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Understanding Sexless Relationships And Strategies To End The Dry Spell

Most relationships start hot and steamy with plenty of pleasure and intimacy, but as time goes by these often reduce in frequency and intensity and sometimes they come to a halt.

Is it possible that your relationship is just going through a temporary ‘dry’ spell or season or is this how it will remain forever? What can you do to change things for the better?

leah-SpasovaFind the answers to these questions and many more during this evening hosted by Leah Spasova of the Lifesexperts

A Social Psychologist, Situational Ethicist, and Sex & Relationships Educator, Leah focuses her work on helping individuals to improve their social skills, confidence, self-esteem, resilience, ability to deal with difficulties, maintain good physical and mental health and more.

The evening starts at 7.30pm with a unique panel discussion featuring 4 professionals working in the field of life, sex and relationships improvement. Make the most of this opportunity to ask them questions related to their expertise and work with individuals and couples who experience relationship and sexual struggles. After the panel we will move onto our talk for the night, exploring and learning more about Sexless Relationships.

The Panel

  • Leah Spasova – Social Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Educator – LIFESEXPERTS
  • Lori Beth Bisbey – Psychologist, Sex and Intimacy Coach, Author – Wolf’s Fire
  • Jacqueline Chan – Life Coach and Yoga & Meditation Practitioner – Energy Before Matter
  • Glen Wiseman, Panel Moderator – Sex and Relationships Educator – Brook and The Mix Charity
After the panel discussion, Leah will explore the topic of sexless relationships in 2 parts:

1. How relationships enter a dry season – from a psychological: personal and interpersonal perspective?


2. How to navigate better and get ourselves back on track to a more connected, intimate and pleasure filled relationship?

*Understanding sexless relationships

This talk will help you gain insight into the reasons why sex reduces and stops in relationships from a psychological and sexual perspective. Although we shall briefly explore some of the social aspects that affect us, our relationships and sexual life; such as having stressful jobs, having children and else – we will concentrate more on the personal and interpersonal aspects of what causes individuals to end up in sexless relationships. We shall explore what kills passion, desire, and connection between individuals and how our emotional and psychological needs are often unrecognised and unmet and thus we lose interest, we stop yearning, feel pushed away or neglected.   

*Ways to reconnect and end the dry season

Continuing with the psychological: a personal and interpersonal perspective which is rarely shared and spoken about yet it is so very important for us as individuals and partners – we explore how to end the dry season. We shall offer you invaluable strategies to reignite passion and desire, increase the connection and intimacy between you.


Book Your Space:

All genders & sexualities welcome.

Attendees will receive a workbook to help them jot down notes and make the best out of the content this event has to deliver.


Who Are the Lifesexperts?

We provide high quality and unique Life Relevant Education for Adults!

Our content covers over 40 topics on all things related to sexuality, intimacy, relationships, mental health and well-being, interpersonal skills and more!

Our events are sex-positive, inclusive and welcoming to all human beings irrespective of sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, physical ability, relationship status, etc. Put simply, if you’re a human being open to learning and growing – you are welcomed.

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The Secret Teachings of the Kama Sutra – an evening with Seema Anand

Did you know that the famous “positions” were based on classifications of genitals sizes – how to make them more compatible to ensure true pleasure.

Did you know the whole book of Kama Sutra is based on the textures of vulvas – how to arouse women with different textures, what kind of pressure to apply, what food they like, even the perfect environment for their sexual pleasure? According to the Kama Sutra with every changing phase of the moon, the erogenous zones shift around the body. An accomplished lover was one who understood where the erogenous spot rested every night and how it should be stimulated for maximum arousal.

Written in the 4th cen AD the Kama Sutra was the first book to acknowledge the idea of women’s pleasure – their capacity to feel pleasure and their right to experience it – separate to and independent of a man’s pleasure. With great perception, it explained the difference: Men’s desire is like fire, beginning in the groin and flaring upwards, it is easy to ignite and easier still to douse. Women’s pleasure, on the other hand, is like water – starting at the head it flows downwards, taking forever to come to the boil and equally long to cool down.

