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Rope Bondage 101 Erotic Class

Attending an erotic class can feel exciting and daunting at the same time: What happens? Who attends? How do I know if it’s for me?

The first thing to know is that our educators are all super-friendly, professional and keen on passing on tips & advice to ensure you have great fun both in class and once you get back home.

Our classes are designed to build confidence, give a solid understanding of safety and encourage creative thinking (slapping a pair of handcuffs on someone is the easy part. The harder part is working out what you’re going to do with your willing submissive once the cuffs are on!).

What to Expect at Our Rope Bondage Class

Before the class starts, we’ll offer fizz and French Fancies to help settle any nerves.  However, rope play is best enjoyed with a clear mind, so we’ll cut off the alcohol supply before anyone gets too merry!

Our rope bondage class is suitable for beginners, and our friendly team will start with safety (what kind of rope to use, safewords and positioning) before moving on to the planning of a scene.

After this, there’ll be a practical part, where guests will learn to tie basic knots. For this segment, guests will need to work in pairs: if you’re attending with a partner, you’ll practice on each other. If you’re attending on your own, we’ll pair you with another guest (female) or a member of our team (depending on availability).

This class doesn’t include a lot of bending or moving, and there won’t be any floor work.

There will, of course, be an opportunity to ask questions at the end of the class.

After the class ends, guests will be invited to make the most out of the whopping 20% discount that’ll be offered.

In case you are wondering – because many do – the class is fully dressed at all times, including during the practical.

Sounds like fun? Then book a ticket (or several, as we offer discounts for group bookings) for the Rope Bondage 101 Class here: Sh! Rope Class

Please note: this class is for women & couples only. If you are a lone male wanting to attend, we ask that you come along with a female friend.

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NEW: Kink 101 Erotic Class

Got kink on your mind?

Join experienced psychotherapist Deborah Fields of Greymatters Psychotherapy for an evening of delving deep into the psychology of kink: Why does it feel so good – or bad?

Debs, a qualified and experienced psychotherapist as well as an established workshop teacher on the kink scene, will share her extensive knowledge of the topic and she’ll probably have you giggling too!

This brand new workshop is for everyone who loves and or hates that word. More so for those curious. Take some first steps into the real 50 Shades and realise it’s an awesome rainbow versus grey. Let’s look at what you could want from sex and kink. This will explore the basics from a personal and professional perspective.

 

Debs-Kink-101An established workshop teacher, Debs is a therapist and supervisor with a successful private practice, who also happens to be human and a mum.

She is also known for running multiple workshops on the fetish scene and at therapy conferences.

Follow Debs on Twitter.

 

Sign up for some laughter with a woman with her own experience of life, sex, and kink, personal and professional.


Are you a psychology professional?

If so, attending this class will get you a CPD certificate!

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Handcuff B&W

Fun ways that you can play with handcuffs

If you enjoy the feeling of being dominated and restricted during sex, you should definitely consider investing in a pair of handcuffs.

Not only are they fun and relatively easy to use, you can also use them in a number of different ways to spice up your bedroom activity.

Read on for our top suggestions of games you can play whilst being handcuffed.

Handcuff your wrists in front of you

If you still want to have an element of access and control, ask your partner to cuff your wrists in front of you. This will allow you to still reach down and play with yourself while your partner is penetrating you or giving you oral sex. Stroking and playing with your clitoris during penetration is brilliant, because it’ll likely help you to reach orgasm much more easily. For this, we recommend a pair of soft silicone restraints as they’ll feel both comfortable and safe. Try it!

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Handcuff your wrists to your partner’s wrist

This one is great for those times when you’re feeling super-hot and experimental. Once you’re handcuffed to each other, see what new and exciting positons you can try out. Being restricted makes it challenging in the best way possible. You never know, you might just find a new position that you can’t get enough of!

If you want a little bit more movement, you can easily attach rope to the D-rings of these leather cuffs.

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Leave them on the bedside table

We know what you’re thinking. What’s the point in having beautiful satin restraints if you aren’t going to use them? Bear with us: restraints can be a great way to tease and tempt your partner. When you are getting into things, try climbing on top of them and telling them that if they don’t do exactly as you say, you’re going to tie them to the bed and have your wicked way with them. They might beg you to do just that, but either way the mental image of being dominated is enough to get both of you going…

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Handcuff your partner to a chair

Ensure that they have no way of getting away, and then perform a sexy striptease for them in lingerie that makes you feel and look amazing. They’ll be begging you to free their hands so that they can run them all over you.

