that intensely intimate eye-contact with your partner, try lying on your back with your legs in the air as they penetrate you. Ride that rocket ship into orbit baby!