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Workshop: Human Drum Circle

We’re very excited to introduce this Human Drum Cycle workshop by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott. Never having attended such a class before, we are already imagining all the juicy sounds that’ll be created: slapping thighs, tapping shoulders, and bongo butt cheeks! AMAZING! (Can you tell we’re looking forward to this one!)

In this workshop, Lori Beth and Terence will start by covering percussion, and energy in percussion, before inviting guests to get more hands-on.

Topics that’ll be covered include:

  • Creating the human drum circle
  • Uses of drum circles and types of drum circles
  • Consent and negotiation
  • Choosing participants
  • Places to hit
  • Using instruments
  • Types of rhythm
  • Getting the energy to flow through and around the circle
  • Starting the circle and finishing the circle

Guests will practice drumming on surfaces and drums, and sending energy through the drums, creating and maintaining a rhythm first. Then there will be the opportunity to practice the parts of a human drum circle and the workshop will finish with a short human drum circle.

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More About Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott

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Lori Beth & Terence

Terence Scott is a cis-gendered polyamorous, bisexual sadistic leatherman who has been a percussionist since 1973 and has been beating anything that might create an interesting sound or build a rhythm since then. He teaches workshops on creating a human drum circle and raises sexual energy through rhythm and percussion.  He has been in an authority transfer based relationship for the past 10 years and married for the past 4 ½ to Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Pronouns: He, Him

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.comwhere both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

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Polyamory and other types of non-monogamy

Polyamory and other types of non-monogamy are really trendy at the moment. If you have wanted to have some form of open relationship, feel that one person cannot meet all of your needs, have tried to open up your relationship and need guidance, had good or bad experiences with non-monogamy and would like to have a plan that works for you going forward, this talk is for you.

Join Dr Lori Beth Bisbey for an evening discussion of ethical and unethical non-monogamy.

The following topics will be covered:

  • Deciding what type of non-monogamy works for you, and for your relationship
  • Hierarchies in relationships
  • Benefits of non-monogamy
  • Potential pitfalls of non-monogamy
  • Jealousy and compassion
  • Talking about non-monogamy with new partners and meeting people who share your desires.

When: Monday 12 of August, 7pm

Where: Sh! 31-35 Pitfield Street, London N1 6HB

Book tickets: Poly

All genders & sexualites are welcome.

Come with lots of questions!
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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

  • Join Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott at their new Munch
The Vaginismus Network Meet Up

The Vaginismus Network Meet Up

We are delighted to announce details of The Vaginismus Network (VN)’s next meet up, happening in-store on Friday 02 August!

This will be a relaxed, friendly and safe space to connect with other people who have vaginismus over a glass of bubbles (non-alcoholic if preferred). VN founders Kat and Lisa will host a relaxed and honest question and answer session with resident Psychosexual Therapist, Sarah Berry, on all related topics, as all three have first-hand experience of living with the condition.

Our store manager, Renée Denyer, will be on hand to explain exactly how Sh! can help sufferers and why many GPs and psychotherapists choose to refer patients to us. If that wasn’t enough, the fab Co-Active Coach, Audrey Cairo, will be making a guest appearance to share her experience with vaginismus as someone who has grown up with it:

“Vaginismus has been part of my story that has shaped me in various ways.  While coaching people to get back their agency I hope to open my practice to women with similar challenges to build their confidence, their own self worth and step into their beauty & sexuality.”

You can read more about Audrey’s journey here. There is no reason to suffer in silence if you are affected by vaginismus. Come along, enjoy a complimentary goody bag and have a chat!


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Energy-Class

Introduction to Energy Play – a class with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

People are often introduced to the idea of working with and playing with energy in spiritual practices like meditation, ritual, magick, yoga, reiki, tantra.

Sexual energy is the same as spiritual energy is the same as what some people call the subtle energies. The energy is raised in a different manner and used for a different purpose but it is, in essence, the same.

Energy play in Kink and BDSM is when people manipulate and exchange energy – usually through touch, as part of their sexual and BDSM play and scenes.

In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources.

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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where b
In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources. oth her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Join Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott at their new Munch
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10 Ways to Seduce Yourself – an erotic class with Immani Love

Single, in a relationship, or simply want to get better acquainted with yourself? This class is for you!

Learning to seduce yourself can be easy if you understand the little details that matter. This workshop will give you 10 Ways to Seduce Yourself and perhaps some ideas for spicing up a relationship as well!

Immani Love will host this class on how to turn yourself on in no less than 10 different ways because let’s be honest: it’s always fun to change things up!

Immani Love, Author, Erotic Poet & Love Goddess
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Immani Love was born in Philadelphia, Pa and is currently making her home in Florida, regularly performing in several places in the United States, United Kingdom, Europe, and Australia when booked.