A woman’s pleasure is complex and fragile, it was a skill that had to be learnt – (the Kama Sutra was written to teach men how to pleasure a woman) – what stories to tell before sex to arouse her, what conversation to have after sex to make her come back to your bed more readily the next time, with what kind of kisses to drive her distracted but not satisfy, with what kind of kisses to finally quench the desire. It even includes an entire Ayurvedic study on the different combinations of fingers that should be used to pleasure oneself. Each finger holds the energy of a specific element and each combination provides its own sensations.

Join Seema in an evening of decoding the secret teachings of the Kama Sutra on sensuality, pleasure and seduction.
Seema Anand

Seema Anand is a mythologist and storyteller specialising in women’s narratives. She is an acknowledged authority on the ancient erotic literature of the East. Ancient India believed that sexual pleasure was not just instinct but an art, the correct practice of which contributed to the wellbeing of all five senses and the development of the mind and the soul. It was essential for both the physical and mental wellbeing but could only be effective if understood properly.


“I believe that the erotic literature of ancient
India was written by a woman – it is the only thing that explains the detail, the elegance and the beauty with which the subject is handled, where pleasure becomes an art and sex a poetic experience…”


The Seema Sutra – on Pleasures of a Woman

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🚨🌈 JUICEBOX PRESENTS PRIDE LDN🌈🚨

London’s Hottest Womxn Led LGBTQ+ Strxptease experience!

Where performance arts, contemporary theatre, Neo-burlesque and cabaret meets club culture, pole & striptease. 

The night will be jam-packed with award-winning performers, striptease & London Pride’s very first twerk contest.

We also have a VIP area where you can receive a deliciously Juicyyy private dance by one of our very own Juicebox Baddies & Daddies.

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We believe in Womxn’s rights for all Womxn and we are extremely passionate about creating opportunities for Womxn and the LGBTQ+/QTPOC community to feel empowered and safe enough to express themselves fully and to accept themselves in their entirety, including their sexuality. Being LGBTQ/QTPOC Womxn ourselves we understand the frustration and disappointment in being a queer person of colour without a space to celebrate our culture and heritage safely. This is why we have created JuiceBox Events, to empower and provide a platform for the underrepresented in our community.

Our events will include Stud/Tomboy stage performances as we want to give our Masc/Dom performers a platform they don’t have at this moment in the UK.

We are proud to announce that we have been added to the official Pride In London festival program!!! In our research we found there to be a lack of safe spaces for our community and Womxn in London, and with the recent uproar of womxn’s rights campaigns such as the #metoo movement coupled with the rapid loss of some of London’s most respected and loved LGBTQ+ club nights makes clear tangible evidence that the fight for visibility is more important than ever.

We at JuiceBox Events believe strongly that all human beings deserve to feel heard and that it is a basic human need to feel a sense of belonging, we are an all-inclusive company that will empower and provides a platform for the underrepresented in our community by showcasing LGBTQ+, QTPOC & Womxn Talent.

Are You Ready To Twerk Out With Your Dollars Out?!!! Come & Make It Rain At The Ultimate Pre-Pride Warm Up

Come and join us on the 21ST JUNE 2019! at REDON for the launch of JUICEBOX EVENTS!!
Music Policy : Urban Music (HipHop/Bashment/Dancehall/Afrobeats/R&B/Grime)

Enjoy Our Line Up Of Award Winning Performers
  • Bunni Morretto
  • Tequila Rose
  • Kitty Velour
  • Foreign Freak
  • MORE TBA
Whilst Exotic Strxpteasers – JuiceBox Baddies & Daddies Tease & Tantalize
  • Jada Love
  • Romeo De La
  • Cruz
  • MORE TBA
With The Hottest All Womxn DJ Line Up, Serving You The Sickest Swaggiest Sets
  • DJ Kaspa
  • Lemonade Girlz
  • Nadine Artois (Pxssy Palace)

Come Bruk Out To Bashment/ Dancehall/Trap/ Hip- Hop/Grime/Afrobeats

This Is What We’ve Waited Our Whole Gay Lives For, Finally A Judgment Free Zone That Allows The LGBTQ+ Community To Live Their Best Life… Come Get That Booty Poppin’ With Us… Or Just Watch 😈

