Breast Massager Competition

Competition! WIN an Inspire Breast Massager *CLOSED*

October is breast cancer awareness month, so we have all sorts of boob themed things going on.

We strongly encourage you to check your breasts if you don’t do so regularly already and we’d also love you to come along to our tea-party to raise money for Breast Cancer Care.

If you can’t make it to our London store for some suggestive cake then you can also contribute to Breast Cancer Care by buying one of our Inspire Breast Massagers. Which is also what you have a chance to WIN this month!

The Inspire Breast Masssager may not look like much but, as well as being deeply pleasureable, it’s also great for your breast health. It can help with painful conditions like mastitis as well as improving the appearance of scarring and helping with tender or painful breast tissue.

A discreet breast massage is also a great pick me up and a fun way to while away cool autumn evenings.

Enter now to win your own Inspire Breast Massager.

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We have the Breast Cakes: Breast Cancer Awareness Teaparty

We have the Breast Cakes: Breast Cancer Awareness Teaparty

Screenshot (74)Hey come join us for a tea party!

We are known for our tea, if you ever want a hot drink and a chat about sex toys we are the people to come to. We are also known for our interest in women’s health. Yes, your sexual well-being but also your general well-being.

We hope you all remember to check your breasts regularly, and if you have any doubts about what to do read our quick guide to being breast aware. 

We also hope you’re aware that October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. One in eight women in the UK will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime and 11,433 people died from Breast Cancer last year in the UK. Though survival rates are improving it’s still a serious issue for women’s health, especially when you consider that  27% of cases are preventable.

So this October we will be raising some money for Breast Cancer Care as well as feeding you cake and taking some time to talk about breasts of all shapes and sizes.

We’re holding a tea party, complete with the breast cupcakes you will ever see as well as other delicious treats and space to talk about how much you love your breasts. You can also take a look at our Inspire Breast Massager, which helps with circulation and scarring.

All the funds we raise from your donations will go to Breast Cancer Care who are working to:

  • provide information and offer emotional and practical support
  • bring people affected by breast cancer together
  • campaign for improvement in standards of support and care
  • promote the importance of early detection.

So stop buy, buy an anatomically inspired baked good and tell us what you love about your boobs.

When: Sunday 9th October From 3pm

Where: Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, 57 Hoxton Square, London

How much: Bring some cash for a donation lovely people.

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Vibrating Breast Massager for Sexual Health & Wellbeing

Vibrating Breast Massager for Sexual Health & Wellbeing

At first we weren’t hugely impressed with the Inspire Breast Massager. It looks a bit like something you might use to pad out your bra.

Inspire Breast Massager can be used for some hands free stimulation when worn inside a bra, but that’s not its main purpose.

No, this breast massager is more about women’s well-being and sexual health. The vibrations from this massager can help increase blood flow and circulation, relieve stress, release toxins, and it may even help with soreness and tenderness, especially during hormonal changes.

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Made from hypoallergenic and non-porous silicone, Inspire Breast Massager is phthalate-free and 100% body safe. It comes with a remote control cleverly disguised as a compact mirror, so can easily be switch on and off if you are out and about.

The Vibrating Remote Massager can help relive actual physical discomfort that might arise from illnesses, age or other factors, and can be particularly useful in relieving mastitis. And if that weren’t enough a portion of the proceeds will go to help a breast cancer charity.

Vibration Can Help Relieve Symptoms of Mastitis

For example; if you’ve given birth you might have experienced Mastitis .  It’s quite common in the first three months after giving birth. Mastitis causes breast tissue to become inflamed and painful, whilst milk ducts become clogged.

Non-breastfeeding women may develop a similar type of mastitis; this is called Periductal Mastitis. This is when ducts under the nipples become inflamed and infected.  It’s a benign condition which can affect women of all ages, but is more common in younger women.

For either of these conditions, it’s important that the mastitis gets treated as quickly as possible: an untreated duct can quickly lead to bacterial infection (ouch!).

Vibration Helps Increase Blood Flow and Relives Pain

CalExotics Breast MassagerPlacing Inspire Breast Massager under the breasts, where it sits comfortably inside the bra, allowing the vibration to help break down clogged ducts. The vibration will also increase local blood flow, thus helping inflamed tissue feel more comfortable.

Inspire Breast Massager can offer significant help with scarring and sensitive breast tissue. The ergonomically curved, lightweight body forming breast massager fits comfortably inside a a bra.