Named 2013 Erotic Poet of the Year by the National Poetry Awards and invited to perform in the UK Black Pride in London, England, as well as EuroPride 2014 in Marseille, France and EuroPride 2016 in Amsterdam, Netherlands, now her popularity has grown! She has traveled throughout Europe every summer since 2014 and includes stops as far as Australia, England, Spain, France, Holland, Germany, Italy, and Greece.

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If you missed her event at Sh! last summer, you gotta join us for this one!
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Understanding Sexless Relationships And Strategies To End The Dry Spell

Most relationships start hot and steamy with plenty of pleasure and intimacy, but as time goes by these often reduce in frequency and intensity and sometimes they come to a halt.

Is it possible that your relationship is just going through a temporary ‘dry’ spell or season or is this how it will remain forever? What can you do to change things for the better?

leah-SpasovaFind the answers to these questions and many more during this evening hosted by Leah Spasova of the Lifesexperts

A Social Psychologist, Situational Ethicist, and Sex & Relationships Educator, Leah focuses her work on helping individuals to improve their social skills, confidence, self-esteem, resilience, ability to deal with difficulties, maintain good physical and mental health and more.

The evening starts at 7.30pm with a unique panel discussion featuring 4 professionals working in the field of life, sex and relationships improvement. Make the most of this opportunity to ask them questions related to their expertise and work with individuals and couples who experience relationship and sexual struggles. After the panel we will move onto our talk for the night, exploring and learning more about Sexless Relationships.

The Panel

  • Leah Spasova – Social Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Educator – LIFESEXPERTS
  • Lori Beth Bisbey – Psychologist, Sex and Intimacy Coach, Author – Wolf’s Fire
  • Jacqueline Chan – Life Coach and Yoga & Meditation Practitioner – Energy Before Matter
  • Glen Wiseman, Panel Moderator – Sex and Relationships Educator – Brook and The Mix Charity
After the panel discussion, Leah will explore the topic of sexless relationships in 2 parts:

1. How relationships enter a dry season – from a psychological: personal and interpersonal perspective?


2. How to navigate better and get ourselves back on track to a more connected, intimate and pleasure filled relationship?

*Understanding sexless relationships

This talk will help you gain insight into the reasons why sex reduces and stops in relationships from a psychological and sexual perspective. Although we shall briefly explore some of the social aspects that affect us, our relationships and sexual life; such as having stressful jobs, having children and else – we will concentrate more on the personal and interpersonal aspects of what causes individuals to end up in sexless relationships. We shall explore what kills passion, desire, and connection between individuals and how our emotional and psychological needs are often unrecognised and unmet and thus we lose interest, we stop yearning, feel pushed away or neglected.   

*Ways to reconnect and end the dry season

Continuing with the psychological: a personal and interpersonal perspective which is rarely shared and spoken about yet it is so very important for us as individuals and partners – we explore how to end the dry season. We shall offer you invaluable strategies to reignite passion and desire, increase the connection and intimacy between you.


Book Your Space:

All genders & sexualities welcome.

Attendees will receive a workbook to help them jot down notes and make the best out of the content this event has to deliver.


Who Are the Lifesexperts?

We provide high quality and unique Life Relevant Education for Adults!

Our content covers over 40 topics on all things related to sexuality, intimacy, relationships, mental health and well-being, interpersonal skills and more!

Our events are sex-positive, inclusive and welcoming to all human beings irrespective of sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, physical ability, relationship status, etc. Put simply, if you’re a human being open to learning and growing – you are welcomed.

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The Secret Teachings of the Kama Sutra – an evening with Seema Anand

Did you know that the famous “positions” were based on classifications of genitals sizes – how to make them more compatible to ensure true pleasure.

Did you know the whole book of Kama Sutra is based on the textures of vulvas – how to arouse women with different textures, what kind of pressure to apply, what food they like, even the perfect environment for their sexual pleasure? According to the Kama Sutra with every changing phase of the moon, the erogenous zones shift around the body. An accomplished lover was one who understood where the erogenous spot rested every night and how it should be stimulated for maximum arousal.

Written in the 4th cen AD the Kama Sutra was the first book to acknowledge the idea of women’s pleasure – their capacity to feel pleasure and their right to experience it – separate to and independent of a man’s pleasure. With great perception, it explained the difference: Men’s desire is like fire, beginning in the groin and flaring upwards, it is easy to ignite and easier still to douse. Women’s pleasure, on the other hand, is like water – starting at the head it flows downwards, taking forever to come to the boil and equally long to cool down.

A woman’s pleasure is complex and fragile, it was a skill that had to be learnt – (the Kama Sutra was written to teach men how to pleasure a woman) – what stories to tell before sex to arouse her, what conversation to have after sex to make her come back to your bed more readily the next time, with what kind of kisses to drive her distracted but not satisfy, with what kind of kisses to finally quench the desire. It even includes an entire Ayurvedic study on the different combinations of fingers that should be used to pleasure oneself. Each finger holds the energy of a specific element and each combination provides its own sensations.

