Turn Up the Heat

Turn Up the Heat

With the weather yo-yoing like we don’t know what at the minute, we thought this a good time to answer some of our favourite customer queries concerning temperature play…

Why the flip would you put a heating setting on a dildo?

This in the same question we’ve been asked again and again in-store by customers when explaining this delightful function on our crowd-pleasing Zalo Queen vibrator. ‘How is heat going to help to prong my G-Spot up into somersaults? I thought it was all about positioning and tempo?’ Well, you’re not wrong but heat can go a long way when it comes to pleasuring your Grafenberg Spot (because, of course, this misunderstood mecca of female pleasure was named after it’s male “inventor”).

First of all, it draws blood to the area it’s making contact with. If that area happens to involve your clitoris gland in any way, which your Queen G no doubt is, that’s going to encourage swelling or state of arousal. All your attention is going to be centered directly upon this sweet spot. If you’re feeling a bit nippy – then it is the perfect ice-breaker. You don’t have to take its temperature hotter than your natural body. By doing this and stopping it at this point it aids your body’s relaxation.

But what if your toy has no heat setting? Glass and metal dildos are other great options are their compositions ensure that they will naturally adapt to match your body temperature.

What if I like to feel a hot sting?

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You are not alone. However, we would not suggest trying this internally. We stock candles that burn at body-safe candles that you can drip on bare skin to your heart’s content. The further away you hold the candle, the less hot the wax will be as it touches the skin. This is great to do on a blindfolded partner as depriving certain senses like this will cause their others to heighten. If you take your time with it you can actually watch them squirm in excited anticipation for whatever is about to happen.

If this isn’t for you then perhaps you want to try a colder sensation? But it’s so grey and cold outside already, we hear you complain. Don’t let the outdoors put you off – an ice cold blast can cause your hairs to prick up like no other. Plus, you can always warm up together beforehand to get the ball rolling. For instance…

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Why not have a hot bath with your lucky partner beforehand to warm things up? You can caress and massage each other to get your oxytocin flowing and prepare yourselves for what’s to come. Once you’re sufficiently steamed, move to wherever is comfortable and introduce some ice cubes into the mix. Or, if you want to taste something sweeter – why not sub in ice-lollies instead? These are perfect for teasing on the skin around your partner’s preferred erogenous zones and following shortly afterward with your tongue. It’s sticky, messy and delightfully fun. We would, however, recommend you keep these well away from genitals as the high sugar content of ice pops will most likely cause an unwanted bout of thrush.

How can I avoid cold, rough hands?

Cold weather is a beast of burden on many levels. You have to wear a million layers only to get anti-socially sweaty on the tube, for one.

Another – which can be particularly detrimental in the bedroom – is that the cold air and wind dries out the skin on your freezing hands. Regularly wearing gloves may be the obvious solution but we are thinking outside the box here.

So how can you get around rubbing borderline-emery boards on your most sensitive spots?

You could start by giving an oiled up massage either to your partner(s) or yourself. Rubbing the oil into your hands before massaging it into the skin will adjust your body temperature before shocking the lucky recipient.

Otherwise, use this cold temperature to your advantage in using your fingertips to tickle and dance around the skin first – the more goosebumps, the better. In using oil rather than a gel to use in your sensual massage, this will, of course, moisturise and hydrate the skin – getting rid of that damned coarseness!

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Another option if you’re going it alone and are feeling cold is to start hands-free. Drop a small drip of ON arousal oil onto your clitoris and open up your favourite erotica book. If you’re not into reading then get comfy, close your eyes and let your favourite fantasies take hold. When you feel ready to involve your hands start over clothes moving lightly however you like. A good water-based lube is also perfect for drier skin as it hydrates it when applied and creates a good protective layer between your hands and the sensitive area in question.

Black Latex Gloves (£4 for 10 pack)One last option that may not initially sound very sexy is that of rubber gloves. If your hands are particularly rough and perhaps you want to play around with some butt stuff, these are a really great alternative. They’re hygienic, smooth and gentle enough to the skin inside the anus, which is extra sensitive. We stock them in black latex and baby pink latex-free versions.