Scarring after injury, trauma or surgery can become overly sensitive. Vibe massage over scarring can help reduce sensitivity and loosen any adhesions to deeper structures, such as tendons and joints.

Vibration Speeds Up the Healing of Scar Tissue

Over-sensitivity occurs when the nerves in the skin and deeper tissues are affected by injury or surgery. The aim is to reduce sensitivity, and to help the skin and nerves become tolerant of everyday living. Vibration can help increase blood flow into the area, relieving pain and could also help speed up healing.

However, we always recommend check with a Doctor before applying vibration to existing scar tissue.

Vibrating Breast Massager as a Sex Toy

Inspire Breast Massager also delivers thrilling sensations and 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus 5 independent speeds for each function. Breast play can help you to build arousal and enjoy new thrills.

The massager can be worn in the comfort of you own home, or out and about if you fancy some thrilling titillation in public. The remote control, resembling an elegant compact mirror, works up to 16.5” inches away so no one will suspect what’s going on inside your bra if you hand over the remote to a partner…

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A portion of the proceeds from the Inspire collection will go to the Living Beyond Breast cancer charity.

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

So it’s not quite a full alphabet but this is your complete guide to everything from your A-Spot to your U-Spot, taking in the clitoris, G-Spot and Nipple Orgasms on the way…

The A-Spot

What is it?

The A-Spot (aka ‘anterior fornix erogenous zone’/ ‘AFE zone ‘ ) is a located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper  wall, above your cervix, where the vagina begins to curve upwards.  That’s where the name comes from it’s your ‘anterior erogenous zone’. It’s been described as the ‘female degenerated prostate’ whatever exactly that means, but just think of it as a fun spot to explore. So basically it is right at the back of your vagina, beyond the G-Spt and above the cervix entrance. To explore, draw your legs in all the way and feel around a little, when you touch this spot you may feel an instant increase in lubrication along with possible  intense pleasure and contractions.

What do I do with it?

When touched the A-Spot can generate instant wetness, a session of A-Spot play can produce an orgasm that’s very similar to a G-Spot orgasm. If you have any problems with vaginal dryness this might be one to cultivate, as repeated stimulation is said to increase your levels of natural lubrication.

Toy of choice:

Because of where it’s situated the A-Spot can be a little hard to reach, unless you have long fingers. So we’d recommend using a long toy like this Swell vibrator (recently and enthusiastically reviewed by the lovely Emmeline Peaches). Try sitting with your legs pulled up against your body for maximum reach and full pleasure.


The Clitoris

What is it?

Well we hope you know what your clitoris is but if you’re not quite sure here’s a quick catch up. The clitoris is your most sensitive erogenous zone, it sits underneath your clitoral hood at the top of the labia, but the clitoris is a bit like an iceberg, it also extends below the surface. The clitoris is made up of erectile tissue so it will swell when you’re aroused.

What do I do with it?

Whatever you like! You can stimulate your clit with your fingers, a vibrator or a willing partner. If you’re new to clitoral stimulation we’d suggest exploring with a finger and some lubricant to gauge what you enjoy. Some people prefer direct stimulation, whilst others find that off-putting or even de-sensitising  and prefer stimulation to the sides of the clit. Everyone will have different preferences and that will affect which toy is right for you.

Toy of Choice

Vibrators can be one of the easiest ways to achieve a clitoral orgasm and, in general, vibrators with a ”higher pitched” vibration make for better clitoral toys and those with a lower, heavier, deeper vibration are better for penetration.

If you’re not keen on direct stimulation, a rabbit vibrator that stimulates the sides of your clit and has a range of vibrations to explore could be a good choice. If you have difficulty achieving clitoral orgasms you might want to try a wand massager; a study in 2008 found that over 93% of a group of 500 women who struggled to orgasm achieved The Big O with a Wand and the Betty Dodson Method.



The G-Spot

What is it?

Your G-Spot is probably the second most well known erogenous zone. It’s located a couple of inches inside your vagina on the anterior wall, so towards the front. If you feel around with a lubricated finger you should be able to locate a small patch that feels different in texture, slightly rougher than the smooth walls around it. It doesn’t feel like much now but once it’s swollen with arousal the G-Spot can deliver powerful orgasms.

What do I do with it?

We’d recommend being thoroughly aroused before you go near your G-Spot. Take as much time as you need to make sure you are thoroughly warmed up, you might also want to take a bathroom break before you settle down for some G-Spot exploration.

