Look After Your En-vibe-ronment

Look After Your En-vibe-ronment

The Goddess of Earth, Gaia, has branched out her Mother Earthly horizons to bless us with something we’ve all been calling out for; eco-friendly sex toys.

“The world’s first biodegradable vibrator” is a welcome breath of fresh air. It’s plusher than the leafy notes of Will Young’s Pop Idol breakout banger, “Evergreen”. Cleverly compounded using a starch-based bioplastic, Blush Novelties have concocted two orgasmic vibrators (one being a bullet) using significantly less energy and greenhouse gases than you’ll find involved in the production of other sex toys. For those trying to reduce their carbon footprint, you no longer need to sacrifice your orgasms; you can now recycle them. Hallelujah.

When 2 Become 1

But, how do you know if this toy is for you? The eco-friendly appeal only goes so far when you’re using it to get you off…BUT what about if we told you that the Goddess Gaia is here for you and only you. Using a somewhat traditional dial control, you can adjust the vibrators intensity to the exact speed you prefer. You can start low and slowly twist it stronger, inline with your orgasm. In fact, you only need to twist the lid in one direction to turn on and the other to turn off. The bullet is even simpler, with a button on the lid that you press once to turn on and once to turn off; there is only one singular speed setting for this toy.

So, they’re fairly quiet, super simple to use and even better, they’re cheap! This means that if you’re new at the whole sex toy thing and not sure really where to start, the vibrator or bullet from the Gaia set could be your gateway toy. Take the vibe, for instance, it’s rounded, tapered tip means it’s comfortable and precise. Perfect for internal (vaginally – not anally) or external use, the longer shaft makes it easy to hold. Meanwhile, the bullet functions in the same way as the larger vibrator, but is much smaller and designed for clitoral (or nipple) use.

How to recycle?

As we mentioned above, both the Gaia vibes are fabulously recyclable. But how does one go about this? Can you take them back to us? Do you throw them into your cabbage patch with your used teabags? Can you mash the stalks into a delicious vegan curry paste? We are afraid; the answers to these is a firm no.

Yet, they are easily recyclable, it says so on the box in a large(ish) font. All you need to do is take it to your local commercial composting centre and job done. Bravo!

Anal Sex Blog Post

A beginners’ guide to anal play

Anal play is one of those things that most people don’t talk about but have a quiet desire to try. It’s sort of taboo, which is a huge turn on, but it’s also something that many people love, making it curious for those who have never tried it. Is in not just painful and messy?

Well, it can be but it shouldn’t be, if that makes sense. Anal play, when done right, is intensely pleasurable and you can orgasm from it.

The trick is to take it slow and steady – it’s not a swimming pool. Don’t throw yourself into it.

Anal play requires preparation, time and lube. Lots of lube.

A common concern about anal sex is the potential for mess, so let’s start there.

The anus and rectum are designed to expel, so if you are going to play in the area, you and your partner need to be prepared for coming into contact with faeces. This is the reality of anal play.

However, there are a few ways of ensuring you get as few surprises as possible:

  • Make sure the person on the receiving end has been to the loo; this is essential and will allow you both to relax.
  • Showering together will start the erotic build-up. Soap up their bottom and rinse off – shower jets over the anus feel very sexy. Dry off gently, and kiss their buttocks.
  • Some people prefer to use douches to feel extra clean. Douches are bulbs that you fill with water and insert into the anus, before expelling the lukewarm water into your body. Using cold water will be painful, and using hot water will scald; body temperature is perfect. The water will flow out in its own time so if you are going to douche, make sure to do this a few hours before play begins.


Lube for Anal Play

A silicone-based lube is great for skin-on-skin anal play. It’s long-lasting and won’t dry up, and typically doesn’t have any scent or taste. Add a drizzle to your fingers before stroking onto your partner’s butt.

If you’re planning on using silicone toys, or toys with a soft surface, you’ll need to stock up on water-based lube. Water-based lube will sink into the skin so you will need to re-apply, or add some saliva to reactivate lube that’s already been applied.

