Orgie’s Natural High: Hemp Seed Oil Lube

You wanted it – you got it!

Due to popular demand, we have searched high and low for our favourite hemp seed oil infused lubricant. Not only that, but we’ve gone and found an orgasm enhancer as well.

Wait…hemp oil in a sex product?

If you find yourself a tad bemused by this combo then simply read on to find out more. Perhaps, the Hemp Lube Tube could become your new slippery staple!

Scent and taste-free, the Orgie Hemp Lube feels smooth and lovely to use. As it’s a water-based formula, it’s suitable for use with all of your favourite toys as well. Just so you know though, the lube has a green tinge, which makes good sense when you think about it, but might raise an eyebrow or two when you squeezing some out and start applying to erotic areas…


If you want to switch things up a little bit more, there is also a hemp oil orgasmic gel to try.

Just one small squirt onto the intended intimate area (suitable for poons, peens and in-betweens) will deliver multiple lovely sensations such as tingling, heating, and cooling. By encouraging blood flow to the area, this increases sensitivity and stimulation, meaning that orgasms are about to get toe-curlingly intense. Yas please!

The orgasm gel also has a green tinge (we see a pattern here) and it has a slight taste; nothing unpleasant, but it does make your tongue fizzle a bit.

What is hemp seed oil?

Hemp seed oil is one of three categories of hemp oil, with the other two being hemp essential oil and CBD oil. All three are sourced from specific parts of the hemp plant, aka cannabis sativa. Although often confused for CBD oil, hemp seed oil differs in that it comes mainly from hemp seeds (hence the name). These seeds have significantly lower amounts of cannabinoids in comparison to any other part of the plant. This means that despite sharing a lot of the same vitamins, minerals, and natural acids as CBD oil, hemp seed oil won’t make you remotely high…so instead, we’ll leave that up to your partner.

What’s more, as long as the type of hemp oil comes from one of the 63 industrially approved hemp strains under EU law, then it is totally legal. These oils are classed as hemp when containing less than 0.2% of THC (the psychoactive cannabinoid) – if above this level then they are officially classed as cannabis and are illegal. So don’t worry, we are not about to get you arrested.


What are the benefits?

There are many widely recognised health benefits of hemp seeds. For one, they are nutritious – even more so than the favourites of numerous East London health stores: chia or flaxseeds. Specifically, they are mega-high in fatty acids and proteins and are considered to be a complete protein source, similar to quinoa. This means that they are packed with natural acids, such as amino acids. Altogether, hemp seeds are thought to boost your immune system and are better for you than a wide range of nuts and veg. Their high level of gamma-linolenic acid (GLA) has even been linked to aiding the physical and emotional symptoms of PMS and menopause due to the reaction between GLA’s production of prostaglandin E1 with the bodily hormone prolactin (it’s your body’s reaction to this hormone that causes such issues). This can reduce breast tenderness, plateauing moods and fluid retention amongst other symptoms.

A quick google and you can find numerous vitamins and minerals that hemp seeds are well endowed in.


What has all this nutritional information got to do with sex? Is Sh! converting into a wellness blog?

No, we are not. But, these benefits do mean a great deal for your downstairs sex demons – vaginas especially. The amino acids that are found both within hemp seed oil and the vagina are specialised to balance PH levels and avoid infection inside your intimate area. The less lubed-up your vaginal walls are during any sort of penetrative play, the more likely you are to contract a yeast infection, a UTI or to irritate the skin with fissures – causing a breeding ground for bacteria and infection. The natural properties of hemp seed oil moisturise and soothe skin whilst being anti-inflammatory.

But what about oral play?

The above rules still apply; the more slippery your sex is, the more fun it’s going to be! Adding lube is a great way of ensuring all areas feel moist and lovely. You might think that saliva is enough and sometimes it is; however, we often find that a few drops of lube make things even smoother and if fingers are being inserted into orifices then lube is – in our opinion – essential.

Happy Hemping, people!

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Different Ways To Enjoy Lube

When it comes to having great sex, lube just doesn’t get the recognition that it deserves. Old-fashioned thinking will have us believe that as long as a woman is properly turned on, she should produce enough love juices to coat every manhood in the neighbourhood.

Not so, friendlies!

There are many reasons why a vagina might be feeling dry or uncomfortable, and most of them have nothing to do with arousal. Perhaps it’s down to dehydration, tiredness, hormones or medication. Or, maybe she’d been enjoying a particularly long sesh and the well has finally run dry, so to speak… It is possible to feel incredible turned on and ready, but the vag may still be bone dry. It’s just one of those things.