The same nerves that sends G-Spot sensations to the brain also sends messages from the bladder. For many women a G-Spot orgasm is accompanied by a pleasurable gush of liquid; sometimes enough to hit walls and soak the bed! This is called female ejaculation or ‘squirting’ and is not the same as urinating so don’t worry. But for peace of mind you might want to put a towel down and nip to the loo beforehand.

The G-Spot responds best to firm pressure, you can try applying pressure with two fingers or a toy. If you’re using your fingers try a firm ‘come here’ motion, you might want to try squatting or all fours, play around until you find a comfortable position. As always, remember to use lots of lube.

The G-Spot can also be a source of multiple orgasms, keep stimulating the G-Spot through your orgasm, then take a short, 20 second break, and resume stimulation. However, G-Spot orgasms can be hard work so, patience is key.

Toy of choice:

There are plenty of toys designed to stimulate your G-Spot, like a G-Spot Vibrator or to provide G-Spot and clitoral stimulation for the best of both worlds and maybe a ‘blended orgasm’. Something firm like a glass dildo can also work very well for the steady stimulation needed to achieve a G-Spot orgasm.


Nipple Orgasms

What are they?

Apparently Nipple orgasms are the most common type of orgasm after clitoral, which might come (no pun intended) as a surprise, considering that the G-Spot orgasm is more widely known. Your nipples are jam packed with nerve endings, even if you don’t experience nipple orgasms this is another erogenous zone you can explore and enjoy.

What do I do with them?

This is another one that’s wide open. It’s up to you! Do what feels good is the mantra of today (and every day, especially National Orgasm Day).

A good way to demonstrate what kind of stimulation you enjoy can be to try it out on a partner, squeezing, stroking, nibbling or licking can all feel good. Oral stimulation might be the best way to experiment with your nipples orgasmic capabilities, starting with a light touch and moving up to firm sucking. Other than that, play, explore, enjoy!

Toy of Choice

It’s  not all nipple clamps, there are all kinds of teasing sensations to savor. If you would like to explore nipple clamps you could try a vibrating option with just a soft pinch, enough to awaken never endings and start building sensations.

You could also try nipple suckers for some gentle but exciting stimulation. Cups softly attach around the nipple and areolas for a subtle sucking sensation.


The U-Spot

What is it?

This is another erogenous zone that you might not know much about. The U-Spot is located at the opening of the Urethra, that’s where the name comes from. Your urethra is where your pee comes out of. It’s located between your vaginal opening and the clitoris, towards the top. As always, get out some lube and have a feel around, this little spot fills with blood when you become aroused making it very sensitive to stimulation. It’s connected to a group of glands ‘Skene’s Glands’ that are thought to be similar to the male prostate and might be the source of ‘female ejaculation’, but more research is needed before we can say for sure.

What do I do with it?

Try exploring the area around your urethra with a lubed finger or a wet tongue. Stick to slow, delicate touches and find what feels good.

Toy of choice:

Here the best toy is a willing partner! The U-Spot responds best to a warm wet tongue although feel free to experiment with the content of your toy box and let us know the results!

Breast Aware

Are You Breast Aware?

Most cases of breast cancer are found by women (or men) noticing changes to their breast, so it’s important to check yours regularly.

Being breast aware means being familiar with your breasts, how they look and how they feel. Breasts can feel “lumpy” just before your period, so it’s important you  know what’s normal for you – that way you can quickly tell if an unusual lump has reared its ugly head.

Whilst it’s vital you are on the look-out for lumps, it’s important to know there can be other signs too.

Get in the habit of checking your breasts regularly – whilst showering, for example.  Remember to check the whole area, including chest and armpits.

When it comes to your breasts, it’s all about TLC:

TOUCH your breasts – can you feel anything unusual?

LOOK for changes – is there any change in shape or texture?

CHECK anything unusual with your doctor.

During the month of October, we’ll be raising money for our chosen charity Breakthrough Breast Cancer – stop by the shop to help fill the tins!


Nipple Orgasm Advice

A Guide to Nipple Orgasms

A nipple orgasm is an orgasm that’s brought on from lots of nipple and breast stimulation, with no touch to your nether regions.

Women who experience nipple orgasm say that the orgasm seems to radiate from their breasts.

One survey found 29% of women had experienced a nipple orgasm.

….that makes it the 2nd most common orgasm after clitoral.