For extra hygiene, as well as safer sex with or without toys, you might want to get some condoms for anal sex too. If you have long or sharp nails, get some latex gloves to make them smoother – tushies are delicate and you don’t want to snag the thin membranes.

Warming Up

Just like a session at the gym, you need to warm up properly or you could do yourselves an injury.

Take the time to massage your partner’s buttocks, lower back, and upper thighs; the skin is one large erogenous zone, and kneading, touching and stroking will help get you both in the mood for more.

Using your thumbs, glide along the crease from the inner thigh to the outer side and repeat. Next, put your hands in a prayer position on your partner’s tailbone and glide up and down between the buttocks for a sensual and relaxing start to anal play.

Add a little lube to your fingertips and stroke gently around the anal rim. Explore the anal opening without penetrating it.

If you both feel comfortable with it, rimming is a fantastic way to get the anus ready and waiting. Licking, kissing and sucking on all the nerve-endings in the area may make your play partner feel like their brains are melting… Just saying.


When your partner starts pushing back for more attention, it’s time to ramp it up a bit.

The Happy Hiney Anal Comfort Cream gently relaxes the area, which is perfect for first-timers. Containing no numbing agents, Happy Hiney delivers a tingling sensation, which helps relax tense, nervous muscles and reduce sensations of extra friction.

Note: We don’t recommend using numbing creams for any kind of sexual activity, especially not anal play. Pain is the body’s way of telling you that something is wrong, and overriding this function can have dire consequences. 

If you’re totally new to any type of anal adventure, it’s best to start small. Our Vibrating Silicone Anal Beads are an ideal beginner’s toy as the beads start off small and gradually increase in size, so you can go at your own pace and just enjoy the delicate vibrations.

A butt plug is a small toy that gets inserted for a sensual ‘full’ feeling. Leave the plug in place so they have something to squeeze against. You can wiggle it a little, or slowly move it in and out so the anus pops open and closes again; many peeps enjoy this sensation.
Butt Plugs

Any toy used for anal sex needs to be safe for this type of play; i.e. they must have a flared base or a handle. Using unsafe toys for anal play often ends badly and we don’t want this to happen to you.

This might be as far as you go on this first occasion, but it’s plenty. You want to leave the brain thinking of anal play as something pleasurable, as that’ll make it easier for it to relax the next time.

Many couples who are embarking on anal sex for the first time are keen on getting ‘stuck in’ as soon as possible, but this is often a mistake. Rushing it makes for an uncomfortable or painful experience.

If you’ve decided to go for full penetration, you’ll still need to start as above; building it up slowly helps the body relax and welcome the penis or dildo.

The inside of the anus is a lazy S-shape, so make sure you’re familiar with your partner’s internal curves before dipping in. Visualize their insides and move to accommodate this; this is especially important if you’re using a dildo as you won’t be able to feel resistance or any dry areas.

Keep checking in with your partner. Make sure they’re having a great time, and keep the bond going by kissing and touching.

We tend to recommend the receiving partner is on top when anal play is new for you both. This gives them the freedom to rock, wiggle or just sit still if that’s what feels best. You can get all adventurous and try out different positions later when you both feel more confident.

Prostate Play

The butts of male-bodied peeps have an additional part that enjoys gentle stimulation: the prostate.

The back-door area has long been shrouded in shame and denial, especially for straight men, but we’re delighted to say that the P-spot and its pleasure potential is finally out in the open (about bloomin’ time!).

The prostate has the ability to make its owner multi-orgasmic, and this is well worth exploring. The best book on the subject, in our opinion, is The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Play by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian. It covers everything from hygiene to maintaining prostate health to illustrated tips and techniques about achieving supercharged orgasms.

The rules for stimulating a butt with a prostate are the same as the rules for stimulating a butt without a P-spot: Take your time, use lashings of lube, ensure your nails are short & smooth and make sure the person on the receiving end is having the time of their lives!

By following our advice, your bum-fun should be nothing but(t) a good time!


Lesbian Class Blog Post

What to expect from our lesbian sex classes

If you’re keen to explore sex in an open, friendly environment where questions are always welcome, our educational sex classes are a great option for you.

