Research: Does Your Partner Experience pain During P-i-V Sex?

Pain during penis-in-vagina (p-i-v) sex has only received research attention in the last two decades. Within heterosexual relationships, most of this research has focused on women and whilst understanding women’s experiences is hugely important, sex is an interpersonal experience and much less is known about the experience of the male partners.

The aims of this research are to better understand how men make sense of and respond to their partner’s sexual pain; and to increase our knowledge of how men view pain during penetrative sex, how it influences the sexual relationship, the relationship in general and themselves individually.

The research will be used to inform therapeutic practice for both individuals and the couple and enhance support for anyone seeking help.

Participation in this study involves responding to an anonymous online survey.

In order to collect as many and varied opinions, thoughts and experiences as possible, the survey allows participants to answer the questions in their own words rather than ticking boxes.

To take part in this study, you must be:

  • Male
  • 18 or over
  • UK-resident
  • Be in or have been in, a relationship with a woman suffering from pain during penetration (or pain that prevented penetration). The relationship can be current or in the past. The pain must have been present for 6 months or more.

The survey takes about 30 minutes to complete, depending on how long your replies are. At the end of the survey, you’ll be invited to request more information about a potential follow up interview if you’d like to talk more about your replies. 

The survey can be directly accessed through the following link:

Confidentiality of all data will of course be rigorously maintained.

Who is the researcher?

Debbie Lovell is a psychology postgraduate student in the Department of Health and Social Sciences, University of the West of England, Bristol. She is completing this research for her Professional Doctorate in Counselling Psychology dissertation project, and the research is supervised by Dr Nikki Hayfield and Dr Zoe Thomas.


Oral pleasure for both partners: tips, toys and tricks for ‘coming together’

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Is there anything better than having a kiss on your lips or a smooch on your Johnson?

It’s oral, it’s orgasmic and it’s an opportunity to connect with your partner in an immensely intimate way. It can also be a source of frustration or dare we say it – boredom – if, as the giver, you feel overworked, under-appreciated or under-stimulated.


We decided to share a few tips and tricks to ensure that both of you are getting the best of this delightfully sensual situation.

Sharing is Caring

What you don’t want in a situation like this is an unequal relationship. If you love handing out oral left, right, and centre but cannot understand why your partner won’t reciprocate, then you need to have an open, non-judgemental chat with each other to find out what’s going wrong. If it’s something that’s out of their boundaries, then you need to respect that. If it’s sheer laziness, then you’re probably better off going solo with a lubed-up Fun Factory Volta vibrator or a Vertical Attack Vibrating Masturbator – depending on your genitalia.


This brings us onto our next point – you have to know what you want and how to get it. Without good communication, sending your partner on a trip to your southern star without any instructions is like watching a Houdini impersonator wrestle themselves free out of a straight jacket, whilst in a fish tank. It doesn’t have to be a step-by-step manual you are giving them, but rather the occasional encouraging gasp, groan or affirmation, or the invitation to move to the left, or right, harder or softer… If you find yourselves coming from completely different continents on this, then have an honest, yet careful, conversation afterward. Remember, it’s a sensitive subject to comment on someone’s sexual skills or tendencies and you don’t want to cause any lingering insecurities. Keep your words positive, with phrases like “I would love you to focus on my perineum more” or “Wouldn’t it be hot if you used your fingers too?”, rather than “I don’t like that you don’t ever do this”. This way, everyone is happy – and keen to experiment with their newly discovered hints and tricks.

Switch It Up

This should be needless to say but there’s more than one position to be experiencing oral in. Make like Freddie Mercury and have a go at Queen-ing (aka face-sitting). It’s powerful and crazy sexy for both parties, not to mention it’s a fab alternative if the giver has bad knees.

Another option is the ever-famous 69 position to ensure simultaneous pleasure for both parties. We could go on with these suggestions but you might as well look up a Kama Sutra instead.


Likewise, there’s not only one element to oral sex. You don’t need to go straight in with the tongue. Be creative and create a build up – you want your partner to really want it. Perhaps you could do an all over body massage and slowly work your way down. The more turned on they are, the more exciting it will be for you.