Non-Gendered Sexual Pleasure

Non-Gendered Sexual Pleasure

To mark 2019’s Transgender Day of Visibility we are celebrating all trans and non-binary folks by shining a light on non-gendered sexual pleasure. In other words, if you don’t feel particularly connected to your genitals and want to explore ways of getting around this when experiencing sexual pleasure then this blog is for you.

A prime example was first introduced to us back in 2015. This was the year that Buck Angel created a game changer in the sex toy industry with his Buck Off stroker, the world’s first toy for trans men. The slick black toy is a breath of fresh air in an ocean of pink bullets. It encourages users to feel more comfortable in their own skin when engaging in sexual activity.

This brilliant toy is only the tip of the iceberg. Read on to find out more tips and tricks to make the most out of your unique sexuality.

Erotica

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Often, the biggest hindrance of experiencing sexual pleasure is negative self-image. When the words “just relax” aggravate, there are measures you can take to have fun in actually distracting the mind. Erotica is a brilliant example of this. Allow yourself to escape into someone else’s story and immerse yourself in your fantasy scenario. Instead of focusing on yourself or seemingly perfect bodies in porn, why not close your eyes and truly let your imagination wander. If you don’t yet have a favourite author then perhaps first think about what roles you like to explore sexually and look at books that develop this perspective or fantasy.

Whether it’s spanking, threesomes, specific locations, couples’s play, classic or fetish literature you’re after – there is something for everyone. Perhaps, this will be all you need to take you away on your favourite sex dream. Otherwise, use it as a starting point to develop a better relationship with yourself as you enjoy your unique sexuality for what it is at whatever stage.

Let’s Get Nippy

Nipple play is one of the raunchiest parts of sex if you ask us. Whether it’s biting, pinching, blowing or sucking, fun with your nipples promises playfulness like no other. Dripping hot wax around areolae when their owner is blindfolded is delightfully naughty when the candle is specifically designed to burn no higher than at a body-safe temperature.

Grab a pinwheel or a feather and lightly trace it down the centre of their chest to below their belly button. Turn off just before the pubic bone to go around the hip and back up the waistline to the armpit (armpit play is SO sexy and if you don’t believe us then you haven’t tried it). Make your way to the areolae, licking it and blowing on the nipple. Do the same to the other side and your partner will be squirming in delight. Remember, when you shut off a sense, like sight with a blindfold, your other senses are at a heightened state of arousal.

If your partner dreams off nip nipping, ramp it up by twisting the nipple and pinching for different lengths of time. After cutting off the blood in this area, feeling it rushing back upon release of a pinch can be quite a saucy sensation. As long as you already know that your partner enjoys them, why not pick up a pair of nipple clamps? You can adjust the strength of the squeeze and continue with breath play. If there is extra tissue surrounding the nipples, i.e. breasts, and their owner enjoys their stimulation then don’t neglect them. A massage goes a long way – just make sure you start soft and listen to your partner’s cues as to their enjoyment of each action.

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You don’t necessarily need another person (or more) to enjoy nipple play. We like to encourage D-I-Y tactics whenever possible and this is most definitely possible. If you fancy giving it a go then get into your favourite sexy setting. Perhaps it involves sprawling across your freshly made bed or maybe it’s a candle-lit bath for one. Calm your mind by taking slow, deep breaths and imagine how you’d like your nipples played with. Start to tickle and caress your skin in your favourite erogenous spots – i.e. the places that turn you on. Start to massage the area around the areolae and take it slow to work your way to the nipple. You can pinch, stroke and twist as much as your heart’s desire. These nipple suction toys are a great idea for solo play or if you want to go hands free. Add a small splodge of lube before attaching onto nipples and then squeeze them to experiment with the sucking feeling.

Vibrating massagers are perfect for this kind of play. Those that are flatter (like a pebble) tend to be more versatile in their uses as you can use the shape experiment with what sensation you like best. For instance, using the tip to focalise specific points of pleasure can be alternated with using the flatter edge to press vibrations onto skin.