Learning about sex and finding out the things that you want to can be intimidating, but it really doesn’t have to be.

Read on to find out more about what you can expect to discover when you attend one of our lesbian sex classes.

Who are the lesbian sex classes for?

We know how scary (and empowering!) it can feel to be newly out or ready to take it a step further with a special someone, which is why we are here to answer any and all questions that you might have.

Just because the title is ‘lesbian sex class’, please don’t think you’re going to be refused entry if you identify differently. We endeavor for each of our classes to be all-encompassing, which is why whether you are bisexual, pansexual, fluid, or straight but keen to try something new, you’ll be warmly welcomed by our friendly team.

Cis woman or trans woman makes no difference – if you identify as a woman who is interested in getting hot & bothered with other women, this class is for you.

Oh, also – there is no shaming of any kind allowed in our classes. The butchest of all butches to the femmest of all femmes, and everyone in between, is welcome. (Swooning at dapper waistcoats or sparkly nails is all par for the course at Sh!)

What will be covered during the class?

You’ll be glad to know that throughout the course of this class, all of the important stuff will be covered.

You’ll learn how to practice safer sex, an area that we don’t think receives half the attention that it should when it comes to sex between women.

We’ll talk about the importance of smooth fingernails as well as the best ways to use lube to enhance all sex play. We’ll talk fingers and tongues, and how to work out what she really likes.

Do you teach people about the female body?

Vulva PuppetNaturally, no woman-on-woman sex class would be complete without a bright focus on the female anatomy. Expect to learn about juicy hot spots, with special attention being paid to the clitoris and the G-spot. This happens with pictures, diagrams and more hands-on teaching with the help of our plush vulva ‘Rosie’.

After all, these two spots can create intense magic, so it’s important you feel clued up on how they work! (We’ll offer each guest to feel for Rosie’s G-spot, but you don’t have to take part in this if it makes you uncomfortable.)

What about positions?

We want to ensure guests know that sex doesn’t have to focus on penetration in order to be enjoyable, and the positions we talk about are more about bumping & grinding together. Penetration with fingers or toys are optional and not necessary for a great time.

And talking about toys; we’ll show a cherry-picked selection of small size sex toys that you and a partner can have fun exploring together.

Rounding things up

As mentioned above, we like to ensure that our classes are as open as possible, which is why we encourage people to ask any and all of the questions that they want to. Common questions include “is it possible to have too much sex” and “why does she/I get so sore when we have lots of sex” as well as questions about whether or not you should shave your pubic hair off before getting intimate with another woman.


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How to introduce bondage into your bedroom

50 Shades-fans are excitedly waiting for the third and final instalment of the erotic romance Fifty Shades Trilogy by British author E. L. James, opening just before Valentine’s Day. No doubt, couples will feel inspired to try kinky play for the very first time, with spanking and bondage topping the list of sexy activities to try.


By definition, bondage is the act of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, cuffs, bondage tape and self-adhering bandage are all commonly used by more experienced players.

Bondage and kink can sound pretty daunting, especially if you’re not one to throw caution to the wind and jump into the unknown feet first.

To help you along, we have some useful tips and tricks that’ll help you get to grips with it.

Read on for our advice on the best way to introduce bondage into your bedroom.

Bringing up the subject with your partner

When it comes to sexual excitement, the element of surprise can often work wonders, but this isn’t always the case when it comes to bondage.

Being tied up can, for some people, result in panic, so it’s always better that you let your partner know that this is something that you want to do before you get started.

Have an open discussion where you talk through your desires with them, and ask them how they would feel about trying these things out with you.

Start with small steps

satin_blindfold_black_3There are so many fun items available for you to practice bondage, but it’s best to go slowly and build yourself up to the more advanced products in time.

For first-timers, we recommend keeping it simple with a beautiful satin blindfold, for example. This will introduce you to sensory play and helps to build excitement, which is likely to encourage you and your partner to continue on your adventurous journey.

Restricting someone’s vision causes all their other senses to be on high alert, and every touch, lick and kiss will be felt much more intensely.