The award-winning Orgie have a number of products to take both oral sex and sensuous massages to the next level. Their Wow Warming Spray adds a minty flavour and a warming sensation to your usual oral experience, whilst their aphrodisiac massage set includes oil and a feather to tickle and tease. Yet another option could be their pearls lust massage set, which includes a massage gel, a thread of pearls and an instructions manual to show you how to get the most out of your sexy massaging beads.

The bigger the build up, the more impressive the crescendo will be.

Introduce Toys

One of the sexiest things about giving oral sex is that one person is in complete control of another person’s pleasure. This doesn’t mean however that only one person needs to be stimulated. We have a range of toys online and in our shop that are controlled by a remote device. Give your partner the remote whilst your mouth does the work, giving you some of the action at the same time…


For instance, the luxury sex-toy brand Lelo listened to the fact that male-bodies persons who experience prostate orgasm find them way more intense than the penis-kind, and created the remote-controlled Lelo Hugo. The prostate portion of the toy reaches up into their tush with perfectly formed proportions designed to radiate precise stimulation. Meanwhile, there is a second motor within the long base that tilts upwards to tantalize their perineum.

Similarly, the IJOY Remote Control Egg Vibrator is a great option for someone who owns a vagina. The silky, textured shell buzzes with over 10 functions and can be used clitorally or when inserted into the vagina. Again, this is controlled remotely so you can hand the reigns over to your partner for an extra thrill.

The We-Vibe Ditto is another option from a world-renowned brand and can be used by either gender. This silicone butt plug provides deep, rumbly waves of a blissfully anal utopia. It’s controlled by a we-connect app in a smartphone so the oral receiver can tap into 10 vibration modes for their lucky giver.

Finally, the last vibrating butt plug that is controlled remotely is suitable only for those more experienced in anal play (due to it’s larger size). This unique silicone toy contains rotating beads and, when lathered in lube, mimics the sensation of being rimmed…



‘Couples on the Couch’ – Couples Therapy on TV

Couples on the Couch is an innovative new series for BBC Three, following real-life couples as they bring their genuine relationships to therapists at our specially created relationship clinic. The series will follow their journey through therapy as well as provide genuine take-home advice for people who may well see their own lives reflected on screen and provide them with a framework to help in their own lives.

The sole aim of the programme is to improve people’s quality of life/relationship.

Couples will be offered three therapy sessions – this will all be bespoke and tailored to their individual needs and circumstances. Our therapists have years of experience and we’re looking to create a really positive experience for everyone that participates.

We are looking to hear from people who think they could benefit in some way and might be interested in taking part. We’ve seen on forums online people discussing the effect Vaginismus can have not just on them but also on their relationship – one of our therapists has experience working with clients/couples in this area so we wanted to reach out to your network to let people know a bit about our programme and the help that we could offer.

If anyone is interested in taking part or would like to find out more, please email or give call/text 07712 872469 – there is, of course, no obligation to take part, Gorana is happy to chat with people and tell them more about the show to see if they think it might be something for them.

Want to take part? Register your interest by emailing or calling Gorana by the 26th of October 2018.


Everything you need to know about pegging before our masterclass

If you’ve never heard about pegging before, allow us to let you in on a little secret – it’s bloomin’ awesome!

For the uninitiated, pegging is when a woman penetrates a male partner’s anus with a strap-on. As a term, pegging was popularised by Dan Savage in his SavageLove column back in 2001, and it brought this sexy activity into the bedrooms of adventurous and pleasure-seeking couples all over the world.

Why would a woman want to wear a strap-on?

Pleasuring a partner with a strap-on lets you use your hands for teasing and touching other parts of your lover’s body. You can ditch boring gender roles, and taking on the role of the penetrator-slash-pleasure-giver can result in some spectacular and highly erotic play sessions for both parties. Swapping roles is hot!

Also, if you are blessed with a responsive clitoris and strong pelvic floor, you can even rock, ride and thrust your way to an orgasm whilst wearing a strap-on…


Why would a man want something up his bum?

There are many reasons for giving pegging a go, but the pursuit of pleasure is, of course, at the top of the list. A male-bodied person has a prostate stashed away inside the rectum, and this magical walnut of a gland can offer untold pleasures when stimulated in the right way. Prostate play is intensely erotic, and orgasms are often more explosive when the P-spot is stimulated.