Lube can make such a huge different to your pleasure, and it’s not just for penetrative pleasures (another myth).

If you haven’t yet discovered the benefits of using lube during play, read on for some of our recommendations about how it can be easily incorporated into sexy activities.

Lube is a great addition to masturbation

Have you ever considered adding some slick lube to your menage a moi sessions? Dry skin is common during the winter so if you are using your hands, a good lube will reduce the friction and make it a much more pleasurable experience. Lube makes your juice parts slip-slidey  and will often enhances sensations.

And if you want to amp up the heat even more, check out our range of vibrators.

Use a drop of lube inside condoms

If you’re tired of hearing dudes complain about how condoms ruin sex, try squeezing a couple of drops of condom-safe lube inside the rubber before you slip it over his peen. The added moisture helps him feel more if he’s missing the wetness of your lush love-box. Great for ensuring that sex is both pleasurable and safe at the same time!

Add flavour to oral sex

Who doesn’t love oral sex? It’s a tasty treat for everyone involved, and a soft tongue licking & lapping builds up arousal in no time! A glycerine-free flavoured lube is perfect for this, and we recommend giving the banana-flavoured Frutopia ID lubricant a go; it’s a firm favourite with guests at our classes.

Don’t just reserve it for oral sex though, why not use some lube on your nipples during sex to increase sensitivity?

Use lube for sensual massages

There is nothing sexier than the physical touch and a hybrid lube (water-based lube with a dash of silicone to make it smoother and more long-lasting) can be used all over the body for long, slow massages

Stat at the top and work you way down and around their body. For an explosive finale, add a generous amount of lube to your juicy parts and rub, bump & grind together without any kind of penetration – this is effective for creating both intimacy and intense orgasms.

Always use lube for anal play

This is probably the most obvious uses for lube and if you are interested in trying anal sex for the first time, we recommend getting yourself a handy pump-bottle because you’ll need a fair bit of the slippy stuff. Pure Plus anal lube is extra thick and long-lasting, ensuring the delicate membranes of the tush are protected during all finger, toy & penis-play.



How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

During the process of writing this post we have researched as much as possible about the topic to give a constructive and informed opinion. What we have found is that the little scientific research that has been conducted on female ejaculation is highly contradictory and really inconclusive. Scientists keep arguing, speculating or drawing conclusions based on extremely small case studies (i.e. the French study on female ejaculation  is based on the experiences of only 7 women!).

We are not scientists and whilst there are truly still many ‘myths’ left to solve, here’s what we can gather.

Firstly, let’s clear the air.

Squirting is NOT a must. Porn has created a culture of unrealistic gushing and moaning; of women screaming to the top of their lungs and squirting bucketfuls to their heart’s content.
noa_contents_deep_roseLife disclosure: You can have amazing, mind-blowing sex, not squirt and it will still be amazing, mind-blowing sex. Multi and blended orgasms, BDSM, bum-fun, sexy massages, toys of all shapes and sizes or just good ol’ loving sex are just some of the things you can do to widen your sex experiences and sexuality. Squirting is fantastic because it comes with G-Spot orgasms, releasing more or less fluid is actually just a side-effect!

So before we enter the slippery slope of squirting – breathe and take that stress off your and/or your partner’s shoulders.

So, what is Squirting?

Squirting is the release of fluid coming out of the urethra during orgasm. The quantities may vary from person to person and there is no wrong answer to how much fluid one must release to be considered squirting.
What is this magical fluid you may ask? Well, here’s where it get’s tricky and where there is no definite answer. *cough…sexism…cough*
The ‘main ingredients’ seem to vary between these two:
1. Alkaline liquid from the Skene’s glands (which is the female equivalent of the prostate) made of similar components of those produced by the male prostate, along with glucose and fructose.
2. Traces of urine

The quantity of how much of these two are in this fluid has rattled many cages and it is still inconclusive *cough…sexism…cough*. But honestly…so what if it is made of urine? Understand that whatever it is made of, it is a natural way of the body to respond to stimulation.  So as long as you are having safe, consensual sex… just enjoy it! If you are having trouble with your partner due to embarrassment, this is the time to reclaim that empowerment.

Sex is messy and fun and that is just fine! 😀

Then… what is that other fluid I release when I have sex? Is that Squirting?