Avoid knot ties

quickcuffs1_1Bondage rope and other items that tie into a knot are popular with seasoned kinksters, but aren’t necessarily a good choice for those just starting out.

Instead, why not try the Quick Cuffs, which are simple yet effective? These cuffs are super easy to slip on and off, but lets you experience the feeling of being restrained in a safe way. Quick Cuffs are made from body-friendly silicone and doesn’t require keys or faffing with locks.

Whatever your choice of wrist cuffs or other types of restraints, always make sure to have medical scissors within reach. Should the restrained partner panic unexpectedly (and this can happen), you want to be able to release them quick-sharp.

Important: never leave a restrained person alone in a room. It’s neither funny nor safe.

Continue to communicate with your partner

When it comes to sex, honesty is always the best policy, so if you feel uncomfortable about something, be sure to let your partner know.

Equally, if you really enjoy something, being vocal is a great way to heighten pleasure and excitement for both yourself and your partner. Remember, sex is meant to be enjoyable, so relax, let go and see where your adventure takes you.Print


Non-Monogamy for Beginners

Thinking about opening up your relationship? Or are you perhaps the new amour coupling up with someone who already has a primary partner? Negotiating open relationships can be a minefield and it is not unlikely that you’ll set off a firework or two before you get it right.

Join us for an elightening introduction to polyamory & other non-monogamous relationships, open & honest communication and how to have more fulfilling relationships with the full consent and knowledge of your partner(s).

The evening will include a discussion on the various non-monogamous relationship styles and their terminology and practical application for those who have already begun their journey into non-monogamy or are curious about how to open a discussion with their partner about non-monogamy.

The talk will cover the following topics:

  • Monogamy is not for everyone and it doesn’t have to be
  • Why be non-monogamous
  • Non-monogamy myths
  • Recognising your own needs within a relationship
  • Open and honest communication with your partner(s)
  • Setting boundaries that you are comfortable with
  • Choose a relationship structure that suits you and your partner(s)
  • Feelings exist and they are ok to have
  • Other people exist and they are allowed to have feelings too
  • Miscommunication and betrayal
  • Love and other chemicals

The talk will be followed by an open and informal group discussion and Q&A for attendees to deepen their understanding of non-monogamous relationship practices.

Book your ticket to our talk on Non-Monogamy for Beginners here. 

This talk is for women & couples.

Glass Dildos in Bucket of Ice

Glass Dildos For Beginners

Few will disagree when we say glass dildos are stunningly beautiful, but many will wince and imagine a number of of glass-related accidents in the sensitive nether regions. Let’s shatter (sorry!) that mental pic right now. Your PC muscle may be strong enough to squeeze the juice out of a lemon (don’t try it) but it is not strong enough to break a glass dildo, we promise.

A vagina is mighty impressive, but there are some things it just cannot do. Like snap a Pyrex or toughened glass dildo in half. Glass dildos are solid, like oven dishes, so it’s safe to relax and read on.

Glass dildos are firm, and this firmness can feel magical – especially if you enjoy G-spot play. We recommend starting off with this simple move: lube up the dildo, and slide in only a small portion. Leave the dildo in place, and rhythmically squeeze around it. Your body will tell you when it is ready for more.

Glass Dildos are Versatile Sex Toys

Glass dildos are commonly designed with two different ends, giving you the option of enjoying different sensations depending on which end you choose to play with. The Sh! Glass Double Dildo in purple is an excellent example of this.


This dil features a pronounced ‘head’ on one end and ball-shaped bead at the other. Both are ideal for delivering the targeted massage and circular ‘juicing’ movements that both the G-Spot and prostate respond to, whilst the lengthy shaft ensures easy handling.

Sensual curves flow along the body of the Sh! Double Dildo, treating you to sweet sensations as the vagina opens and closes around the ripples.

Glass Dildos are Simply Beautiful

The first thing that strikes customers are the beautiful designs of glass dildos – they are works of art!

The Flower Glass Dildo is super cute with a small flower set in one end. The shaft offers deliciously raised dots for internal stimulation and you can, of course, use either end depending on your mood.