If you and your partner are thinking about heading down the pleasure-walk of the anal canal, there are a few things you need to think about first:

    • Communication – open, honest & ongoing.
    • Patience – slowly and gently is the only way forward when it comes to anal play.
    • Lubricant – the anus and rectum aren’t self-lubricating, so a generous dollop of anal lube is essential.
    • Building confidence – letting the receiving partner be in control ensures they only go as far and as fast as they are comfortable with, which allows you both to build up your pegging-confidence.


Positions for Pegging

There is no magic position that can only be enjoyed when penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on. You can enjoy any and all positions that work for you both, but we recommend letting the receiver start on top. They are in full control of how much of the dildo goes inside them, at what speed, and if they just need to sit and breathe for a few moments they can do that too…

Pegging Master Class

We meet many couples interested in trying out pegging, and whilst our friendly shop team are always on hand with help and advice, you might like to know we offer fun and fully clothed strap-on & pegging masterclasses to get you started.

Our fab and pun-tastic sex educators will cover anatomy (female-bodied and male-bodied), how to choose a strap-on that’ll work for you; and they’ll also share tips & tricks to ensure your pegging sesh with your partner will be a sensual and safe experience for you both.

Here’s what you can expect when you join us for a pegging masterclass at our Pitfield Street shop:

  • A warm and friendly welcome from our knowledgeable team and like-minded guests
  • Fizz and French Fancies for all attendees
  • Advice on the best techniques to help you get started
  • Some useful tips and tricks on how to peg like a pro!
  • A professionally-led and open Q&A session
  • Recommendations on the best pegging products and a cheeky 20% discount to use on any products throughout the store after the session

So, if you fancy joining us for our next pegging masterclass, click here to find out more, send us an email here or call us on 0333 444 005 to book your space.

See you there!




What to expect when attending your first sex party

If you’ve never been to a sex party before, it can be difficult to know what to expect when attending your first one. Excitement, nerves, anticipation – there are so many mixed emotions flying around when you’ve got an invite to an event like this, so it’s really difficult to know how to act when you arrive.

Remember, this is going to be an experience you’ll remember for a lifetime, so just follow our golden rules for attending your first sex party and you’ll be in for a mind-blowing time.

Sex party etiquette

Going to a sex party is a little like going to any other social gathering, albeit people will get naked at some point. It’s a lot more fun than your regular after-work pint down the local,  but it’s still important to remember your manners.

All the guests know that this is a sex party, but some might be there to actively participate while others are just happy to sit on the sidelines and watch. For your first time, you might be happy to soak up the atmosphere and enjoy the ‘show’ rather than jumping right in, and this is perfectly ok.

Get to know the hosts, mingle with other guests and relax; there’s plenty of time to move things up a notch later if you feel like it.

Be polite

Just because you are at a sex party doesn’t mean you have to play with everyone – you have the right to say no to an invitation, but always be polite. If someone won’t take no for an answer and insists on your attention, do make the hosts or the monitors aware and let them handle it as they probably won’t want this person at their party.

If someone turns down your invitation to play, remember to be polite and gracious. Maybe they don’t fancy playing right now, or maybe they have their eye on another guest… Sometimes the chemistry is off and the only thing to do is look for someone who’s on your wavelength and up for sexy fun with you.


Be honest

The beauty of a sex party is that there are so many people with varied sexual tastes all brought together for a great time. Still, it’s a good idea to set your boundaries early and be clear on what you do or don’t want.

Many other guests will ask what you’re hoping to experience during the evening, so be honest and they’ll be able to introduce you to others who are looking for something similar.

If you’re going along with a friend or partner and it’s the first time for the both of you, it might be worth having some kind of code word if you both feel that you’re not quite ready for the experience after all.

Maybe something like ‘Sandra’s just called and needs to be picked up’ might work to alert your companion to the fact that you’re not feeling the vibe and would like to leave without making anyone else feel awkward.

Whether you enjoy the party together or separately, remember to check in with each other regularly. You might be having the time of your life, but is beau? Ask ’em! 🙂

Be discreet

Unless it’s a private party where every guest already know each other, most guest will use a scene name. You can of course choose to use your real name, if you feel comfortable with this, but always respect other guests’ right to privacy. You might bump into someone you know is called Laura IRL, but if she introduces herself as Kitty, this is what you call her at the party.