Those of us with female reproductive organs release many-a-fluids when playing with ourselves, a fun-buddy or partner. One of them is natural lubrication when aroused – the more arousal, the more lubrication. So if you feel you are releasing a lot of fluids, odds are your body is just having tons of fun lubricating itself. You can however feel very aroused and not lubricate – that’s also fine!IMG_5499
There are all kinds of lubes to help, we recommend our water-based lube, odourless and tasteless it is a perfect gal pal if you want some extra lubrication.

Will I be ever able to squirt?

There is no one secret way of making someone squirt. We all have different bodies that may require different attention. And, as always, your mental state (whether just had a bad day and are very stressed or very relaxed) also plays a big part in your sexual experience.

There is also a lot of debate on whether all or only some women can squirt: so if squirting is like riding a bicycle or being able to touch your nose with your tongue. And again, many may debates and no real conclusion (*cough…you-know-how-it-goes…cough*), but if you want to know whether you can squirt there is only one way to figure it out – and it’s loads of fun.

How to squirt

With that in mind, there is a correlation between the G-Spot and squirting. gspot-300x258The G-Spot is located close to the entrance of the vagina, about half a finger in and up on the front wall. Have a feel with a lubed-up finger – the ridged area is the G-spot. Some are harder to locate than others, so if you don’t find yours in a jiff don’t stress, it might take some exploring. The G-Spot also swells when you are aroused, so that might also be a good time to try and find it, this time it will feel like a spongy lump. Found it? Smashing!

The G-Spot needs a lot of stimulation, and exercising your PC muscle or “kegels” will help in sensitising your G-Spot and having stronger penetrative orgasms.

Here’s when the love balls come in (pun intended). These are small body-safe and usually silicon-made balls to insert into your vagina. They are made to be easily inserted and removed, so not to worry about ‘losing them’. Try stopping your pee half way when you are urinating: that “pulling up” movement is done by your PC muscle.
sh-love-ballsSh! love balls are hypoallergenic and contain no latex or phthalates, they are non-porous and super easy to clean, but the Fun Factory Smartballs Uno or Duo Geisha Love Balls also have 5 star reviews from customers, so take your pick 😉 One you have them inside you just repeat that “pulling up” movement. You can start slow trying it out a few times and raise the number of “pulling up” movement as you progress.

rocks-off-rock-chick-miniNow, to the G-Spot. Reaching to it can be tricky if you are alone, in which case using a sex toy is helpful. For first timers, the Rocks-Off Rock Chick Mini vibe is affordable, powerful and it doesn’t forget about the wondrous clit! Once you’ve located it, regardless if you’re using a sex toy or fingers a classic tip is to try a “come hither” motion.

If you’re more of an expert and want to get to the next level, the Demona Wave Vibe is the best friend of toy reviewers Candy Snatch and Miss Jezzebella as well as our own sex toy tester.

Try it by yourself or a partner and whatever happens, relax and enjoy a wet Valentine’s 😀



Vegan Sex Toys

Vegan Sex Toys

Vegans around the world come together to celebrate World Vegan Day on November 1st and this year, we’re joining in.  Vegan diets, that is meat & dairy-free diets, are often hailed as key to eternal youth, with younger looking skin and increased energy just a couple of the benefits from avoiding animal-derived ingredients.

Going vegan is easier than ever; the common green V logo will help you spot whether edible products are suitable for vegetarians and vegans. Veganism is now becoming increasingly mainstream with bars & restaurants highlighting vegan options on menus.

Choosing vegan-friendly lubricants and sex toys can be a little trickier – it’s difficult to know what’s what without resorting to trusted Uncle Google. But – we’re here to help!

Vegan Lubricants

Using lube is a quick, fun and sexy way to enhance sensations and pleasure during all sex play. All you need to do is squirt a little bit on your fingers – and you are ready to go to town! A little bit often goes a long way, and if you are using silicone sex toys we advise to always choose water-based versions.


Our Vegan go-to lubes are made by Sliquid. Choose between a natural, clean lube, yummy flavoured lubes for tasty oral sex or their thicker, long-lasting lube for anal play. If you are feeling extra adventurous, there is even a Sliquid Warming Lube to choose from!

Sliquid lubes are certified 100% vegan, so you can relax in the knowledge that the lube you are using did not harm any animals. They are also glycerin-free, paraben-free, hypoallergenic and non-toxic – everything we want from a lube!

Vegan Enhancing Gels

Intimate Organics Enhancing Gels are 100% Vegan, like this clitoral pleasure gel.  The gel is very easy to use: simply massage a small amount of gel into the tissue around the clitoral area and enjoy the increased blood flow to the genitals. This can have a fantastic effect on your ability to reach climax – faster, harder, more!