The gentle curve of the shaft is good for anyone new to glass toys, as it follows the natural inside curve of the vagina.


Ice Ice Baby

Unless you love intense heat (and some do), keeping cool during the recent heatwave has probably been a priority. Cool showers, iced drinks and fans are the most common go-to solutions but what if there were more fun ways of keeping the internal temperature down?

Good news peeps, there is!

Glass dildos are fantastic for temperature play, as we shall explain next…

Glass Dildos On Ice

Leaving a glass dildo in the fridge for 30 minutes before play time will chill it down nicely. The thought may send shivers down your spine – but as long as they are by the promise of sexy play, it’s all good. Slowly stroking a chilled dil down your hot body feels heavenly on a scorching day.

Running the dildo under cold water is another great idea. It cools down quickly and you’ll get the added tease of waterdrops slowly making their way down your naked body – incredibly visual if you’re playing with a partner…

We wouldn’t recommend popping a dildo in the freezer – the glass, if thoroughly frozen, could attach to your bits and there is absolutely nothing sensual about that.

A gentler way of exploring temperature play is to leave your bottle of lube in the fridge. That way you can add one or two drops at a time and see how you feel about the coolness before going the whole hog and feasting on a chill-dil.

Let’s take a closer look at some of our most popular glass dildos.

Glass Dildo with beaded shaft (£37)

Sh! G-spot Glass Dildo is as popular with customers as it is with staff.  At only 1 inch in diameter, this dildo is slim but curvaceous, perfect if you don’t enjoy toys that are too girthy.

Its ergonomically curved tip is designed to press against and help stimulate your G-Spot, but is also well-suited to prostate massage.

If you are interested in exploring female ejaculation & squirting, this well-designed dildo can certainly help you on your way. The G-spot reacts better to firm stimulation than the soft pitter-patter of finger tips, and the weightiness of glass dildos deliver this in spades!

As with all sex toys, we recommending adding a drizzle of lube for comfortable play and enhanced sensations. As glass is non-porous, any lubricant can be used. Adding a few drops quickly turns your dildo into a slippery, sensual sex siren.

sh_-ripple-small-pink-glass-dildoSh! Small Ripple Glass Dildo is a good option if you feel the length of some of the dildos seem a little intimating. As we all know, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean…

Subtle beads ripple along the shaft of this cutie, and the large loop handle at the end ensures it is perfectly safe for anal play too.

It’s worth noting that whilst a more petite size, Sh! Ripple Dildo isn’t suited for newbie anal play – it is better suited for more experienced back-door players.

Sh! Double Glass Dildo offers two very different types of pleasure. One end is smooth and sleek, perfect for stroking in and out. The other end has been designed for contrasting sensations, with raised dots delivering intense pleasure. Slather the dots in your favourite lubricant and it may well become a new toy-box favourite!


How To Keep Glass Dildos Clean

Glass dildos are hypoallergenic and non-porous, meaning that all lube & juices stay on the surface of the toy. This makes them easy-peasy to clean!

A spritz of sex toy cleaner, or washing with antibacterial hand wash and hot water is all that’s needed to keep your dil spick&span.

A Monologue with My Vagina

A Monologue with My Vagina

You won’t be surprised to hear that we talk about vaginas all day long; what we love about them, what we don’t love about them, what to do if a vagina seems too tight, too elastic, too painful for pleasure…. If you have ever visited our shop in East London, chances are that you took part in a conversation about vaginas, or at least overheard one. It’s what we do.

We celebrate the pussy.

It’s Masturbation Month and we figure there’s no better time to start a online conversation with and about our vaginas. IRL we talk about our muffkins daily, so why not here too?

For some reason, talking about a male rubbing one off is perfectly ok but people still shy away from discussing techniques and tips when it come to tickling one’s yoniberry. Which is why many women assume there is only one way of doing it – their way, naturally.

Having come across a video of US sexuality educator Betty Dodson teaching a group of women how to masturbate many years ago, we were blown away: there were so many different ways of doing it!