If you happen to see your bank manager rolling about on a pvc sheet wearing nothing but a unicorn butt plug and nipple clamps, you make no mention of it next time you go to pick up your foreign currency order.

Not everyone is A-ok with sex parties and kink and spousal swaps, and consequences could be dire if someone’s very private & personal preferences were made public.


Be prepared!

Safer sex is always high on the agenda at any sex party, so there’s bound to be plenty of condoms scattered around the place. (If no one seems to care about safer sex, you may want to ask yourself if you really want to stay.) However, its always a good idea to take a little kit of your own supplies such as contraceptives, latex gloves, your favourite lube, baby wipes and some fresh pairs of underwear just in case.

If you bring sex toys, it’s a good idea to cover them in condoms and pull off the used condom before dipping toy into a new play partner or orifice. Chuck a bottle of sex toy cleaner in your kit too if you’re bringing toys. Regular spritz & rinses will keep your toys clean and free from bodily fluids.

Go at your own pace, be open to new experiences and making new friends, and you might just find this is the best fun you’ve ever had!




How to keep the juices flowing on the night of your wedding

Wedding days are hailed by many to be one of the most important in a person’s life. Meticulous planning goes into them and it’s not unusual for brides-to-be to pick over the smallest of details, and this is just as it should be – it’s your (and your partner’s obv) day after all!

From the outfit to the cake, to the music being provided by a carefully selected DJ and the food being served after the ceremony, no stone should be left unturned – you’re creating treasured memories to last a lifetime.

Despite all of the preparation that goes into the wedding day,  few couples turn their attention to planning the wedding night. It is just assumed that’ll great sex will happen once you are safely tucked away in your bed for the night, and couples are sent on their way to the hotel by friends & family winking and nudging each other indelicately.

Statistics have revealed that what newlyweds want and what they actually get on the night of their wedding vary somewhat.

More than half of all newlyweds choose sleep over a bed-bopping sesh. Common reasons include tiredness, being too tipsy and not having time to eat enough during the day, none of which are unexpected (anyone already married will know what we’re talking about!).

There’s also the added pressure of speaking to all of your friends and family, which often leaves couples with little time to actually spend together. Not such a biggie as you do have the rest of forever to enjoy each other’s company, but what can you do during your wedding day and the evening that follows to get those juices flowing and ensure that you start married life with a night of passion. Read on to find out…

Abstain for a few nights beforehand

Delayed gratification is sexy and we all know that having to wait for your cake before you can eat it, makes it taste so much sweeter. The same goes for sex. Tease and tempt and flirt and play, but leave it at that for a week or two before your Big Day and you’ll both be looking forward to tearing each other’s clothes off as soon as you get some time to yourselves. Anticipation will have you both gagging for a rumbunctious romp amidst the clean sheets of the wedding-night bed…


Romance about it

There’s nothing better than sharing hot fantasies to get the juices flowing. Spend the lead up to your wedding talking about what you’d each like to happen during the wedding night. Lay down on the bed together and romance about it. Go into detail and be as explicit as you can. Do you want to try something new, or get down to something that’s saved for special occasions or do you want to go with your trusted favorite position?

Talking about sex and not actually having it is a massive turn on, and will get you both in the mood for a fun night when it eventually happens.


Feel your best

Amazing sex happens when you are feeling truly comfortable and confident in your own skin. This is your wedding night after all, so why not treat yourself to some new undies? Depending on your preferred style and the preferences of your new spouse, you can build the heat during the day by dropping hints about what you’re wearing underneath your fabulous frock/sassy suit.

Before the day, spend some time pampering yourself if time; a massage, having your nails done or getting a new haircut are all excellent ways of feeling fantastic in your skin.  Spritz on your favorite scent and sashay around to whatever music gets your blood pumping and your hips bumping…

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Keep telling your partner how great they look

While your moments together may be few and far between on your wedding day (family & friends take up lots of time, trust us), so when you are together, be sure to make it special.

Let your partner know how gorgeous they look and how keen you are to get them alone so you can finally seal the deal, so to speak.

Pupils dilate naturally when we are looking at someone we’re attracted to, so make sure to eye up your partner regularly – let your eyes do the talking whenever your eyes meet across the crowded room – like so:

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Play before, during and after the ceremony

Handing over the reins to your new spouse for the day is a good way of ensuring their mind (and yours!) is firmly on what’ll happen after the party has ended.