🌈This Is A Body Positive, Sex Positive, Twerk Positive, Yassssss Positive Womxn Led LGBTQ+ Event! 🌈 😈 Bring A Mate Or A Date & Don’t Be Late

  • Wheelchair Accessible Venue
  • We welcome all Womxn, Queer Bodies & Their Allies

@redonlive Cambridge Heath Road, Arch 289, London, E2 9HA

🎟 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/juicebox-presents-pride-ldn-tickets-61012220193

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Anal for everyone! How to ease into it your first time and every time – a class with Lola Jean

Following her sold-out classes, Lola Jean is back with more! For all bodies and genital varieties.

There’s definitely a rise in attention on the booty and rightfully so! Ass play isn’t for everyone but how do you know if it’s for you? Some simply don’t enjoy the sensation but what if your fears are pain, poop or other?

Those are items that can be navigated around. How do you prepare? Do you need to prepare? How do you know you’re ready? Whether you have a vulva or a penis, everyone has a butt and there are many pleasure zones we can access safely and with care. In this class we will discuss the difference between anal stretching and stimulation, the variety of sensations that can occur in and around the butt as well as anal penetration.

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Anal play is SO much more than just sticking something inside a butt. There is an easing-in process to make this enjoyable for all parties. Learn to understand the prostate from both internal and external stimulation as well as why stimulating different parts of the vagina can be more pleasurable via the anal canal.

And yes, we will go over poo and pain extensively.

More About Lola Jean

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Lola Jean at Sh!

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder (wowzers!).

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!

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There’s a New Munch in Town!

Are you into kink? Do you want to learn more about BDSM? Are you looking to meet like-minded peeps without having to take your clothes off?

If you tick those four boxes, you’re in luck: there’s a new munch in town and you are invited! (For those new to the lingo, a “munch” is a casual, social gathering for peeps who are into kinky stuff.)

Hosted by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott, the group will meet every 2 months, for 2 hours, and we’re delighted to share that their munch will be held right here at Sh!

Who is it for?

This group is for you if you are in a Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, Owner/property relationship or seeking to create a relationship of this type and wish to learn more about how to create and maintain these relationships.

All genders, sexualities, races, religions, and cultures are invited to join.

What happens at the Munch?

Each time the group meets, there will be a topic presentation and discussion for the first half of the group and the second half will be devoted to questions, answers, and discussions. Topics will be primarily focused on power exchange/ authority transfer based relationship and elements of the relationship. There will sometimes be demonstrations of types of play and techniques.

Book your place!
Meet the Hosts

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott has been involved in a power exchange (Master/slave) relationship for 10 years and been married for 4 ½ years. They both identify as part of the leather community.


Lori Beth & Terence

Lori Beth has been a slave or submissive part-time in relationships since 1978, surrendering in four long term relationships each lasting more than 2 years. Terence has been a dominant in a variety of relationships since his early 20’s.

Lori Beth regularly presents at conferences and seminars on relationships, relationship styles, sex, sexuality, and BDSM. They have presented as a couple on creating a human drum circle and creating ritual in power exchange relationships.

Lori Beth is a polyamorous cisgendered queer leather woman masochistic slave whose pronouns are she, her. Terence is a polyamorous cisgendered bisexual leather man sadistic dominant whose pronouns are he, him.

Please note: Despite the munch taking place at Sh!, one of Europe’s most long-standing erotic emporiums, this is not an open invitation to get your kit off and get the party started; this is a social occasion and guests are expected to remain clothed.

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Surrendering – a Workshop with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Does the idea of surrendering to a partner sexually, emotionally, or in a 24/7 relationship appeal to you?

Have you been submissive in relationships but found surrendering difficult?

Do you find letting go of control in other areas of life hard to do?

Surrender is extremely satisfying and is an essential ingredient in a power exchange relationship. It is often very difficult to do.