Which isn’t so surprising as most women say their nipples are the second most sensitive part of their body, after their clitoris.

The reason you can have a nipple orgasm is because nipple-play lights up the same region in your brain as clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation.

Breasts and nipples are sensitive because they’re jam packed with nerve endings but the story doesn’t end there…

  • Small breasts are often more sensitive than larger breasts. This is because nerves transmitting sensation from the nipple is less stretched.
  • Large nipples are more likely to be very sensitive because they contain more nerve endings.
  •  Smaller nipples may respond more to stimulation of the areola (the circle of skin around the actual nipple).
  • Inverted nipples are just as sensitive – never ignore “innies” simply because they don’t look the sane or seem to respond in the way that other nipples do.

This said, there are no hard and fast rules about the kind of nipple stimulation a woman likes; we’re all different and like different touches – some prefer light touches and others can take it harder.

A great way to teach what kind of touch and intensity you like is to demonstrate it on your lover’s nipples. This is advice for all couples F/M as well as F/F – men have responsive nipples too!

Generally stroking and light squeezing of breasts and tweaking, licking, sucking and gentle nibbling on nipples all feel good.

Nipples respond to temperature (as we all know on a cold day!) so a sip from a cold drink before licking and sucking can also be very arousing.

Like a clitoral orgasm, time and sustained stimulation is key to a nipple orgasm.

Hands stroking the breasts in a circular swirling motion and fingers tweaking and pinching the nipple is a great way to bring on a nipple orgasm manually, but oral stimulation is probably even better -starting with light licks and nibbles and building up to constant and firm sucking.

As arousal builds, the stimulation can become firmer building up to the most intense stimulation at the end.

Even if all this breast and nipple play doesn’t result in an orgasm, it will still feel have benefits beyond simply feeling good.

The primary job of a woman’s breasts is obviously to feed a new baby and breast stimulation prompts the release of oxytocin – the “bonding” hormone.

So incorporating lots of breast and nipple play during sex with your partner will makes you feel closer and more connected.

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How to Check Your Breasts

You know your body better than anyone else, and everyone has their own way of checking and touching their breasts, but here are some handy tips to help.

Check your breasts regularly and around the same time the month…

A good time to check your breasts is a few days after you period ends, so you’re not as tender or swollen. Due to hormone levels, you will find that your breast tissue will probably change throughout the month.

If you’re not having periods, check your breasts on the same day every month -pick a day ( the 1st of the month? payday?)  -whenever is easiest for you to remember.

If you are pregnant or breast feeding, it is still important to check your breasts every month. When breast feeding, try to examine after a feeding or using a pump, to make it more comfortable.

First, check your breast for visible signs…

Check in the mirror,  arms by your sides and shoulders straight.

Are your breasts their usual shape, size and colour? You’re looking for any changes to your breasts, such as soreness, a rash, redness or swelling , skin dimpling/ bulging  or to nipple ( inverted or discharge)

Next check your breasts by feeling them…

Position: If you’re starting with your left breast; lay on your back with your left hand under your head. Pop a pillow or something soft under your left shoulder.

Motion: Using your right hand , move around the breast in small circular motions, using the pads of your fingers.

Area: You can either start at the nipple working out in a circular pattern or use an up ‘n’ down pattern ( like you’re mowing a lawn) but be sure to cover the whole area, from collarbone to top of your tummy and from armpit to cleavage area.

Pressure: Use as much pressure as is comfortable for you, but the firmer the better, which, depending on the size and sensitivity of your breasts, will likely mean varying it from lighter around the centre of your breast and nipple area to much firmer at your breastbone, ribcage and armpit.

Tip: Checking in the shower or using lubricant or massage oil will make it easier to examine your breasts as there will be less resistance

When checking your breasts, look out for any of these changes, that don’t disappear…

  • Lumps, knots or thickening
  • Any swellings, warmth, or a change in tone of the skin
  • Changes in the shape and/or size of the breast
  • Rash on the breast or nipple,
  • Any sore or itchy areas
  • Nipple pulling in
  • Discharge from your nipple

If you do notice any unusual changes or lumps don’t panic, but don’t ignore them either…

Many lumps are found to be non cancerous, so try not to panic. If it is something more serious, Breast Cancer treatment & prognosis has come on leaps and bounds in the last few years.

So, don’t ignore any changes in your breasts, which don’t disappear after a few days. The sooner a lump or changes are noticed by you and checked out / treated by your Doc the better…