Small remote controlled vibes are super-fun and great for couples. Tuck the vibe into your underwear and hand the remote to your partner. They are now in charge of giving you short, thrilling buzzes every now and then. This is guaranteed to heighten your arousal and keep a beaming smile on your face all day long…

Keep the day playful and flirty, go lightly on the refreshments and make sure to sneak off early – and we promise you’ll have energy left over for playing!


Top sex tips for newlyweds

With the wedding of Prince Harry and his fiancée Meghan Markle set to take place on the 19th May, spirits are high among royalists and anyone who’s a sucker for romance, including us.

Being newlyweds is an aphrodisiac in itself and couples tend to live in their happy, loved-up bubble for weeks or even months after the honeymoon has ended.  But eventually, the daily grind comes knocking and the after-wedding come-down sets in. It’s not unusual for one or both parties to feel a little low and wonder what happens ‘next’.

Luckily for newlyweds everywhere, we have some experience with this. Check out our top tips for remaining steamy between the sheets long after saying ‘I do’.

Have open discussions about what you want

Hopefully you’ve already done this, but needs & desires evolve and change over time and it’s important to keep conversations about sex ongoing. Being open to trying new things and instilling a sense of togetherness in everything that you do works to strengthen the bond between you.

Whether it’s attending a sex class or shopping for toys, you’re in a partnership now, so play and enjoy as a pair. Sex classes are not only liberating and great fun, but also the perfect place for couples to learn new ways of giving and receiving pleasure.

Up the ante when it comes to erotic connection

We’re conditioned to think that “real” sex is p-i-v (penis in vagina) but it’s time to put the kaboosh on this old fashioned thinking. Sex is whatever you want it to be! It can certainly involve a penis or dildo in a vagina if that’s how you and your beau roll, but it can also mean that nothing is inserted into any orifices. Like, ever. And it’s still sex!

Focusing heavily on penetration leaves out a long list of other delicious activities such as mutual masturbation (watching your partner bring themselves to orgasm is super-hot), tickling (yep, some peeps get off on that) and phone sex to name a few.


Make it your mission to grow the erotic side of your play. A strong erotic connection increases sexual tension and excitement, it builds feelings of intimacy, and this should never be overlooked.

‘Erotic’ means different things to different people, but usually includes lots of eye contact, gentle touching, lips travelling slowly over naked skin, and words whispered in the dark… Take your time and savour each experience.

Long make-out sessions keep the panty-fires on full blast, so leave the wham-bam-thank-you-mam’s for the occasions you really are short on time.

Make great sex a priority

There are gazillions of articles telling us how many times per week or month we “should” be having sex, but we think quality tops quantity every time. Isn’t having really great sex once or twice a month much better than having three or four lukewarm shags per week? Sex isn’t a competition so forget about keeping up with the Jones’s.

Juggling jobs, families and other commitments can mean that sex has to take a backseat from time to time and that’s ok, but don’t let it get stuck back there. Scheduling sex-dates might seem like a passion-killer, but clearing a couple of hours in your calendar for carnal pleasures is actually great fun.

Take it in turns to think up new scenarios, buy some sex toys or try seemingly impossible positions so the element of surprise is still there.

Stop counting how many times per week you have sex, and focus on the amount of pleasure you’re getting instead.


Touch each other outside of the bedroom

It may sound obvious, but it’s important to remain tactile with your partner when you aren’t having sex. Focus on kissing and stroking each other, both of which will make you feel closer, more connected, and ensure that you enjoy a fiery sex life when you do get down to it.

Holding hands is romantic and sweet, and chaste pecks in public can  be crazy hot if you’re both looking forward to a long night in private later on.

Cheeky little gropes when no one is watching is sexy and keeps you both hungry for more. A sly snog in the kitchen whilst you are checking on the Sunday roast is a classic, as is gentle nibbles of the neck whilst your new spouse is on the phone to their boss…

Grab the moment when it comes, and make it count!

Play together

Marriage is about more than sex – obviously – but you’d be amazed how much ‘playing’ together in other areas will spice things up.

Camping, or glamping if hot water and hair dryer are on the must-have list, is in season and a night out under the stars offers plenty of opportunity for togetherness and turn-ons. Bring a bottle of fizz in a cooler and play never-have-I-ever had sex outdoors.