You could even handcuff your partner to the sink while you take a shower. The image of you with water running all over your body is sure to get their heart racing. Once you get out of the shower, take the handcuffs off and tell your partner that you want them to take control. Wowzers!

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Q&A: My girlfriend is into BDSM but I’m not

I recently found out that my girlfriend has been looking at BDSM porn. I was a bit taken aback and I don’t really know how she feels about it? Do you think she wants to try it in real life or it’s just a fantasy?  I don’t mind that she has been looking at it, I am just surprised. Does the fact that all of the porn she has been watching is of the same type, women dominating men, mean that this is the sort of role she would like to take? Sorry, for the probing questions. It is just that I didn’t realise just how kinky she was.

If she wants to try any of this stuff out in real life does this mean that she wants to hurt me? I’m not sure how to process this or how to move forward?

Any advice appreciated.

B.

Hi there,

Many thanks for your email.

First of all, you need to consider if this is something you want to bring up – you’re going to have to admit to checking her search history, which she might find upsetting or controlling. If the roles were reversed, how would you feel if she decided to look through your browsing history? We’re pretty sure that you have, at some point, looked at something she might not feel entirely comfortable with…

kinky-banquetSecondly, it may be that watching BDSM porn is her own little secret, something she doesn’t necessarily want to share.

Maybe she knows you’re  not into it and keeps it for home-alone moments? Fantasies can be powerful tools when it comes to building arousal and bringing on strong orgasms, and perhaps she is more than happy for this to stay as a private fantasy. Watching strong women and/or submissive men could be her way of relaxing after a stressful day.

Or – maybe it is something she’d like to try in real life.

Before bringing it up, if this is indeed what you decide to do, why not take some time to consider what it is that turns her on?

BDSM doesn’t have to involve pain – this is a common misconception. A scene (two or more people coming together to do kinky stuff) should be carefully negotiated in advance; this creates a safe framework for your play. This is the time for both of you to discuss and agree on what will and what won’t happen. If you don’t like the idea of being spanked or having nipple clamps used on you, all you have to do is say so. Just like she has the right to refuse any activities that don’t float her boat.

Think about what you might consent to: maybe you’d be up for light restraining with handcuffs? Or using blindfolds? She could then do all sorts of sexy stuff to you that doesn’t involve pain… All you would have to to do is lie back, relax and enjoy. Surely that’s a win-win situation! Take time to really think about it and you might find it becomes a turn on for you too.

There are a couple of really good books on the subject and you might consider reading them to give you a more rounded idea of what BDSM can do for you: New Book of Bottoming and New Book of Topping.

You can send us any questions at advice@sh-womenstore.com

Good luck!

Team Sh xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity. 

Toy of the Month for September: Sh! Bondage Rope

Toy of the Month for September: Sh! Bondage Rope

I bet you can’t take the suspense any longer. Does that bad pun clue you in to what September’s toy of the month is? That’s right it’s Sh! Bondage Rope.

Sh! bondage rope is long enough for intricate Shibari Japanese Rope Bondage as well bondage-ropeas being suitable for bondage beginners. It’s soft, strong and comes in three beautiful colours that contrast beautifully with your skin.

It’s also great value at just £15 for 10 meters and it won’t leave any rope burns. As always with bondage play, keep communicating with your partner and have safe words set up.

Still not convinced on the beauty of bondage rope? Read these words from the wonderful Candy Snatch:

“The Sh! Bondage Rope knots beautifully, it has a nice chunky circumference to aid in weight distribution and a silky feel which makes creating knots easy as pie. It slides through your hands with real grace as you weave the rope around the item being tied up or down. I encountered no problems with tangling in use and it untied just as nicely as it tied, requiring just a slight wriggle to loosen the knots. The length is perfect for suspending arms or legs if bound together or simple harnesses but for anything very complex you would need more than one roll of rope.

 

Being tied up by Sh! Bondage Rope is very enjoyable indeed. Whilst being tied up I felt no discomfort against my skin. During wear there was no chaffing or rubbing and even during prolonged periods I didn’t feel rope burn. As long as the knots are tied correctly I can’t see the Sh! Bondage rope ever cutting into you or breaking the skin. This said it left me with some lovely rope marks that lasted about a day, however this was after prolonged use.”

Hop over to her blog to read the full review or go get yourself some bondage rope now.

Bondage Erotic Class

Bedroom Bondage Erotic Class

Are you considering signing up for our Bedroom Bondage Erotic Class?

This class is great for those who’d like to explore the possibilities of bondage and sensory play in a safe environment before trying it out at home.

You will get to try a selection of cuffs, collars and other fun tools of the trade.

Bondage is a sensual and sexy way of having your wicked way with a partner. They will be your willing sex slave, completely at your mercy, for a period of time.