Tenga Eggs

Tenga eggs may be designed for penis owners but these toys are actually so versatile that genitalia-type proves irrelevant. Possibly the most obvious way to use a tenga egg is to squirt a healthy dollop of lube inside the egg, then slip it over the penis head with the ribbed side facing in and begin to stretch the egg up and down the penis as you masturbate.

Another option for those who may own a penis but don’t feel particularly connected to it could turn the egg inside out and slip it over their hand. Add lube to the outer side and rub the exposed ridges of the eggs around their genitals toward the prostate. This works in the same way for those who have labia and vulvae as they can stroke these regions with the egg turned inside out over a doxy wand for added vibrations.

If you prefer penetrative vaginal play, stretch the egg inside out over a dildo. You can then enjoy an added texture to your favourite toy, such as one of our hand-made dildos, which come in many shapes and sizes.  All block coloured dildos (as opposed to the marble effect we also create) are available with a Sh! bullet to insert inside. Please be aware that Tenga eggs when used in this way cannot and must not be used during any type of penetrative anal play…

…unless you fancy a trip to A&E as you’ve a missing egg inside of you, in which case we take zero liability. Soz.

Harnesses & Strap Ons

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Stepping into a harness has to be one of the most dominating, empowering experiences we can think of when in a sexual context. There’s nothing like a touch of cold leather (or rubber) to fiercen your mood. Our soft leather harnesses come complete with three hoops of various sizes to accommodate the size of your favourite dildo. Meanwhile, our hard leather and rubber come with large hoops. Whether you want buckles, corset-style or heavy duty, our harnesses are adjustable to your unique fit. If you’re a newbie to the harness/strap-on world then why not come to one of our fun workshops dedicated to this type of play? We break down all the usual hang ups and concerns involved, with our first point being how to actually introduce it into the bedroom and our second covering how to put one on without falling over.

Last Butt Not Least

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Due to the positioning of the G-spot and the prostate gland, anal play can be terrifically pleasurable, regardless of whichever you own. We recently wrote a piece on a beginner’s guide to anal play, demystifying all the in’s and out’s of bum fun if you find yourself a tad curious to try it out. The crux of the matter is to take it slowly with an extra generous serving of your favourite lube. If experimenting with a partner or two, ensure that everyone, especially the one on the receiving end, is happy and comfortable with what is happening. Your back door gate holds the key to an Aladdin-sized stash of sexual pleasure – if you fancy exploring it.

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Whip up a frenzy in the bedroom this January

Lovers of the creamy dairy product rejoice! Whipped Cream Day is arriving on the 5th of January this year, but there’s so much more you could be doing with this deliciously sweet treat than squirting it on to your leftover mince pies!

Ignore the advice never to play with your food; we’re really looking forward to getting sweet and sticky, and encouraging couples everywhere to get inventive with whipped cream to celebrate the day and embrace a little sexy food play.

But whenever you decide to bring food items into the bedroom for a midnight fleshy feast, there are a few do’s and don’ts that you’ll need to be aware of to make the experience one to remember for all of the right reasons.

Get down and dirty

Food play is fabulous fun, but it’s also pretty messy so expect to get yourselves and your bedsheets positively caked with whatever foodstuff you’re bringing into the bedroom. If you’re particular about your bed linen, then change the sheets to something you don’t mind getting messed up and make sure that you’ve got plenty of washing powder on hand to clean up the aftermath of fluids and food!

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Test your treats

If you’ve got sensitive skin, then it’s best to avoid sugary treats for your sensitive areas as they could cause itching and an unsightly rash once the throws of passion are over.

Vulva’s can be particularly sensitive to synthetic sugar alternatives, so keep it natural when it comes to your foodie sex play to avoid any discomfort later on.

Shoulders, nipples, and stomach are all erotic areas sensitive to touch, so try drizzling a bit of honey over the top half of your body and challenge your partner to lick you clean before being allowed lower down…

Food hygiene

You wouldn’t insert any kind of toy before giving it a good clean, so don’t do it with food either! Be 100% sure that your delicious foray into food sex doesn’t have any complications a few hours later and give anything that you’ll be using a good wash before bringing it into the bedroom.