Crafted with organic extracts carefully harvested to optimise pleasure and safety, Intimate Organics products are very popular with both vegan and non-vegan customers in our shop.

Vegan Sensual Massage Candles

These edible heart-shaped massage candles are 100% Vegan and designed for all of you who love nothing better than relaxing under the capable hands of a lover of an evening. Four things in one tin (candle, massage oil, moisturizer and tasty treat!), these candles come in a choice of five delicious flavours and the all-natural, food grade quality skin oils are lickable for extra fun.

Light the candle as you would a normal candle (although don’t try this sensual use of a candle with standard candles as they’ll burn delicate skin…). Relax and enjoy the heady scent whilst the wax melts into warm oil. Drizzle the oil onto your lover’s skin and massage with long, slow and strong movements. Bliss!

Vegan Strap-On Harness Play

Whilst our bestsellig harnesses are hand crafted out of soft leather, we understand that this is not an option for every one. Many go vegan, and stay vegan, in an effort to prevent the exploitation of animals and therefor choose to not wear leather. With this in mind, we offer a range of handmade rubber harnesses for strap-on harness play.

We have three sexy styles to choose from,  Rubber Deluxe HarnessRubber Classic Harness and Rubber Corset Harness.


The rubber harnesses are available in sizes Small, Medium and Large, but our team are able to make to order strap-on harnesses with longer straps, should you need it.

The Sh! Rubber Harnesses are available in our Hoxton store and also online. Each harness comes with a 1 year guarantee but if you look after it properly, you’ll have fun with your strap-on for years to come!

Now, wearing a harness is lots of fun – but we promise it’ll be so much more fun with a dildo in it!

Our collection of beautiful silicone dildos are handmade at our studio right here in London. Available in over 30 different ergonomic shapes and sizes, each one is lovingly hand-poured in a variety of colours. Black, purple, blue or pink – or why not one in each colour! With so many to choose from, it’s hard to pick just one…


Vegan Kink

Vegan kink is just as kinky as any other kink – just enjoyed with products that are safe and cruelty-free. We have a range of beautiful rubber bondage online and in our shop in East London. Each piece is carefully handmade and finished to an exquisite standard.

Take this stunning Rubber Princess Bondage Set for example – a dainty set for the submissive Princess in your life.  Or if your sub is less of a Princess and more of a handful, a sturdy Rubber Bondage Collar might be just the thing…

classic-tawse-rubberEither way, if they misbehave you may need to punish them in style and a Classic Rubber Tawse lets you do just that! This hand-sized rubber paddle offers a rosy glow and smarting sensations – perfect for teaching your naughty sub a lesson.

Split into four fingers and double-layered, the two layers slap together to make satisfying ‘thwack’. The rubber is 3mm thick, strong, flexible and very easy to keep clean.  Top quality paddle, ethically-produced and with a one year guarantee!

We should also point out that you don’t have to be Vegan to enjoy all of these products – they work just as well for those of you who are not so keen on veg. After all, an orgasm tastes just as good whatever you had for dinner!






An Eco Guide to Sex and Toys

An Eco Guide to Sex and Toys

The 5th of June is World Environment Day, we’ve recently had a few enquiries about sustainability, sex toys and the environment so we wanted to write a quick guide to some environmentally friendly sex.


Sliquid is a certified Organic 100% Vegan-Friendly personal lubricant. It’s made with natural, botanical ingredients and is Ph-neutral, glycerin-free, paraben-free, hypoallergenic and non-toxic

In short if you’re looking for lube that is gentle on your body and gentle on the environment Sliquid is for you.


Sh! Handmade in Londoncp6_mpur_1

All our own brand dildos, leather and rubber goods are handmade by Sh! in London. This means you know that they have a low carbon
footprint and weren’t made in any nasty sweatshops. All of the packaging is also completely recyclable, they are also phthalate free and non-porous like all our toys. A lot of cheap toys are made in China, which can be less safe for you as well as adding miles to your carbon footprint.


We Vibe – Good Vibrations

The We-Vibe II and We-Vibe 4 Plus (which you can win in thiswe-vibe-4-plus4
month’s competition) are both made using carbon-neutral manufacturing and are USB-rechargeable. They are also made from medical grade silicone making them body safe and hypoallergenic. They are also amazing top quality toys, perfect for you and the environment. The We-Vibe 4 Plus comes with a smartphone app that lets you play from anywhere in the world, for the technophile, sex positive, eco warrior.