How you use that time effectively is up to you. You probably know you should start off by restraining  them in some way…but then what? What happens after that?

What to Expect at a Sh! Bedroom Bondage Class.

In this class, we’ll share ideas for both restraining and what comes after.

Bedroom Bondage is an interactive class where we’ll take you through a number of ways to restrain your partner. We’ll work our way through wrist cuffs, silky ties and soft rope, before moving on to visual restriction by using blindfolds. This leads on to sensory exploration with feathers, vibrators and play candles made of wax.

We’ll finish off with a fun spanking segment – a great way to ramp up arousal, and we’ll show how to get the most out of paddles and crops.

Before the evening is over, you will also be invited to make the most out the 20% discount offered to all guests – although there’s no pressure if you don’t feel ready to shop.

Bedroom Bondage Erotic Class is for women, or for women & couples (see individual classes for information on who it’s for). If you attend on your own, we’ll pair you with another guest or one of our friendly members of staff. We encourage swapping places during the class – this way you’ll get to experience what is like to be the one in charge, and also what it’s like to surrender control for a short while. Everyone stays fully dressed during the class.

If this sounds like just the ticket, just head over to our erotic classes page where you can book a space.  We offer discounts for group bookings – a great excuse to get-together a group of friends for a very different night out!

Book a Bedroom Bondage Soiree – our erotic class party experience at home.

You can also choose learning about bedroom bondage for your Sh! Soiree theme  – our erotic class experience, comes to you!

We currently offer Sh! Soirees within London area.  UK-wide coming soon.  

Whatever the occasion; a girls get-together, a hen, Christmas or leaving do, a birthday party or simply to try something new, a Sh! ‘Bedroom Bondage’ Soiree is playful, educational and always perfectly tuned to the occasion.

 

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Best Bondage Restraints

Whether you’re a newbie toying with a little playful restraint or a bondage expert who regularly swings from the rafters at the local dungeon, your toy box won’t be complete without a pair of quality cuffs.

Bondage cuffs are used for everything from a little light bedroom bondage to full-on restraint

So whether you’re looking to secure your special someone to the headboard in the privacy of your home to fully hog tying them on the floor in a club for everyone to admire – you’ll need a pair of cuffs!

Many people start out their exploration into bondage and restraint using silk scarves or ties, and whilst this may be the easiest, cheapest option, it isn’t the safest or most comfortable.

Instead, we recommend using a pair of wide restraints with a safe locking-system.

Sh! Luxury Suede Restraints
Sh! Luxury Suede Restraints £50

At our studio in London, we manufacture several types these: rubber cuffs, leather cuffs, luxury suede cuffs, all in a range of gorgeous colours, as well as classic black. Our bondage cuffs are manufactured using the best materials and are hand-finished to exacting standards.

Our leather cuffs come lined with deluxe faux fur for your comfort. The luxury suede cuffs are padded, and the satin restraints are luxuriously silky to wear.

When using cuffs and restraints, make sure you can insert a finger between cuff and skin. If you can’t, it’s too tight and you may end up cutting off circulation.

If you’re looking for something cheaper to try out, we stock a range of metal cuffs, rope cuffs and also bondage tape.

Whilst metal cuffs may seem like a good, cheap option, they can be somewhat uncomfortable if you want to really throw yourself into play. These are better for lighter play and dressing up.

Bondage Tape is very popular thanks to it’s incredible versatility: use if for bondage, or blindfolding, or make a shiny dress out of it… The bondage tape sticks to itself, but not to your skin, so won’t hurt when pulled off.

 

The Three Most Popular Restraints as Chosen by Our Customers:

Rubber Wrist Cuffs
Rubber Wrist Cuffs £20

 

Our popular hand-crafted rubber cuffs are manufactured using 3mm thick rubber and feature eyelet rivets, chrome studs and a D-Ring perfect for running chains or ropes through.

Wrap the rubber cuffs around your captives wrists (or ankles) and buckle up!

Cleaning: Wipe down with a damp cloth.

 

 

 

 

 

Leather Cuffs £30
Leather Cuffs £30

 

These top quality bondage wrist cuffs in leather are practical and sturdy enough for a proper bondage session and stylish enough to suggestively wear as part an outfit.

Wide leather cuffs with a single plated D-Ring for trying wrists together or to bedposts.

As these wrist restraints are lined with luxurious fake fur, your captive can throw themselves into play, safe in the knowledge their wrist cuffs will hold them comfortably tight.

Cleaning: Wipe down with a damp cloth.