Long-haul flights are great for mile-high fun and a night on a ferry will rock you both in more ways that one. You could play one-for-one (one orgasm for you, one orgasm for me) on long car journeys, or book a night in a hotel and live out a 24-hour sex fantasy.


As the saying goes; a couple that plays together, stays together.



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3 Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild

For many men, the female body can be a challenge to navigate around at the best of times, and pleasing a woman sexually can seem nay on impossible at the worst.

We know this, because our customers share so many intimate details with us. Sometimes customers share because they are over the moon (“I had my first orgasm last night!”), and other times they share out of frustration (“Why doesn’t he just do it the way I want it?!).

A common complaint is that male partners, in particular, are going at it too fast, too hard or in all the wrong places.

What many men haven’t yet realized, is that women need their parts stimulated in the right way for the right amount of time in order to orgasm – and the right way for the right amount of time varies from woman to woman, and even from one sexual encounter to the next.

A number of despairing female customers have asked us to put together a little print-out-and-keep-guide for their guys, so grab yourself a cuppa and settle down coz here we go!

(And, of course, these tips work for any lover of women – not just fellas!)


Nipple sensitivity varies from woman to woman, but for most of us, the nipples are a great place to start. A word of warning here: a lot of guys like to handle the nip-tips like they’re tuning in a radio but trust us, few women enjoy this manhandling move…

Instead, start off gently, teasing, cupping and stroking her breasts. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Once she pushes closer to you, it’s time to get lips and tongue involved.

For added fun, why not drizzle some caramel or chocolate sauce over her nipples – you can then spend however long you like licking it off.

As her breathing increases, lick and suck faster for added intensity. If you really want to excite her, a gentle nibble every now and then will do the trick.

These hands-free nipple massagers are great fun and come highly recommended. They attach directly to the skin around the nipple and offer gentle suction whilst you work your way down her body…


The Clitoris

The clitoris is the holy grail of sexual discovery for most women and it’s also the route to many toe-curling, pillow-grabbing orgasms.

While it is the one place most men head to when they want to pleasure their woman, many go about it the wrong way – thus chasing off the orgasm rather than encouraging it to come gushing on…

How to give her clitoral pleasure

First of all, no one likes a chafed clit so trim your nails, lash on the hand cream and crack open a bottle of vagina-friendly lube: this is all part of your prep.

The clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings sitting atop it, and these nerve-endings will cry out in pain if you go in all guns blazing: it simply doesn’t work.

Orgasms are a build-up of energy that is released, and therefore the best course of action is to go slow (very slow) (even slower than that) and build up. Think of it as an orgasmic marathon rather than a sprint – pace yourself.

Starting off with oral sex – if she is comfortable with this – is a good idea. The tongue is soft and moist, two things that most vulvas are partial to.

You can add a drop or two of the vagina-friendly lube to the labia lips, clitoris and opening, even if she is feeling rather juicy to the touch. Lube makes tongues, fingers, penises & toys more sensual, and that’s always a bonus!

The most important thing to do is to keep steady with whatever movement she seems to like best. Caress her clitoris using the whole of your tongue, and add in some sucking motions here and there. Nibble on the labia lips, blow gently on her clit (not into the vagina though) and keep your rhythm steady. If she seems to like it, do it again. And again.

Many women worry that they take too long, so reassure her by letting her know there is no place you’d rather be.

Fun Rabbit Ears VibratorWant her to have a truly delicious time? Our Fun Rabbit Ears Vibrator with its vibrating bullet works wonders in the clitoral region. Add a little lube to the soft ears of the rabbit, turn it on and stroke gently around the clit.

Think of the clitoris as a clock-face, and work out what time her Happy Hour is. Many women prefer stimulation of 10-11 or 1-2, but take your time (no pun intended) and work your way around the clit-clock. There will be one or two spots that are far more receptive to your soft touch, and this is where you should focus your attention.

Direct stimulation of the clitoris can be overwhelming, so unless she specifically tells you she wants direct pressure, always tease around the sides of it instead – and this is why the Fun Rabbit works so well, the flexible ears slide along the sides of the clit rather rather than directly on it.

The G-spot

There’s a lot of speculation surrounding the G-spot. Does it really exist or is it just a myth? Where is it located?