Vegan Condeb-massage-candlesoms

In addition to being latex free Pasante Unique Condoms are vegan. Many  latex condoms contain casein, which is a product made from milk. So if you’re looking for an easy vegan option latex free condoms are a good place to start looking.

We also sell vegan candles that melt into an edible massage oil, if you’re looking to set the mood for your evening of ethical sex.



Glass is a sustainable, fully recyclable material that also makes for great, safe sex toys. Glass is made from an abundant natural resource and toys made from glass are phthalate free and non porous. Sh! sells a fabulous range of beautiful glass toys that, properly looked after, could last you a lifetime.


If you have any questions about sustainable, vegan or low carbon sex toys please contact us at advice@sh-womenstore.com or on Twitter @shwomenstore.



Q&A: Lube for Pregnancy & Diabetes

Hello Ladies,

I have a few questions about lube I hope you can help me with: 

1. What kind of lubricant should I use during pregnancy? And why would some lubricants be suitable and others not?

2. Lubricants for people with diabetes – I’ve heard some lubricants contain sugar? 

3. Can sex toys cause cystitis? What are the safest practices for people affected by this condition?

Can you help me out?


(Names Have Been Changed for the Purposes of Anonymity)

Hi Laura,

Many thanks for your email – these are all excellent questions and we think a lot of people will be interested in finding out more about lubes.

Generally, use of lubricants is not harmful to either parent or child, and we have a selection of good waterbased lubes to choose from.. During some stages of pregnancy, lubricant can also help enhance pleasure and alleviate any dryness caused by over-active hormones. (Although many women find they do not need lube during pregnancy as the body will naturally produce a lot of extra lubrication.)

Products with mild formulations are much better for the skin as pregnancy can cause hypersensitivity to certain ingredients that may have previously caused no problem.

Lubes with glycerine/sugars, parabens and fragrances should be avoided. These ingredients can be irritating at the best of times, but as pregnant women are more prone to yeast infections and UTI’s, we recommend giving them a (wide) berth.

Silicone-based lubricants are not generally recommended as they are not water soluble, and could cause bacteria to collect inside the vagina and, over time, cause infections.

Also avoid lubricants with additives designed to enhance pleasure, like warming or tingling lubes – they may cause unpleasant side effects when/if your vagina is extra sensitive.

Products containing L-arginine, Lidocane, Capsicum, and Menthol are not advised for use during pregnancy. This is because they could cause irritation to extra-sensitive pregnant skin and there is not enough research into the effects of topical use of these ingredients on expecting mothers. Using these products could carry possible health risks to both mother and baby. It is always best for mum-to-be to get advice from their GP about these ingredients.

List of lubes suitable during pregnancy:

Vegan-Friendly Lubes

sliquid vegan organic lubeFor a product to be classified as vegan, it needs to not contain any ingredients derived from animals or from animal by-products. They must be safe to ingest, contain no hormones and not be tested on animals. Currently, the products we stock that are Vegan-friendly (no animal products, synthetic alternatives, and vegetable glycerine) are as follows:

Lubes Suitable for People with Diabetes

When it comes to diabetes some flavoured lubes do contain sugar, so it’s best to avoid those for oral sex. Glycerin, which is a common ingredient in many lubricants, is a form of sugar but not one that will be processed by your body or raise your blood sugar. Still, diabetes can make you more prone to cystitis because it raises the sugar levels of your urine making a happy breeding ground for bacteria – so you might want to avoid putting any kind of sugar in your vagina as it could increase your chances of getting yeast infections.

Lube and Cystitis

Cystitis is also known as the “honeymoon disease” – it is very common to experience an unpleasant bout of cystitis after an intense sex session, especially if there hasn’t been any sexual activity for a while. The friction of sex can be a little too much for the sensitive urethra, and bacteria may make their way into the bladder. Make sure to always go for a pee after sex, this will help keep urethra and bladder as happy as can be.

Try positions that cause little or no friction on the urethra, and use a good lube to ensure no unnecessary rubbing of a sensitive area.

Sh! Toy CleanerAs far as avoiding cystitis in general goes, the important thing is to clean your toys. You can use something like Sh! toy cleaner to make the process of cleaning your favourite toys easy peasy – spritz it on, rinse off and leave your toy to air dry (it’s better to let your toys air dry as towels or tissues can leave behind tiny particles). Or, use antibacterial hand soap and warm water but be careful with toys that aren’t waterproof.