We watched the old vhs video many times – just in case we’d missed something.

Then we set about recreating what we’d seen. Wowzers!

We’re not going to beat about the bush with this one, we’re diving in deep and we’re going to start from the beginning:

When Did You First Start Jiggling Your Jewel?

Whatever you want to call it, buffin’ the muffin, jilling off, diddling the skittle, or the more sophisticated menage a moi, there was a time when you discovered what your clitoris could do – and you probably haven’t stopped petting it since.

When was this?

An open poll amongst good friends came up with some funny answers.


Powerful, neverending and set to a comfortable temperature, we reckon shower jets are the number one reason teenage girls spend so much time in the shower – it’s an excellent way of working out what the V.A.G likes.

Also, not to be ignored is the power of bezzie mates – a best friend is worth her weight in gold. Especially if she knows how to buff a muff – it’s a skill that will no doubt come in handy (ha!) throughout life.download

It seems that ages 10-12 are important for sexual awakenings, as most of the friends we asked ‘found’ their happy button around that age – or at least discovered its magic.

One of us had a less-than-pleasant first experience, though. Whilst not deliberate masturbation, it seems an innocent play session with friends turned into an early orgasmic experience.

Having watched – in envy – her friends shimmy on up the swing frames, she decided to have a go. It was a slow, arderous climb, with some gliding back down before throwing herself back on the pole, when all of a sudden she developed a weird twitchyness and weak knees. Not understanding what was going on (that took another 10 years), she hopped off and never attempted to climb another pole or frame again… But a decade on, it suddenly made sense why her friends kept climbing those poles!

We’d love to hear what you have to say about your own discovery – leave a comment below or chat with us on  Twitter using #TickleYourPickle.

Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies

Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies

Taking the plunge and buying your very first sex toy is exciting and a little bit scary – what if you don’t like it? Or what if you like it too much?!  (We promise that “liking it too much” is a not thing when it comes to pleasure, so no need to worry about that!)

We have compiled a list of our Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies: whatever the style of toy you think you might like, we have something that’ll suit your desires.

These toys are all rated 5-star on our website, so you can relax in the knowledge that someone has already bought one of these toys and thought it was ace!

All the toys on our Top 5 list are of course body-safe and very affordable – because a great orgasm shouldn’t cost an arm & a leg!

First Sex Toy For Clitoral Stimulation

Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. It’s no surprise – the clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings on its very tip so it is a massively important part for pleasure. An estimated 75% of women say they need the right kind of stimulation in the right place on the clitoris for the right length of time to orgasm – and that can be hard work! Which is where a great vibrator comes in. 🙂

The Love Bullet Lipstick Vibe is a bestseller both in our shop in London, and with our website customers.top5_4

Its discreet design and petite size means you can take it everywhere, including on holidays. Store it in your make up bag and no one will be the wiser!

Despite the small size, the Lipstick packs a punch – it’s incredibly powerful and with 8 different settings to explore, you are almost spoilt for choice. This vibrator is USB rechargeable, so you can easily charge it up whilst you are working or surfing your favourite social media sites.

Oh, and it’s fully waterproof!

First Sex Toy For G-spot Stimulation

The G-spot is an area located a couple of inches up on the inside of the vagina. There are doubters, but we say “bah!” to them – the G-spot is an actual area and with the right kind of stimulation, marvelously deep orgasms could come your way!

Our Mini Pink G-spot Vibe is small, slim and quiet, but works top5_1
wonders when applied to the sensitive G-spot area. The bump at the tip of the Mini Pink is there to help find and stimulate the G-spot. A good trick to try is “juicing” the G-spot – rather than sliding the vibe in and out at breakneck speed (often seen in bad porn), slowly work it back & forth on the G-spot itself. The G-spot likes firm pressure, so don’t be shy.

It may feel like you need to go for a pee which can be distracting, but relax into the sensations and you might find that waves of pleasure soon follow.