We once had a customer mention that her juicy peach turned orange after intimately enjoying a carrot. To avoid this, we recommend slipping a condom over any fresh produce to be used, and you could make it even more fun by choosing ribbed or dotted prophylactics!

Hungry for more?

HandipopOnce you’ve tried your tastebuds on a few foodstuffs, feel free to experiment with other food sex play staples such as jelly and custard for some hot and cold sexy sensations, our Shiatsu body painting chocolate,  delicious Handipop edible hand job massage gel or even try a combination of all three for a buttock dessert buffet for some moreish moments.

Many of our customers have expressed an interest in trying out the grapefruit technique during fellatio, but please, please, please remember to pop a condom on the very sensitive penis before heading downtown for some fruity fun – acidic fruit juice down the urethra is few penis-owners’ idea of fun!

Dairy-free food for tasty sex play

Don’t let dairy intolerance get in the way of celebrations; these days you can get lactose-free products in most supermarkets and actually, they’re very tasty. Our favourite is Arla lacto-free products, a whole range of non-lactose foods to enjoy in or out of the bedroom.

The only limit is your imagination and what you’ve got in your fridge, so don’t be afraid to mix things up a little and take food out of the dining room and into the boudoir.

Happy Whipped Cream Day!

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The pleasure points you might not know about

We all know about the power of the clitoris when it comes to sexual pleasure for female-bodied peeps and the fact that most penis-owners get all tingly when you fondle with their balls, but what about the pleasure points that some of us are still in the dark about?

The human body is full of nerve endings, so naturally there are a lot of spots that respond well to touch.

Want to learn more about some of the pleasure points that you might not know about? Read on.

The Ears

Ever experienced someone nibbling on your ear and thought, that actually felt really good? That’s because the ears are crammed full of nerve endings, making them super sensitive to touch.

If you’re keen to get your partner off with some ear action, try kissing, licking and nibbling. You could even whisper some hot words into their ear and tell them what you’re planning to do to them later, trust us, they’ll appreciate this one!

The Mouth and Lips

We all know how important kissing is during the early stages of a relationship. Locking lips with your partner can help you to develop feelings of mutual trust and it doesn’t hurt that the lips are also a really sensitive part of the body for all genders.

To enhance the experience for both of you, get inventive and try sucking, licking and gently biting. Varying the pressure and feeling is a great way to build excitement, making it a great form of foreplay guaranteed to get you both in the mood.

The Neck

Fan of both giving and receiving love bites? If the answer’s yes, you’ll be glad to learn that the neck is one of the sexiest erogenous zones for most people, and any type of touching here tends to elicit positive responses.

Kissing the neck during sex is a great way to heighten intimacy, especially for women.

ostrich-featherIf you fancy upping the ante and getting a bit more inventive, invest in one of these Ostrich Feathers, which can help to increase excitement and feeling. Try tickling and stroking your partner’s neck with the feather and slowly make your way down the length of their body. End at the feet, which are also known to be extremely sensitive when it comes to touch…

 

 

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A guide to seduction and erotic play

As too many films and depictions of how sex ought to be would lead us to believe, no sexual encounter is complete without an erect body part going into an orifice. (Bah!)

Foreplay, touching, and teasing is all good and well, but it’s the penetration that matters, right?

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

There are so many ways that you and your partner can play together without any kind of penetration.

Whether you are in a committed relationship or are just keen to spice up your frequent and varied sex life, find out how you can seduce and be seduced without slipping a D into the V (or B).

Don’t forget to touch

With busy schedules and working lives to contend with, many of us rush sexy-time and forget about the fundamental act that is taking place. Any type of intimate scenario is all about two bodies coming together and enjoying one another, so why the rush? Let’s slow it down a bit…

Instead of having humpin’, bumpin’ sex, go back to basics and learn just how erotic touch can be. Using your mouth, start at the top and work your way down. If you want to add even more sizzle, try placing an ice cube in your mouth. This will increase sensation for your partner and ensure that they tune in and turn on.