Well, we certainly believe in its existence, although it would be fair to say not all women respond the same to stimulation of it.

The area of the G-spot (the Grafenberg spot, named after the guy who ‘discovered’ it) is located about half-a-finger on the front wall of the vagina, a surface that feels less smooth than the rest of the vaginal walls. Blood flows to the area during arousal, and the G-spot becomes easier to locate and stimulate.

Your G-Spot

How to Stimulate Her G-spot

Add a drizzle of lube (see, we told you the lube would come in handy!) to one or two of your fingers, before sliding them into her. Curve your fingers upwards towards her G-spot and stroke in slow but firm come-hither motions. Remember to not go harder or faster until she asks for it.

If penetrative sex is on the cards, it’s worth noting that many women find that woman-on-top positions work best for experiencing intense sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Let her straddle you, and then tilt her hips backwards or forwards (whichever feels best for her). This will allow her to find that sweet spot and she’ll get the pressure she wants.

If you found this helpful and would like more tips & tricks on how to have her hollering the house down with pleasure, just book yourself a ticket to our Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure!




3 Top Tips For Injecting Some Fun Into Your Erotic Activities

Sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures, and something everyone should look forward to as a form of release, a way to connect with a partner and to increase self-confidence.

That is the dream, anyway.

We all know the reality can look very different. Busy schedules and long-term relationships often mean that couples find their sex lives become stagnant or even non-existent.

Whether it is due to a lack of excitement or adventure or simply not having the time to roll around in bed for a whole weekend, having a healthy and satisfying sex life can feel like a luxury that is somewhat unattainable.

If you’re feeling as though your sex life is dwindling, check out our tips for spicing things up and ensuring your fire is one that stays lit!

Explore an area that you haven’t before

Anal stimulation can be extremely erotic and if you’ve never tried this before, it’s well worth considering giving it a gentle go.

Thinking of it as a fun, new adventure and a chance for you both to explore yet-to-be-discovered parts of your bodies, will help to make it seem less intimidating.

Before dipping your fingertips in, so to speak, make sure to have smooth nails, a bottle of anal lube uncorked and lines of communication open.

Start off slowly by using only a finger for stroking, teasing and tapping around the anus before slipping deeper in.

As you both gain confidence and get hotter for more, lubed-up anal beads slipped into the tush one-by-one can offer amazing sensations for the partner on the receiving end.  For a truly mind-blowing experience, insert the anal beads and gently remove them just as they (or you!) are about to reach orgasm.

sh-anal-beadsPlay dress up

Our day to day lives are full of responsibility so sometimes it can be refreshing to pretend to be someone else for a few hours. Let this expand to your bedroom sessions by dressing up for your partner.

There are too many options to count; you can be a sexy maid one day and a formidable Dominatrix the next… Choosing a roleplay persona that fits with your personality makes it a little easier to pretend, but choosing a persona who is your complete opposite is also lots of fun. If you are shy in real life, being a hard-ass cop for a couple of hours could spark all sorts of erotic fires!

Keeping it fun with a bit of roleplay will aid the excitement and mean that neither of you can wait to rip each other’s clothes off and get started…

Sexy Police Outfit

Read erotic books or watch films together

Seeing or reading about other people having sex can be a real turn on and is also a great way to learn a few new moves in the process.

Be sure to talk to your partner about it first and agree on something that you both find sexy. We stock a wide range of erotic books that will be perfect for some bedtime reading.

Tip: Setting your partner the task of finding something you’ll like will give them cart blanche to watch as much porn as they can possibly find time for, as they’ll be searching for something that’ll turn you on. Be as specific as possible – this’ll make it harder to find the right clip or film and they simply ‘have to’ watch lots and lots of sexy stuff – and they’ll be keen to gain your approval once the mission has been completed!




Dolls Sitting

Tips for Spicing Up Sex Positions

Most couples have their tried & tested go-to positions for sex; start in one, move to a second and finish in a third – perhaps something extra fancy for birthdays and Christmas. That’s often how it goes.

As long as you’re both enjoying yourselves, there really is no need to be swinging from the chandeliers or attempting the Wheelbarrow position, it’s uncomfortable and makes sex harder than it needs to be…

But even so, standard positions can be made spicier with a few simple changes and in this blog post, we’re sharing our best tips for switching up your favourites for extra heat. Read on!