First Rabbit-Style Vibrator

Rabbit vibrators of old were mainly made out of less-than-great materials and for some unfathomable reason, designed to be huge.

top5_2These days, Rabbit vibrators come in body-safe materials and a range of sizes to suit all tastes. The 5-star toy we’ve added to our Top 5 list of sex toys is Cute Rabbit, a dual-stimulation vibe made from strokeable silicone, which is USB rechargeable and fully waterproof.

The internal shaft is short and smooth, and delivers delicious pressure to the G-spot.  The clit stimulator, which has its own motor, reaches over and offers direct stimulation to the clit.

Dual stimulation toys, i.e toys with a shaft for internal pleasure as well as a built-in clitoral pleaser, are great for bringing on what’s known as blended orgasms: pleasure waves from both clit and G-spot simultaneously. *swoooon*

First Sex Toy For Couples

The Ovo Cock Ring is a stretchy vibrating ring for couples. Worn around the base of the manhood, it enhances erections and provides additional thrills during penetration.top5_3

Ovo is a a little gem for beginners – it is so easy to use. Add a little water-based lube to his semi-erect shaft for comfort, before sliding the ring over the penis and all the way down. The ring stops back-flow of blood and makes the erection both firmer and more sensitive. Switch on the one-speed bullet before she positions herself on top – this way she can grind against the vibration in ways that feel best for her.

Cock rings are the perfect accessory for introducing toys into the bedroom; small and non-threatening, and with enough functions to keep you both happy.

First Sex Toy For Anal Play

Cute beginners butt plug with removable mini bullet – perfect for first time anal play.  This small, ergonomically curved butt plug has a sensual, shapely body designed in harmony with the curves of your body and a narrow neck for comfort.top5_5

The tiny vibrating bullet fits into a hole hidden in the base, and the vibrations can help relax tense tushies.

A lot (a lot!) of people enjoy anal play and even more people fantasize about trying it. The trick is to go slow and use lots of lube – preferably a lube designed for the delicate rectal membranes.

A butt plug offers fullness and pressure, and the additional vibrations delivers super-thrilling sensations.

So there you have it – our Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies. Only one question remains: which sex toy will YOU choose?



How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

During the process of writing this post we have researched as much as possible about the topic to give a constructive and informed opinion. What we have found is that the little scientific research that has been conducted on female ejaculation is highly contradictory and really inconclusive. Scientists keep arguing, speculating or drawing conclusions based on extremely small case studies (i.e. the French study on female ejaculation  is based on the experiences of only 7 women!).

We are not scientists and whilst there are truly still many ‘myths’ left to solve, here’s what we can gather.

Firstly, let’s clear the air.

Squirting is NOT a must. Porn has created a culture of unrealistic gushing and moaning; of women screaming to the top of their lungs and squirting bucketfuls to their heart’s content.
noa_contents_deep_roseLife disclosure: You can have amazing, mind-blowing sex, not squirt and it will still be amazing, mind-blowing sex. Multi and blended orgasms, BDSM, bum-fun, sexy massages, toys of all shapes and sizes or just good ol’ loving sex are just some of the things you can do to widen your sex experiences and sexuality. Squirting is fantastic because it comes with G-Spot orgasms, releasing more or less fluid is actually just a side-effect!

So before we enter the slippery slope of squirting – breathe and take that stress off your and/or your partner’s shoulders.

So, what is Squirting?

Squirting is the release of fluid coming out of the urethra during orgasm. The quantities may vary from person to person and there is no wrong answer to how much fluid one must release to be considered squirting.
What is this magical fluid you may ask? Well, here’s where it get’s tricky and where there is no definite answer. *cough…sexism…cough*
The ‘main ingredients’ seem to vary between these two:
1. Alkaline liquid from the Skene’s glands (which is the female equivalent of the prostate) made of similar components of those produced by the male prostate, along with glucose and fructose.
2. Traces of urine

The quantity of how much of these two are in this fluid has rattled many cages and it is still inconclusive *cough…sexism…cough*. But honestly…so what if it is made of urine? Understand that whatever it is made of, it is a natural way of the body to respond to stimulation.  So as long as you are having safe, consensual sex… just enjoy it! If you are having trouble with your partner due to embarrassment, this is the time to reclaim that empowerment.