Sh! own brand dildos can also be sterilised by boiling them in a pan for three minutes (just remember to remove the vibrating bullet, if you have a vibrating dildo) or putting them through the dishwasher.  Then store them somewhere clean and fluff-free.

Avoid swapping toys between partners without cleaning in between (or cover with condoms for easy clean-up mid-session), and never go from back to front without washing your vibe/dildo in-between. The anus is full of bacteria that you won’t want in your vagina – this is often an excellent way of inadvertently giving oneself an infection.

Also, as an added bonus to your questions, we’d like to add some information about pregnancy and massage oils.

We all agree massages are lovely, but when it comes to products created for body massage for pregnant women it is very important that anything containing essential oils is not used. The reason for this is that some compounds in certain essential oils actually have hormone-like behaviours (because of their molecular structure). Another risk is that some have an emmenagogue (em·men·a·gogue) action when taken orally or applied onto the body (these are herbs that stimulate blood flow in the pelvic area and uterus). They are traditionally used to help to promote and regulate menstrual flow (periods), and so should be avoided during pregnancy.

Use of essential oils, ultimately, can cause birth defects or can start premature labour (intrauterine contractions) resulting in miscarriage.

Massage CandleFrequent use of almond oil in pregnancy is linked to an increased risk of premature birth. Almond oil is the main component of many massage oils as it is a basic carrier oil for other essential oils.

The range Earthly Body massage candles are safe for use when pregnant – AND they are vegan-friendly too!

Hope that helps as a comprehensive guide to health and lube!

If you have any questions about health, toys, sex or relationships email us at advice@sh-womenstore.com


Team Sh! xx






All We Want For Christmas – Kate’s Wishlist

All We Want For Christmas – Kate’s Wishlist

Dive into this hilarious yet super informative wish list by Kate: what would she  want to fill your and her own stocking with? She works in our lovely Hoxton shop,  so she is bound to have some fun ideas.

1. Sh! Silicone Love Balls

I am absolutely convinced that the first step to a fantastic sex life is a healthy and strong Va Va Jay! Kegel exercises are not only essential to a powerful orgasm, or squeezing your partner into oblivion, they also prevent many health issues, such as a weak bladder, while lowering your risk of pelvic cancer. That’s why I would like to obtain a whole truck of these purple darlings and give them away for free to every woman passing through Hoxton Square. It would be my gift to the wonderful women of London; I secretly believe that London is a troubled but dashing and fabulous girl.

2. Sh! Remote Play Egg

My sister recently became a yummy mummy. I know that she would like to get her mojo back, as it got lost between nappies, pacifiers and the nightmare of teething. This tiny, but powerful toy is a discreet and hands-free solution whenever you are in need of some extra quiet naughtiness. She just has to grab the remote and enjoy full control over the vibrations, which she can stop without a fuss and whenever she (or the crying baby) needs to – or she just can give up all control and pass the remote to her hubby!

3. The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 by Joan Price

My mum is a beautiful, lively woman, but I think she needs a little encouragement to unleash her cougar power. This book is a full-on guide which will inspire her to find new ways to enjoy her sexual potential. Right now it’s her special time, when she can focus on exploring her sexual world without any distractions. Find it in the shop!

4. She Comes First by Ian Kerner PhD

No matter who you are or who you date – girls, boys or other fabulous creatures – this empowering guide to cunnilingus will not only let you understand better the complex miracle of every clitoris, it will allow you to communicate better, come better and lick better. And if you ‘re single, I would recommend starting first date sexy chit-chat with one question: “Did you read, She Comes First?” If the answer is no, you can call the cab.

5. Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo (in marble pink)

I am a big fan of genderless and fully inclusive sex toys. When I am buying a dildo I don’t want to think about future potential partners, I want the ultimate pleasure deal – something sexy and multifunctional. That’s why this bendy, cheeky little fella is everything I could ask for from Santa. Not too long for vaginal play, with soft ridges that could easily slide on the g-spot; not
too girthy for bum play and long enough to reach the male prostate. Hand poured, with a unique blend of two shades of deliciously soft silicone. And it’s pink. It will fill my Christmas stocking just right.

6. Sh! Lube Liquid (250 ml)

A whole bucket of it. I am addicted to its smooth, silky texture. Extra safe for my lady garden, as it is water based, with an extra splash of glycerine that will prevent water from evaporating; so it’s not getting sticky when things are getting really hot. Oh, and it’s a great hand moisturiser. Seriously.

anal lubricant advice

Water-based Lube

Keeping a bottle of lube by your bed is liberating, taking away worries about not being wet enough and adding a delicious slide to any ride.