Blow Their Mind

We hear that the number 1 sex act desired by straight (and we’re guessing, gay) men, is fellatio. A blow job allows him to concentrate on his pleasure, without having to worry abut anything. His job is to relax and let your tongue work its moist magic…

But, for fairness, we’re going to add a good session of cunnilingus into the mix too. Why should guys have all the fun?


Letting her relax and enjoy a sensual tongue-treat should be just as high on the sex agenda.

Depending on personalities or mood of the couple playing, an oral sex session can be switched up or down.

If you enjoy the feeling of submission, kneeling before your partner can be the ultimate thrill. Make sure you’re comfortable (on a cushion) and make sure they’re comfortable too (sitting or standing).


Or, if you like to be in control, try tying your partner up. For extra fun, you could also blindfold them. Check in with them regularly, making sure they’re comfortable and still having fun.

Tease and please, make them beg for your attention… For extra dominance, tell them they can only orgasm with your permission.

Wine Me, Dine Me, 69 Me

69-ing, or the top-to-toe position where you each feast on the others delicious bits is another favourite with many couples.

If kneeling over your partners face for a length of time is too hard, simply moving into a gentler version of the same position will make all the difference. By laying on your sides and nestling against each other, you’ll be able to give and receive pleasure simultaneously.

If your jaw or neck needs a break, just use fingers or a small vibe to tease instead.

Spice up the 69 position by adding small tongue vibrators. The additional buzz can make all the difference, if you or your partner find it difficult to orgasm.

Missionary Position

We often hear people dissing missionary position as ‘dull’ and ‘vanilla’.

They are clearly not doing it right.

With a couple of easy moves, the missionary position can become your trusted go-to position for both sensual and kinky play.

For a more sensual version, the partner on top lifts themselves up a little, resting their pubic bone against your pubic bone. For a female-bodied person, this slight change delivers pressure over the clitoral area and by rocking together, chances of a thunderous orgasm suddenly become much  higher.

Doing it kinky style is very easy: the top places their full weight (or most of it) on the bottom, holding their wrists firmly above their head. This way, the bottom experiences a submissive helplessness; all they can do is lie back and let pleasure wash over them.

For extra playfulness, a struggle can be sexy – the dominant partner gets to use their power to keep the struggling partner in place. This needs to be consensual of course, so don’t forget that all-important safe word.

If you want to switch it up even more, try adding a We Vibe Sync to your missionary position. The lower, more flexible arm of the We Vibe slides inside the female-bodied partner, snuggling against both clitoris and G-spot. The partner with a penis or dildo slides in too, and you both rock & roll with the added benefit of thrilling vibrations in places where it counts…

Partner on Top

Having a partner riding you is super-sexy; you get to watch & feel them move in ways that feel best for them! Lay-back-and-watch-the-show sorta-thing… *Fans self*


The partner on top has several options:

  • Bonce up & down for a fierce workout
  • Rock back & forth for deep, grinding pleasure
  • Lean back for intense pressure against G-spot or prostate
  • Hop on back-to-front so your partner gets a great view of your bum

Switching up partner-on-top sex is easy: slip a vibrating cock ring like Rocks Off Union  over the penis or dildo.

With two vibrating bullets, vibrations from RO-Union are plentiful and you can hump, rock & ride your way to climax…

Doggy Style

There are many reasons to love doggy style sex, it’s a firm favorite with many couples.

If the receiving partner is female-bodied, they’ll be enjoying intense G-spot pleasure as the dildo or penis rhythmically strokes in & out.

If the receiving partner is male-bodied,  the dildo or penis will offer the same type of sensations against the prostate, a highly sensitive area inside the rectum.

Benefits for the giver is the feeling of being in control, powerfully offering pleasure that’s off the Richter scale. The fantastic view is of course a bonus!

Switch it up by playfully spanking the receiver’s bum, or gently insert a lubed-up finger into their butt for a beginner’s version of double-penetration. Always check with your partner first though, no one likes a surprise in the place where the sun don’t shine…

For the receiving partner, feeling submissive and ‘under control’ can be an immense turn on.


We’d love to hear how you add spice to your sex positions – leave us a comment below and we’ll be sure to share!