In this interactive workshop, we will explore surrender as a part of power exchange relationships. We will examine the different levels and depths of surrender. We will practice being present with a dominant partner. We will examine fears about being vulnerable, shame and learn methods of getting rid of these so that we can surrender more fully. We will cover in depth consent, surrender in a spiritual sense (surrender to a higher power, the divine). We will look at the role of trust in surrender. We will return to sexual surrender and do sensual exercises to deepen surrender.

Exercises will not involve sexual contact or any nudity.


TICKETS

All genders & sexualites welcome.


Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

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Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

More workshops with Dr Lori Beth
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Adding a Third: What to know when encountering a unicorn or when you become one

Threesomes are all the rage, but how do you go about having one? How much do you plan and how much do you leave to chance? What makes a threesome good or bad? What should you discuss with your partner *before* you get in the sheets with another? More importantly, where is any of this information for that elusive third party?

We spend all of our time prepping a couple on adding a third into their bedroom, but what about the ‘unicorn?’

In this class, we will not only discuss all of the things that *could* go wrong and how to be wary of those but also how to behave in the aftermath and how to equip yourself if you are that mythical unicorn.

We start with your desires and why you want to engage in group and sex and progress to your fears and insecurities to ultimately give you the best path to a successful threesome — if that’s for you at all!

Join Lola Jean for this class on how to ensure your threesome is safe & fun for everyone!

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More About Lola Jean

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder (yep, it’s a title!).

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

Lola Jean at Sh!
Lola Jean at Sh!
More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!
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Edible Pleasures – A Tasty Experience with Lana Citron

Come whet your palates and tickle your fancy in this engagingly scrumptious evening exploring the universal relationship between food and sexual desire.

Author Lana Citron will be talking desire, passion and the pursuit of oral gratification to celebrate her latest publication Edible Pleasures, a textbook of aphrodisiacs. Lana looks at desire through the culture and history of aphrodisiacs. In a talk which will be informative, entertaining, stomach-churning (the more gross examples) and palate teasing.

Edible Pleasures is a cultural and historical romp on the universal bond between food and sexual desire. From the poetic to the philosophical, the absurd to the abstruse, indulge in scientific, gastronomic and cultural histories, accompanied by an A-Z of aphrodisiacs with a side order of seductive recipes. Lovingly combining delicacies from The Taste of a Kiss by Martial to Madame Pompadour’s Asparagus Tips, by way of South Park’s Hot Salty Chocolate Balls, Edible Pleasures is the definitive textbook to food, passion, love and desire.

Book Your Ticket Here:
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Ticket price includes a signed copy of Edible Pleasures


“Discerning gourmands”, “connoisseurs of seduction” and “gastronomes of love” are all most welcome.

More About Lana Citron

A prize-winning Irish author and scriptwriter, Lana Citron’s novels are; Sucker, Spilt Milk, Transit, The Honey Trap and The Brodsky Touch. Her first nonfiction, A Compendium of Kisses was Book of the Week in The Economist and described as ‘an intellectual and indulgent treat; a wonderful and comprehensive book on all things osculatory’.

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Lana Citron

For more information go to www.lanacitron.com or follow Lana on Instagram

Photo ‘Pie Hole’  © Jo Ann Callis

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Impact Play: a 360 on Spanking – a class with Lola Jean

Following two sold-out classes with Lola Jean earlier this year, we are delighted to announce her return to Sh!

This time, Lola Jean will present three classes at Sh! and if you missed her last visit, you really gotta get in quick coz we’re expecting tickets to sell quicker than 99-Flakes in the sunshine!

Lola Jean at Sh!

The first class, Impact Play: a 360 on Spanking will take place on Friday 28th of June and if you read on, we’ll tell you all about it.

IMPACT PLAY (N.): Impact play is a practice in which one person (the bottom) is struck (usually repeatedly) by another person (the Top) for the gratification of either or both parties.

Learn when and where impact play can be more useful/beneficial.

Whether someone is a pain slut or a beginner, impact play can be a reward just as much as a punishment. Bring the art of the tease into your impact play.

We will answer questions like: do you have to like pain to like impact play? Who is impact play for? Is it the same as spanking and whipping? How can I use impact play?