Try massage

Massaging is a really intimate act because it involves one person paying close attention to another’s body. Include some of this Sensuous Massage Oil into the mix and you’ve got yourself a truly tantalising experience.

Before you get started, why not set the mood with the use of candles and music? It might also be a good idea to ask your partner where they’d most like to be massaged, as you don’t want to end up touching them somewhere that they’re not comfortable with.

The power of words

It’s amazing how much sexy talking is overlooked in the bedroom, especially given the fact that for many of us, it’s a massive turn on. It is also a great way to find out more about your partner and what they like.

Try laying down on the bed next to each other, but don’t touch. Instead, simply talk about what you would like to happen the next time you play. You could even reminisce about past sexual experiences that you’ve shared. Either way, talking about sex is a sure fire way to get both of your hearts racing!

 

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Guest Post: Ebony & Ivory

Who is ‘Ebony and Ivory’? 

We’re are a couple that work together as erotic massage therapists specialising in 4-handed massage for women, couple massage sessions and teaching people how to give a sensual massage. 
Jessica – (Ivory) is a highly qualified and experienced erotic bodyworker and somatic sexual educator. She has vast experience with people of all genders and orientations, her passion is to guide people to experience their full pleasure potential.
D (Ebony) is of African/American descent and hugely experienced in ancient East African sex practices including the art of female ejaculation (aKachabali)

 

What type of people book?

People who aren’t in a relationship and who want to receive sensual touch, relax and learn about their own pleasure, particularly people who are in-between relationships or are tired of the ‘dating games’ and still want intimate touch.
Also couples who want to learn about giving each other pleasure in a discrete, non-judgemental, sensual and fun environment.
Many of our clients lead busy, stressful lives – unfortunately, this is quite a regular occurrence these days. High stress levels, not enough sleep or being constantly distracted can lead to many people experiencing low libido and not putting self-care as a priority – this includes looking after your sexual self and making time for pleasure.

 

Why do people book?

Many women book a 4-hand sensual massage with us as they feel safe; we are a genuine couple, experienced and qualified.
For women who don’t have a partner, they come to relax and receive deeply sensual touch which connects them to their bodies especially during times when they may not be sexually active or have many opportunities for loving touch. 
We work with a lot of women who struggle to orgasm or are keen to learn to ejaculate after they learn about the benefits, and are curious to explore their bodies more without the dynamics of a partner relationship and its expectations. Many women first come to see us individually for a few sessions then bring their partners to either have a massage at the same time or have a tuition session where we teach them how to give each other a sensual massage. 
 

Where can people find you? How can I book?

Either book through the Ebony & Ivory website or via phone +44 7708 835756.
We’re offering all Sh! customers a special festive discount – 20% off any bookings made before 31st Jan 2018. 

 

We do in calls in a private studio apartment in East London, Londonfields or out calls as arranged. We also take bookings for private parties or festivals where people want to offer their guests sensual massage sessions.
 
Pleasure Island Parties are our regular sensual events that we host every couple of months in London and around the world, visit www.pleasureislandparties.com for more info. 
Q&A: I think my partner needs a longer toy? Suggestions?

Q&A: I think my partner needs a longer toy? Suggestions?

Hi

My woman partner enjoys having a vibrator as part of our love-making, but she needs an extra-long one, I think, for full satisfaction. Can you
recommend please? Ideally re-chargeable, not just battery-operated.

Thanks.

 T.

Hey T!

Although the clitoris and the G-Spot are reachable without a lot of length having a longer toy can be a great way to add in some A-Spot attention. 

Whereas the G-Spot is located only a couple of inches into the vagina, on the ‘front’ wall, the A-Spot is tucked away at the back.

It’s still on the anterior (front) wall but just a few inches further back. You should be able to feel a patch of spongy tissue above the cervix. Stimulating your A-Spot is great for a lot of reasons, as well as producing strong, G-Spot like orgasms it also really helps to increase lubrication. It’s a great pleasure zone to explore but bSilhouette S10 Flexible Vibeecause of it’s location it really is worth investing in a longer toy.

