Ah, the humble vibrator; that little buzzing bundle of joy that for the vast majority of women cause guaranteed orgasm with the same surety that night follows day and often at the speed of a Usain Bolt sprint.
Vibrators are an absolute godsend to women who find it hard to tip over the edge in two ways.
- Vibrators provide ‘satisfaction-guaranteed’ assurance.
- Vibrators take away the anxiety of ‘not getting off’. This anxiety is often at the root of no-gasms, the kind of orgasms that are about to show up in spectacular fashion but then leave the building quietly, and you unsatisfied…
For those whose find orgasms easier to come by, vibrators are simply the best labour-saving device ever invented. They are fabulous playthings to explore sexual pleasure and response.
Who would believe, then that this humble little device, whose sole purpose is to provide sexual pleasure, is the cause of scaremongering myths and fake news?
‘Myth: using a vibrator too much can cause damage, numbness, and make it harder to orgasm through other forms of stimulation’
or the even scarier;
Fake News: Vibrators cause DVS (Dead Vagina Syndrome)!
These myths are at the base of questions or anxieties that often come up in-store, so let’s break it down.
The first concept to question here is just what is ‘too much’? It’s such a vague term because it’s completely different for everyone.
You only have to ask a few friends to discover that desires, libidos, and orgasmic capabilities vary a huge amount. How often and for how long you use your vibrator will depend on you, your sexual response and even just the amount of time you have to play – whether it’s a quickie before work or a longer session on a lazy Sunday morning…
The benefits of orgasms are multi-fold. Orgasms release all sorts of beneficial chemicals in the body, helping you to relax, and making you feel amazing, so don’t worry about indulging in your vibrator ‘too much’. You most certainly cannot overdose on the feel-good factor that floods the body on orgasm.
‘How often is it OK to use my vibrator?’ is something we’re asked regularly, and of course, the worry is nothing to do with ‘ how often is it OK to have an orgasm’ (erm..?) but everything to do with the pesky myths that vibrators can somehow cause damage to down-below delicate areas or be a drug or actually narrow our orgasmic capabilities.
So let’s address the common questions and worries, so you can all get back to enjoying good (and worry-free) vibrations and exploring all the sensual pleasures your bedside buddy can give!
Will my vibrator numb my clitoris?
We’ve all heard the saying that you ‘can have too much of a good thing’, but luckily, that’s not the case with vibrators.
Customers often worry that their clitoris will become permanently numbed through ‘excessive use’ of vibrating toys and we understand the concern – it’s the only organ dedicated to sexual pleasure and we all want to be 100% confident of taking good care of it!
There is no evidence to suggest that vibrators can cause permanent damage.
One of the few studies looking into this is a 2009 American survey, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, which surveyed 2,056 women (18 to 60 years old) about vibrator-use (if any).
Not only did the study find that women who used vibrators were more gynecologically health-conscious and scored higher in the good-stuff in the FSFI (a clinical-trial questionnaire to measure sexual functioning in women, such as sexual arousal, orgasm, satisfaction, pain, etc) but it also found that:
‘Negative side effects including numbness, pain, irritation, inflammation/swelling, and tears or cuts were rarely reported.
The percentage of women who answered “never” to each of the five latter side effects was respectively: 83.5, 97.0, 90.1, 92, and 98.9.
Result: Vibrators are safe’
Breaking it down, the bottom line is that 70%+ of the women studied never experienced any negative side effects of playing with their vibrator. According to this particular data, women who use vibrators were found to be more in tune with their genital health,
In the women who did report negative side effects, the down-sides were usually rare, of a short duration and were just mild numbness, irritation, or inflammation.
The clitoral glans ( the official name of the external part of the clitoris) is packed with nerve endings. With around 8,000 of these zingy receptors, squeezed into the size of a pea, it’s one of the most sensitive areas of the human body. It’s the reason why stimulation here feels so good, but, after a long play session, also why your clit can feel over-sensitive, or de-sensitized. There’s been a little research on the effects of vibration on the body and whether on hands (guess that research was for an entirely different type of power tool!) or genitals, the effects are temporary, mostly disappearing within an hour.
So, if you feel numb after getting jiggy with your gadget, it doesn’t mean you’ve frazzled anything permanently – your clitoris just needs to rest a while, it’ll be back to its orgasm inducing ways in no time at all.
Can I get addicted to my vibrator?
This is a very common question and one that puts many customers off using their toy ‘too often’.
When we think of addiction, it’s often in relation to drugs. The orgasms vibrators give you do deliver a natural high that instantly boosts your mood and you’ll definitely find yourself wanting more, but the good news is that you can’t get addicted to your vibrator however often you use it.
We think that also answers the question as to the validity of ‘Dead Vagina Syndrome’, a fake news scare which claimed that using a vibrator will numb the nerves in your vagina and stop you from experiencing orgasmic pleasure again. There has been no medical evidence to back up this claim and we take it for what it is – a load of viral BS.
We’d be interested to hear if, after a vigorous session with a partner, ‘John Wayne Walk Syndrome’ is a thing? Can a rumbunctious romp in the bedsheets cause you to walk bowlegged for the rest of your life? *Tongue firmly in cheek*
Why does it take me so long to have an orgasm without my vibrator?
Vibrators are favoured among women because of the quick and powerful orgasms they deliver. It’s something we quickly get used to, so when you’re getting amorous with a partner and reaching the Big Oh takes a whole lot longer, many women think they’ve caused damage to their nether regions.
This isn’t the case.
Vibrators oscillate at around 200 oscillations per minute, delivering consistent, reliable stimulation in just the right spot – that’s a tall order for any partner to keep up with. Orgasming through other types of stimulation can be tricky and take longer as a result, but the good news is that as you explore what you like and achieve more orgasms, you’ll often find that time decreasing. Of course, you always have the option to add a vibrator into the mix when you’re with your partner if you want to speed it up a little…