Based on methods your impact play can feel like a massage or like pins and needles. In this class, we review different toys and methods of impact play on the feet, butt, back, chest and genital area. From floggers to canes to a good old fashioned hand spanking, learn how to utilize each tool on multiple parts of the body.

The class will conclude with designated time to demonstrate different types of aftercare for appropriate situations. This class is open to Doms, subs, or none of the above and all genders and orientations.

Join Us!

Who is Lola Jean?

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder. (And with a sex-CV like that, it’s no wonder women of all ages flock to her classes, keen on learning from the best!)

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!

Relight that Fire

Relight that Fire

People of Sh!: the most wonderful time of the year is now upon us. Just in case you haven’t already heard us mention it; May is the month of masturbation.

In a period of #selfcare, now is the time to brandish those hashtags and jump fearlessly onboard. Many of you are already out there, in the field, rubbing one out time and time again in the name of sexual liberation.

But, what if you just don’t fancy getting down and dirty with your pleasure powerhouse? Is the only lubricant you’ve come close to recently the one that slid masturbation slowly down your priority list? What if you and your partner just aren’t in sync with each other sexually – but you feel guilty in pleasuring yourself without them?

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Allowing yourself to explore your sexuality either alone or with a partner requires a positive mindset. It’s not a selfish or indulgent act: it’s a bare minimum that can be a really empowering, rewarding action. However, if you’re not “feeling” sex much at the minute and you’re not sure why, then evaluating your mood and stress levels is always a good starting point. Take the other person out of the equation and think about what’s going on with you. Is something causing you stress? Perhaps you can try little strategies here and there to fix at least the smallest of your concerns.

Masturbation should never be a chore – it’s a bloody delight. The language you use determines how you think and vice versa. If you find yourself speaking about your body or sex negatively then perhaps you can try and consciously implement more positive language when talking about such topics. Saying this, there is no need to force anything if it really doesn’t feel natural.

Be kind to yourself by allowing space and time for your attitudes or context to change.

Otherwise, buy yourself a ticket to that pilates class you’ve been putting off. Lather up in your favourite moisturiser. Get those kids to their friend Jenny’s for dinner and chill out in the bath with a nice glass of whatever you fancy. If you’re feeling REALLY outlandish, read up on your favourite fantasies via a sweet slice of erotica. Soon enough you’ll find yourself raring to go, so dust off that trusty vibe of yours and get back on your rocking horse.

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On the other hand, you may be rolling an eye or two at this masturbation month malarkey thinking that there’s no reason to do that when you have a partner already. Relying on that one person for all sexual satisfaction is a lot of pressure, no? What would you do if they went on holiday?

Not only is masturbating a practical solution for staying in tune with your body and satisfying your own needs, but it can be really sexy to do with a partner and allow them the role of voyeur.

Face each other head-on as you individually touch yourselves together or in turn. You could even tie them up so that they are just out of reach of you (guaranteed they will be squirming in delight). Not only will this make you feel super sexy and confident but they are also essentially having a lesson in the sure fire way to get you off– which brings us to our next point.

Does your partner need a map around your hot spots but you’re not really sure which directions to give them? Masturbation is the perfect tour guide, enabling you to pass on your pearls of wisdom. Exploring your own body is a never-ending adventure in our eyes and letting someone else in on this journey is even more exciting.

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This tactic is especially great if your partner needs a little guidance in the way of your sexual pleasure and words are not your forté. If this is you and, to quote Ronan Keating, “you say it best, when you say nothing at all”; give your partner a V.I.P view and show them how you like it.

If you would like to make them feel like they have a bit more power than this, why not invest in a remote controlled vibe? This way, everyone’s involved. We-Vibe is a luxury brand that specialise in couples toys. They are so invested in ensuring that no one is feeling left out of masturbation by launching their latest toys that include vibes controlled by the smartphone apps on Android and iOS systems. They run in the background of your phone whilst you’re living your best life on Facetime. It’s music to our ears.

From whichever way you look at it, May only happens once a year. It’s the perfect excuse to make some time for your inner sex spirit. Let them out and enjoy!