Join Seema in an evening of decoding the secret teachings of the Kama Sutra on sensuality, pleasure and seduction.
Seema Anand

Seema Anand is a mythologist and storyteller specialising in women’s narratives. She is an acknowledged authority on the ancient erotic literature of the East. Ancient India believed that sexual pleasure was not just instinct but an art, the correct practice of which contributed to the wellbeing of all five senses and the development of the mind and the soul. It was essential for both the physical and mental wellbeing but could only be effective if understood properly.


“I believe that the erotic literature of ancient
India was written by a woman – it is the only thing that explains the detail, the elegance and the beauty with which the subject is handled, where pleasure becomes an art and sex a poetic experience…”


The Seema Sutra – on Pleasures of a Woman

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Anal for everyone! How to ease into it your first time and every time – a class with Lola Jean

Following her sold-out classes, Lola Jean is back with more! For all bodies and genital varieties.

There’s definitely a rise in attention on the booty and rightfully so! Ass play isn’t for everyone but how do you know if it’s for you? Some simply don’t enjoy the sensation but what if your fears are pain, poop or other?

Those are items that can be navigated around. How do you prepare? Do you need to prepare? How do you know you’re ready? Whether you have a vulva or a penis, everyone has a butt and there are many pleasure zones we can access safely and with care. In this class we will discuss the difference between anal stretching and stimulation, the variety of sensations that can occur in and around the butt as well as anal penetration.

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Anal play is SO much more than just sticking something inside a butt. There is an easing-in process to make this enjoyable for all parties. Learn to understand the prostate from both internal and external stimulation as well as why stimulating different parts of the vagina can be more pleasurable via the anal canal.

And yes, we will go over poo and pain extensively.

More About Lola Jean

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Lola Jean at Sh!

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder (wowzers!).

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!

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There’s a New Munch in Town!

Are you into kink? Do you want to learn more about BDSM? Are you looking to meet like-minded peeps without having to take your clothes off?

If you tick those four boxes, you’re in luck: there’s a new munch in town and you are invited! (For those new to the lingo, a “munch” is a casual, social gathering for peeps who are into kinky stuff.)

Hosted by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott, the group will meet every 2 months, for 2 hours, and we’re delighted to share that their munch will be held right here at Sh!

Who is it for?

This group is for you if you are in a Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, Owner/property relationship or seeking to create a relationship of this type and wish to learn more about how to create and maintain these relationships.

All genders, sexualities, races, religions, and cultures are invited to join.

What happens at the Munch?

Each time the group meets, there will be a topic presentation and discussion for the first half of the group and the second half will be devoted to questions, answers, and discussions. Topics will be primarily focused on power exchange/ authority transfer based relationship and elements of the relationship. There will sometimes be demonstrations of types of play and techniques.

Book your place!
Meet the Hosts

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott has been involved in a power exchange (Master/slave) relationship for 10 years and been married for 4 ½ years. They both identify as part of the leather community.


Lori Beth & Terence

Lori Beth has been a slave or submissive part-time in relationships since 1978, surrendering in four long term relationships each lasting more than 2 years. Terence has been a dominant in a variety of relationships since his early 20’s.

Lori Beth regularly presents at conferences and seminars on relationships, relationship styles, sex, sexuality, and BDSM. They have presented as a couple on creating a human drum circle and creating ritual in power exchange relationships.

Lori Beth is a polyamorous cisgendered queer leather woman masochistic slave whose pronouns are she, her. Terence is a polyamorous cisgendered bisexual leather man sadistic dominant whose pronouns are he, him.

Please note: Despite the munch taking place at Sh!, one of Europe’s most long-standing erotic emporiums, this is not an open invitation to get your kit off and get the party started; this is a social occasion and guests are expected to remain clothed.

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Surrendering – a Workshop with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Does the idea of surrendering to a partner sexually, emotionally, or in a 24/7 relationship appeal to you?

Have you been submissive in relationships but found surrendering difficult?

Do you find letting go of control in other areas of life hard to do?

Surrender is extremely satisfying and is an essential ingredient in a power exchange relationship. It is often very difficult to do.

In this interactive workshop, we will explore surrender as a part of power exchange relationships. We will examine the different levels and depths of surrender. We will practice being present with a dominant partner. We will examine fears about being vulnerable, shame and learn methods of getting rid of these so that we can surrender more fully. We will cover in depth consent, surrender in a spiritual sense (surrender to a higher power, the divine). We will look at the role of trust in surrender. We will return to sexual surrender and do sensual exercises to deepen surrender.

Exercises will not involve sexual contact or any nudity.


TICKETS

All genders & sexualites welcome.


Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

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Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

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