We have a few good options for a longer vibe:

You could try the Silhouette S10 which is incredibly flexible and
adaptable as well as being 100% waterproof and USB rechargeable. It’s a really versatile toy and has a full 8 inches of playable length.

There is also the Sh! Swell which we recently featured as a toy of the month, it’s a great rechargeable toy with deep throbbing vibrations
and 6″ of playable length.

It that doesn’t seem like enough Minna Life: Ola Touch Sensitive Vibrator has 7.5″ of playable length and features an innovative squeeze-control technology that really connects you to your partner. If you want something that also incorporates clitoral stimulation the Fun Factory Lady Bi Rechargeable Dual Vibrator has a playable length of 6.5 inches, specifically designed for A-Spot stimulation.

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There are also options like a long vibrating dildo, such as the Mistress Wirly Extra Long Vibrating Dildo which at 9 inches long, is more that you would ever need. There’s a vibrating bullet that slots into the base to provide added fun.

Whatever you pick make sure to use lube with your intended toy and consider checking out our A and U-Spot guides.

We hope this helps! If you have any other questions send them to us at advice@sh-womenstore.com. If you would like advice from Psychosexual Therapist Sarah Berry include the subject line ‘Ask Sarah’.

Best Wishes, Team Sh! xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity.

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

So it’s not quite a full alphabet but this is your complete guide to everything from your A-Spot to your U-Spot, taking in the clitoris, G-Spot and Nipple Orgasms on the way…

The A-Spot

What is it?

The A-Spot (aka ‘anterior fornix erogenous zone’/ ‘AFE zone ‘ ) is a located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper  wall, above your cervix, where the vagina begins to curve upwards.  That’s where the name comes from it’s your ‘anterior erogenous zone’. It’s been described as the ‘female degenerated prostate’ whatever exactly that means, but just think of it as a fun spot to explore. So basically it is right at the back of your vagina, beyond the G-Spt and above the cervix entrance. To explore, draw your legs in all the way and feel around a little, when you touch this spot you may feel an instant increase in lubrication along with possible  intense pleasure and contractions.

What do I do with it?

When touched the A-Spot can generate instant wetness, a session of A-Spot play can produce an orgasm that’s very similar to a G-Spot orgasm. If you have any problems with vaginal dryness this might be one to cultivate, as repeated stimulation is said to increase your levels of natural lubrication.

Toy of choice:

Because of where it’s situated the A-Spot can be a little hard to reach, unless you have long fingers. So we’d recommend using a long toy like this Swell vibrator (recently and enthusiastically reviewed by the lovely Emmeline Peaches). Try sitting with your legs pulled up against your body for maximum reach and full pleasure.

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The Clitoris

What is it?

Well we hope you know what your clitoris is but if you’re not quite sure here’s a quick catch up. The clitoris is your most sensitive erogenous zone, it sits underneath your clitoral hood at the top of the labia, but the clitoris is a bit like an iceberg, it also extends below the surface. The clitoris is made up of erectile tissue so it will swell when you’re aroused.

What do I do with it?

Whatever you like! You can stimulate your clit with your fingers, a vibrator or a willing partner. If you’re new to clitoral stimulation we’d suggest exploring with a finger and some lubricant to gauge what you enjoy. Some people prefer direct stimulation, whilst others find that off-putting or even de-sensitising  and prefer stimulation to the sides of the clit. Everyone will have different preferences and that will affect which toy is right for you.

Toy of Choice

Vibrators can be one of the easiest ways to achieve a clitoral orgasm and, in general, vibrators with a ”higher pitched” vibration make for better clitoral toys and those with a lower, heavier, deeper vibration are better for penetration.

If you’re not keen on direct stimulation, a rabbit vibrator that stimulates the sides of your clit and has a range of vibrations to explore could be a good choice. If you have difficulty achieving clitoral orgasms you might want to try a wand massager; a study in 2008 found that over 93% of a group of 500 women who struggled to orgasm achieved The Big O with a Wand and the Betty Dodson Method.

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The G-Spot

What is it?