Water-based lubricant is a great all round lube for all kinds of sex play.

Easy to wash from your body (and bedsheets!) and offering a variety of textures; light, slick, silky rich or thick, there’s a water-based lube for everybody, even the most sensitive of souls.

Water-based lubricant is the most widely available and used lubricant for sex in the world.

Lush Lubricant £10
Lush Lubricant £10

Whichever water-based lube you choose, it will share the same following characteristics:

  • All water-based lubricant is totally safe to use with condoms and other latex barriers.
  • Water-based lube is easier to wash from your body and bedclothes than silicone lube.


Got an itch in your ditch after a roll in the hay?

Is your lubricant to blame?

If you are prone to yeast infections like thrush, avoid lubricant that contains glycerin. Glycerin is a form of sugar, and thrush thrives on sugar.

It’s unlikely that a personal lubricant will actually give you thrush, but it can help create world it would like to visit.

It could be that you are allergic to one of the ingredients in your lubricant. A common lube ingredient that can cause an allergic reaction is the paraben preservative.

Lush Pure Lubricant £10
Lush Pure Lubricant £10

We have two own-brand paraben-free lubricants; Lush Pure and Lush Pure Plus


anal lubricant advice

Silicone Lube Lowdown

Silicone (sometimes spelled silicon) lubricant is very long lasting and doesn’t dry out – there’s none of the gloopyness or sticky residue that you can get with some water-based lube.


Lush Silicone Lube £10

Silicone lube fees like light baby oil* but with one difference; is is safe to use with condoms.

( *never raid your bathroom cabinet for added lubrication – many products contain mineral-based oil which will upset the delicate balance of the vagina)

A little goes a long way; a few drops is all you need, which is why silicone is a  good lube-choice when super lubrication is required: anal sex, shower/bath/jacuzzi sex (thou’ the oiliness of silicone can make surfaces slippery so be careful not to slip!) and marathon sex sessions.

If you’re looking for a lube to play with sex toys (and you should, because lube makes all sex toy play even better!) don’t choose silicone lube for a  silicone toy as, over time,  it can damage the surface of your sex toy.

Silicone lube  can be difficult to wash off, whether from your body, clothing or bedding – this is not a lubricant for squirting with abandon!



There’s lots of conflicting opinion on whether a silicone lube is a good choice for an “everyday” vaginal lubricant.

Some say it’s actually better than a water-based lubricant as it won’t typically cause an allergic reaction or skin irritation, whereas ingredients in some water-based lubricant (ie parabens or glycerin) can cause allergic reactions/create a haven for yeast infections.

[NB: We stock our own water-based paraben-free lube]


But here’s the thing:

Because silicone is water-resistant, this lubricant won’t flush out of the body as easily or quickly as a water-based lubricant.

The vagina is a self-cleaning organ; coat it in oil (albeit a safe one) and surely this will inhibit its ability to self-cleanse and keep itself healthy?

Some of Team Sh! love silicone lube, some don’t and we’re in a bit of a quandary about how best to advise around using silicone lube as an everyday lube.

We’d love YOUR feedback!

Advice Anal Play & Pleasure

Enhancing Anal Play and Pleasure

Before you get down to some really pleasurable anal play, there are a few things to think about, so here we’ll take you through what you may need to stock up on before heading in through the back door…

Lubricant is essential to ensure ALL your anal play is pleasurable

Lube is the most important thing when it comes to a pleasurable anal experience – a necessity.  The anal canal isn’t self-lubricating, meaning that the necessary moisture needs to be added – by you.

Many customers come to us, asking if anal play “has” to hurt, and we always give the same answer: anal play should not be painful at all. It should only be pleasurable.

When asking these customers, we usually find they all have one thing in common: they don’t use lube. (dry friction – no wonder it hurts, peeps!)

Lashings of lube will make all anal pleasure, with or without toys  so much more comfortable and sensual. It also ensures that everything stays nicely slidey, throughout the long, slow journey of anal arousal (if you’re going too fast, no wonder it hurts peeps!)

Here, we have two options for you:

Silicone Lube is slick and long-lasting for the slow pace of arousing anal play....
Silicone Lube is slick and long-lasting for the slow pace of arousing anal play….