 

 

 

Satin Restraints £24
Satin Restraints £24

 

Made with love, these versatile and sexy satin ties let you tease, tackle and tie your partner any way you want to.

At a beautiful 39″ long, the Sh! Satin Ties can be used individually or together, to restrain wrists and ankles, to hog-tie, and they even make a fantastic blindfold! The only limit to their sexy use is your imagination…

 

Cleaning: Wipe down with a damp cloth.

 

 

 

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6 Positions For Bondage

Table Bondage: Restrain captive over a table, face up. Tie the cuffs to the table legs.

Bed Bondage: Restrain captive laying on a bed, face up. Tie the cuffs to the bed posts/legs.

Standing/Bending Bondage: Captive’s hands are restrained in cuffs behind their back, either standing or bent over at waist.

Endurance Bondage: Captive’s hands in cuffs above head. Make sure whatever you fix the cuffs to is strong enough to take their weight (a fixing in a door frame is best).

Chair Bondage: Position captive kneeling on a chair facing over the back rest. Tie cuffs to the chair’s back or legs.

Seated Bondage: Restrain captive seated on chair. Wrist & ankle cuffs can be tied as close, or as far apart, as you want…

Bondage Position Safety

Whilst your subject is restrained, you can torment and tease using hands, mouth or toys, but don’t use cuffs on you lover for more than 1 hour at the most as the body gets cold and stiff, and blood flow can be somewhat restricted.

Never leave the room whist your captive tied up.

Never restrain your captive in a position that could make breathing difficult – face down on pillows, for instance.

Remember to establish a ‘safe-word’ before you start. If your captive uses the agreed safe-word, you must untie immediately.

 

 

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Bondage Safety Advice

Bondage can be hot stuff!

If you’re the one tied up,  you get to surrender to one-way attention. In bondage, you are totally free to enjoy your own pleasure without any pressure to ‘bat back’.

Or if you are the one doing the tying-up, you get to be totally in charge of your lover’s pleasure and to feast on the vision of them splayed out in front of you…

It can be hot stuff indeed.

When you think about it many erotic activities; massage; oral sex; hand-jobs – involve some sort of exchange of trust and power, with one partner performing and the other receiving.

Bondage is simply intensifying and ritualising this power dynamic by tying-up your lover and controlling the pace of their pleasure.

It can be sweet surrender all round.

Advice for Playing Safely with Bondage

•  Establish boundaries  before you start. Not just the physical boundaries, but also emotional ones.

• Establish & honour ‘safe words’ that instantly halt the game or ease up on the action should it become too intense.

• Study. There are some great guides about bondage  that will advice and inspire you. The net is also a great resource for bondage information and safety.

Bondage advice for the person doing the tying up…

Always be alert to, and immediately honor, your partner’s use of ‘safe words’ whether in physical or emotional scenes.

Many couples employ two words; one for, ‘lighten-up I’m finding this a bit difficult to take’ and one that means, ‘Stop Now’.

Having trusted safe-words established, means that, as the ‘Top’, you are free to throw yourself into a scene, tease mercilessly and get ‘em moaning, groaning and begging for more…
Always use wide, strong bondage cuffs.

Silk scarves may seem less scary or serious than leather wrist cuffs but actually, they can sneakily tighten to pinching point and even cause permanent nerve damage.
Your lover’s bliss is entirely in your your hands, but remember to keep them safe!

Check their fingers regularly for signs that blood hasn’t stopped flowing to the area (signified by numbness, coolness or blueness). If extremities turn this way untie immediately and rub the area until restored.

Physical Safety in Bondage Play

Never enclose both nose and mouth. 

  • If you gag your partner, they can’t clearly use their safe-words so find an alternative means of communication; a marble to drop that says ‘stop’ for instance.

• Never tie-up your lover face down on soft furnishing.
• Never leave your lover tied-up in bondage alone.

Bondage advice for the person being tied up

• Only allow yourself to be tied up by someone you know well and TRUST COMPLETELY.

•Never allow yourself to be talked into something you don’t want to do.

• Never think that using your safe-words makes you a wuss – they are there to give you FREEDOM, so feel free to throw yourself into an Oscar-worthy performance, secure in the knowledge that you can halt play instantly if you need/want/wish to
• Being helpless, you’re free to relax and relish every sensation. In these decision-overloaded times, you don’t have to think – just feel…so let performance anxieties take a back seat.