Your G-Spot is probably the second most well known erogenous zone. It’s located a couple of inches inside your vagina on the anterior wall, so towards the front. If you feel around with a lubricated finger you should be able to locate a small patch that feels different in texture, slightly rougher than the smooth walls around it. It doesn’t feel like much now but once it’s swollen with arousal the G-Spot can deliver powerful orgasms.

What do I do with it?

We’d recommend being thoroughly aroused before you go near your G-Spot. Take as much time as you need to make sure you are thoroughly warmed up, you might also want to take a bathroom break before you settle down for some G-Spot exploration.

The same nerves that sends G-Spot sensations to the brain also sends messages from the bladder. For many women a G-Spot orgasm is accompanied by a pleasurable gush of liquid; sometimes enough to hit walls and soak the bed! This is called female ejaculation or ‘squirting’ and is not the same as urinating so don’t worry. But for peace of mind you might want to put a towel down and nip to the loo beforehand.

The G-Spot responds best to firm pressure, you can try applying pressure with two fingers or a toy. If you’re using your fingers try a firm ‘come here’ motion, you might want to try squatting or all fours, play around until you find a comfortable position. As always, remember to use lots of lube.

The G-Spot can also be a source of multiple orgasms, keep stimulating the G-Spot through your orgasm, then take a short, 20 second break, and resume stimulation. However, G-Spot orgasms can be hard work so, patience is key.

Toy of choice:

There are plenty of toys designed to stimulate your G-Spot, like a G-Spot Vibrator or to provide G-Spot and clitoral stimulation for the best of both worlds and maybe a ‘blended orgasm’. Something firm like a glass dildo can also work very well for the steady stimulation needed to achieve a G-Spot orgasm.

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Nipple Orgasms

What are they?

Apparently Nipple orgasms are the most common type of orgasm after clitoral, which might come (no pun intended) as a surprise, considering that the G-Spot orgasm is more widely known. Your nipples are jam packed with nerve endings, even if you don’t experience nipple orgasms this is another erogenous zone you can explore and enjoy.

What do I do with them?

This is another one that’s wide open. It’s up to you! Do what feels good is the mantra of today (and every day, especially National Orgasm Day).

A good way to demonstrate what kind of stimulation you enjoy can be to try it out on a partner, squeezing, stroking, nibbling or licking can all feel good. Oral stimulation might be the best way to experiment with your nipples orgasmic capabilities, starting with a light touch and moving up to firm sucking. Other than that, play, explore, enjoy!

Toy of Choice

It’s  not all nipple clamps, there are all kinds of teasing sensations to savor. If you would like to explore nipple clamps you could try a vibrating option with just a soft pinch, enough to awaken never endings and start building sensations.

You could also try nipple suckers for some gentle but exciting stimulation. Cups softly attach around the nipple and areolas for a subtle sucking sensation.

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The U-Spot

What is it?

This is another erogenous zone that you might not know much about. The U-Spot is located at the opening of the Urethra, that’s where the name comes from. Your urethra is where your pee comes out of. It’s located between your vaginal opening and the clitoris, towards the top. As always, get out some lube and have a feel around, this little spot fills with blood when you become aroused making it very sensitive to stimulation. It’s connected to a group of glands ‘Skene’s Glands’ that are thought to be similar to the male prostate and might be the source of ‘female ejaculation’, but more research is needed before we can say for sure.

What do I do with it?

Try exploring the area around your urethra with a lubed finger or a wet tongue. Stick to slow, delicate touches and find what feels good.

Toy of choice:

Here the best toy is a willing partner! The U-Spot responds best to a warm wet tongue although feel free to experiment with the content of your toy box and let us know the results!

Q&A: How do I have a prostate orgasm?

Q&A: How do I have a prostate orgasm?

Hey,

I know you’re female focused but I thought you might be able to help me. I’m interested in ‘exploring’ if that’s the right word, my prostate. It’s not something I’ve done before but the idea is growing on my I guess. I’d just like some advice on where to start and what to expect?

J.

Hey J!

This week is Men’s Health Week so we’re really happy to be able to answer one for the boys.

You sound a bit hesitant but it’s great that you’re looking to explore new things and prostate play can add a new dimension to your sex life. It can make your orgasms more intense and some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone.