Silicone lubricant for anal play

Silicone-based lube is great for skin-on-skin play; when you use fingers or a penis, or if you use sex toys made from glassplastic, or steel. It is slick and long-lasting, and a little goes a long, long way…

Silicone lube is also perfect for anal play in the bath or shower – which is a good place for beginners to anal sex to start their journey as many people are hesitant around ‘feeling clean’.  Water will wash away regular lube.

It’s worth noting that silicone-based lube could damage the surface of any silicone toys you may have, so we recommend covering these toys with condoms if you opt for silicone lube.

Sh! Pure Plus (£10) Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant
Sh! Pure Plus (£10) Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant

Water-based lubricant for anal play

Choose a thick, viscous water-based lube for anal play

The thicker, the better! It will coat fingers, penises and toys much better than runny versions.

Customers often ask how much lube they should add, and our reply is always this: Add as much as you think. Then add a bit more!

Water-based lubes are very body-friendly, and work well with any toys  you have. Water-based lube evaporates/sinks into the skin, so you’ll have to reapply, or reactivate your lube with a  couple of drops of water or saliva, which works just as well.


A word about anal enhancers and why you should never use anal numbing products…

Intimate Organics Anal Relaxant £18
Intimate Organics Anal Relaxant £18

Here at Sh!, we do not sell any products designed to numb the anal area.

We have many customers asking for these (it’s that old ‘anal sex always hurts’ myth again!) but we always explain why using anal numbing creams or sprays could actually be harmful.

The anal canal is very delicate and the skin there easily torn.  Pain is your body’s  way of staying ‘stop’ or ‘slow down’. If you have numbed your body (with a special numbing product, or with alcohol or drugs) you will be unaware of being hurt. Staying present and in-tune with your body’s sensations is the only way to safely enjoy anal sex.

What we offer instead, are anal enhancing sprays, which are naturally formulated to relax the anus for easy penetration, whilst still keeping the bottoming partner fully aware of all sensations in their tush.


Pasante Extra Condoms (£7)
Pasante Extra Condoms (£7)

Using Condoms for Anal Play

Using condoms is a great way to take care of any hygiene-worries you may have. Also, a necessity, for safer-sex. .

Because of the delicate skin in the bum,  anal sex with an uncovered penis is the easiest transmission route of many STI’s. Pasante Extra, are specially created for anal sex; extra lube for friction-free moves and extra thick latex for a strong barrier.

Whether for safer-sex purposes or not, using condoms for anal sex makes clean-up a doddle:  just whip the condom off and dispose of. Easy peasy!



Using Latex Gloves for Anal Play – Turns fingers into smooth operators…

Black Latex Gloves
Black Latex Gloves £4 for 10

Using latex gloves for anal sex (or non-latex gloves, if you are allergic) not only easy, but also very sexy.

Snapping on a glove and drizzling some lube over your gloved-up fingers can be a hot image, raising anticipation of things to come..

It  can also add frisson to kinky medical role-play…

They also make a sexy barrier, if you are a bit squeamish about probing your partner’s tush…

Gloves are essential if you have long nails (long nails and delicate tushies don’t go together), nails that aren’t smooth (ouch!) or if you are concerned about hygiene (easy to whip off and dispose of).

If you have long nails, it’s a really good idea to pop some cotton wool into each finger of the glove  before putting it on. This will protect your nails – and your partner’s bum!

If you’re not keen on wearing  whole glove, you could easily cut the latex fingers off, and cover your own fingers with them – finger cots!


Using Dental Dams for Anal Oral Sex (aka Analingus or Rimming)

Latex Dam (£2) for anal oral sex, aka 'rimming'
Latex Dam (£2) for anal oral sex, aka ‘rimming’

Dams are squares of latex (also available in non-latex, if you are allergic) that you place over your partners bits to perform oral sex through. They are a barrier, much like condoms and can be used for vaginal as well as anal pleasure – though always  use a new dam, each time.

The offical word for anal oral sex is analingus, but it’s more commonly called  ‘rimming’.

Rimming is when you pleasure your partners anus with your lips and tongue. It may sound shocking to some, but the anus has tons of nerve-endings, just begging to be licked, kissed and touched, and this can be intensely pleasurable.

Drizzle a touch of lube on to your partner’s side of the dam before placing it over their anus – this will make your licking feel moist and sexy – just like your tongue!

So there’s the run-down on the essentials (lube!), as well as additions to pleasurable anal play, but if you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com and we’ll answer you.

We may also share Q&A’s so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you – promise!