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Bondage Bow Review

When we received the brand new Bondage Bow from Rare Assembly – we really wanted to give people an idea of what it could do and how it could improve sex lives, so who better to turn to than our ever adventurous Facebook pair, Caroline and Chris, who have great experience of putting adult paraphernalia through it’s paces, so we caught up with them to see how they got on.

bondage bowCaroline: From the beginning we were excited about receiving the Bondage Bow as it was something we felt was different from other things we had tried in the past. A lot had been made about the presentation of the bow and along with Sh! own presentation style it lived up to the promise. The bow looked divine and rather sensual and in it’s clear packaging, really, very decorative and not unlike a corsage.

Chris: As an item of pleasure for a long time Bondage Tape has been a staple item in our collection and something I’ve recommended to others over the years and so were intrigued so see how it would compare.

How to use the Bondage Bow?

Caroline: First off, I was really impressed that it didn’t in anyway smell of latex, the smell we’ve become accustomed to these days with sex toys. We have put the Bow to good use a number of times as it is so versatile.

Chris: For clarity, Caroline has put the Bow to good use having been on the receiving end of it most of the time.

Caroline: Truly, very guilty – what can I say! At first we tried some

soft play as Chris bound my hands before exploring me. It kept my hands tightly together, I couldn’t struggle even if I had wanted to. What I really enjoyed was the softness of the bow mixed in with how tight it could hold me, the contrast between feelings played on me well.

Chris: Being the restrainer, I really liked that there was so much length to play around with, I could fully bind Caroline’s hands and still have enough left to attach something else, like the bed post.

Caroline: Restrainer? Is that a real thing? Anyway, pushing things further, as we like to do, the next time I allowed him to tie ankles to my hands whilst laying on my back which was rather divine and left me feeling naked and rather vulnerable which is a good thing, especially when you’re with someone you trust. The other great thing I noticed was that sometimes my skin is sensitive to the touch and can find handcuffs or rope a bit too heavy on my skin but the Bow provided the right touch.

Chris: It was quite easy to tie too and it had a little bit of give in it meaning you could stretch it a little to give you a good purchase on the knotting.

 

What else did you enjoy about the Bondage Bow?

Chris: There is so much you can do with this Bow! It really did have us thinking beyond our usual boundaries and using our imaginations from strange places we could attach each other to, to positions we could tie each in or even together.

Caroline: Like some kind game of kinky Twister. Plus then there was the other things you could do with it like the spankings that could be dished out.

 

Who can use the Bondage Bow?

Caroline: The Bondage Bow would be great for a number of people, initially and importantly anyone tentative but inquisitive about restraint or kink play as it would provide a great introduction to the ways of being able to enjoy it without getting into anything heavy, but also give them lots of room to explore other avenues such as using it as a whip, without having to pay out a great amount of money.

Chris: Of course anyone who enjoys soft bondage play is looking for an excuse to add this to their box of tricks right now. What I can say is that it does add something different, new sense of feeling between restraint and soft material but also versatility that many other ties don’t have.

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How does The Bondage Bow compare to Bondage Tape?

Chris: On the face of it, there is a number of similarities including versatility but they are versatile in different ways for example the tape can stick to itself but the Bow is able to be used as a whip, which the tape can’t.

Caroline: It’s also very discreet, we love having the Tape hidden around the house for just when and where we need it but the Bow is even more discreet. You can literally leave it anywhere without raising any suspicions. Having a number of these hidden around your home for just the right occasion for spicing up a quickie, impromptu bondage session or planning something
knowing exactly where it is. My imagination is working overtime right now.

Chris: The other great thing with the Bow is that there less mess than the tape.

 

Any Downsides to the Bondage Bow?

Caroline: The only thing I would say is that if you enjoy the more kinkier side of restraint and bondage then you may want something harder such as the Sh! Satin Ties with D-Rings although I can definitely see everyone enjoying the idea of being able to use a restraint as a whip. As for the product itself Rare Assembly have done a fantastic job, including the overall design. However, the only thing I would like is it for to be a little wider.

 

Summary

Caroline: I would love to give this to someone attached to the top of a present as an alternative to the usual bows. Not only does it look the part but it’s also got a great use, a lover or friend, a cheeky topper on a Hen Night gift or even a wedding present, you’ll be in someone’s good books.

Chris: Value for money-wise, it’s a fantastic product and allows you to really use your imagination and push your fantasies. Whether you’re new to sex toys or an old hand, you’ll find this brings a fresh new twist to your sexual exploration, coupling it up with a blindfold could really ramp up the stakes. Meanwhile, if I ever get a go we’ll get back to you.

Caroline: We won’t be getting back to you.

 

Chris is a Sex and Relationship Mentor and along with Caroline they are well experience at reviewing sex toys and other such products over the years. You can catch up with Chris at his website which is due to launch soon which houses a number of sex positive and mentoring projects.

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