The prostate is sometimes compared to the male G-Spot and it does have quite a lot in common with the G-Spot. Like the G-Spot it swells and hardens as you become aroused which makes it easier to find.

It can be stimulated by inserting a finger or toy two or three inches inside the anus, it’s important to go slowly, use lots of lube and stop and warm up some more if you feel any pain. You should also try using a specialist anal lubricant which will be thicker and longer lasting than regular lube.

You should make sure you are already aroused before going for the prostate, and again, if it hurts you’re doing it wrong. Add more stimulation and lubrication.

It might take quite a lot of time and stimulation (and a lot of lube, remember the anus isn’t self lubricating) to get you there so be patient.

Here’s a handy guide to show you where to find your prostate:

His Prostate

 

It might be a good idea to try a specially designed prostate toys such as Rocks-Off Naughty Boy Prostate Massager. Which is slim, almost silent and perfect for beginners, it also stimulates your perineum for even more pleasure. If you’re playing with a partner you might want to try using latex gloves or finger guards, they can prevent nails from snagging and help if you’re worried about cleanliness.

Rocks Off Prostate Massager

If you’d like to find our more you might want to look at the Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, which is a veritable compendium of useful information.

If you have any questions please send them to advice@sh-womenstore.com, if you’d like advice from our sex and relationship expert Sarah Berry please include the subject line ‘Ask Sarah’.

Best Wishes,

Team Sh! xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity.

The Ultimate U-Spot Guide

The Ultimate U-Spot Guide

Most people have heard of the G-spot, but have you heard of the U-spot? Or better yet, explored the swoony, possibly orgasmic,  sensations it may offer you?

Possibly not, as the U-Spot is still a relatively undiscovered female pleasure zone. It certainly doesn’t get top billing, like Clitoris and her co-star G-Spot, and yet the U-Spot could hold the key to you experiencing female ejaculation – the climatic release of liquid that can accompany and often signify a G-spot orgasm.

 

The U-spot is a small area of sensitive erectile tissue, rich in nerve-endings, that surrounds the urethra.

It’s presumably called U-Spot for ‘Urethra’ because looking straight on, it’s actually ‘n’-shaped extending from one side of the urethral opening ( the tiny hole you pee from) around the top (toward the clitoris) and over to the other side.

This tissue fills with blood when you become aroused, making the area even more sensitive and receptive to stimulation.

Extending from the front vaginal wall, around the urethra, all the way to the pubic bone, this spongy tissue contain a group of glands; Skene’s Glands – so named after the two glands identified by Scottish Gynaecologist, Alexander Skene in 1880,  but more  glands around the Urethra ( ‘paraurethral’) have been discovered since and there is still a LOT more of research to be done!

What is coming to light is these area/ group of glands appears to be very similar to the male prostate and this confirms what Dutch anatomist Regnier de Graaf  first described way back in 1672!

It’s believed it’s the Skene’s Glands that produce the liquid, chemically similar to semen, that we all know as female ejaculate ( even if some researchers believe is a myth and simply just pee!)

U-spot

How to stimulate the U-Spot

Lightly stimulating the area between the urethra and vaginal opening with a lubed-up finger or a warm, wet tongue can have explosive results…

Slow licks up and down, or round and round, makes for a nice warm up. Licking and teasing the area from the vaginal opening and up to the urethra, as well as grazing the clitoris “accidentally” every so often, feels great. If you want to try this, you should go slow and pay close attention to responses – avoid sensations becoming overwhelming with too much pressure or fast licking.

When she’s ready, slowly and lightly (it’s not a door bell so no firm pushing required) stroke, circle and pat the area with fingers covered in lube (dry fingers can feel rough).

Patting around and just under the urethra tends to work exceptionally well – she’ll feel the patting through to her G-spot. Magic!

Stimulation of the U-spot can potentially result in female ejaculation.

Despite (poorly researched) information from scientists declaring female ejaculation  a myth, this gush of fluid is very real and can absolutely happen. Just place a towel on the bed, and carry on exploring…