Sex is messy and fun and that is just fine! 😀

Then… what is that other fluid I release when I have sex? Is that Squirting?

Those of us with female reproductive organs release many-a-fluids when playing with ourselves, a fun-buddy or partner. One of them is natural lubrication when aroused – the more arousal, the more lubrication. So if you feel you are releasing a lot of fluids, odds are your body is just having tons of fun lubricating itself. You can however feel very aroused and not lubricate – that’s also fine!IMG_5499
There are all kinds of lubes to help, we recommend our water-based lube, odourless and tasteless it is a perfect gal pal if you want some extra lubrication.

Will I be ever able to squirt?

There is no one secret way of making someone squirt. We all have different bodies that may require different attention. And, as always, your mental state (whether just had a bad day and are very stressed or very relaxed) also plays a big part in your sexual experience.

There is also a lot of debate on whether all or only some women can squirt: so if squirting is like riding a bicycle or being able to touch your nose with your tongue. And again, many may debates and no real conclusion (*cough…you-know-how-it-goes…cough*), but if you want to know whether you can squirt there is only one way to figure it out – and it’s loads of fun.

How to squirt

With that in mind, there is a correlation between the G-Spot and squirting. gspot-300x258The G-Spot is located close to the entrance of the vagina, about half a finger in and up on the front wall. Have a feel with a lubed-up finger – the ridged area is the G-spot. Some are harder to locate than others, so if you don’t find yours in a jiff don’t stress, it might take some exploring. The G-Spot also swells when you are aroused, so that might also be a good time to try and find it, this time it will feel like a spongy lump. Found it? Smashing!

The G-Spot needs a lot of stimulation, and exercising your PC muscle or “kegels” will help in sensitising your G-Spot and having stronger penetrative orgasms.

Here’s when the love balls come in (pun intended). These are small body-safe and usually silicon-made balls to insert into your vagina. They are made to be easily inserted and removed, so not to worry about ‘losing them’. Try stopping your pee half way when you are urinating: that “pulling up” movement is done by your PC muscle.
sh-love-ballsSh! love balls are hypoallergenic and contain no latex or phthalates, they are non-porous and super easy to clean, but the Fun Factory Smartballs Uno or Duo Geisha Love Balls also have 5 star reviews from customers, so take your pick 😉 One you have them inside you just repeat that “pulling up” movement. You can start slow trying it out a few times and raise the number of “pulling up” movement as you progress.

rocks-off-rock-chick-miniNow, to the G-Spot. Reaching to it can be tricky if you are alone, in which case using a sex toy is helpful. For first timers, the Rocks-Off Rock Chick Mini vibe is affordable, powerful and it doesn’t forget about the wondrous clit! Once you’ve located it, regardless if you’re using a sex toy or fingers a classic tip is to try a “come hither” motion.

If you’re more of an expert and want to get to the next level, the Demona Wave Vibe is the best friend of toy reviewers Candy Snatch and Miss Jezzebella as well as our own sex toy tester.

Try it by yourself or a partner and whatever happens, relax and enjoy a wet Valentine’s 😀



Travelling with Sex Toys

Do’s and Don’ts of Travelling with Your Sex toy

So, you’re all ready. Since you got the tickets you’ve been fantasizing about that sexy, all-round fun and frisky love-making you’re going to have. Only one problem: You are afraid your sex toy might prove to be the no. 1 cause of “oh dears” and “my, my” faces at security checks (even though it makes your eyes roll every single time.)

Well, the first and foremost advice we give you is – so what? Embarrassment is really a non-factor in travelling with sex toys because these people handle thousands of articles every day.  Your sex toy won’t even qualify for tea-break gossip!

Nevertheless, maybe the country you’re travelling to isn’t as open about it, maybe your carry-on just won’t fit it in-between the French dictionary and hundred PG tea bags we all take abroad – what do you do and which toys do you take?

Cabin in the Woods

This trip will take you far from the bustling city life, so remote and breathtaking that not even Frodo would find it.

First tip, if you choose to travel with your vibrators packed in your checked-in luggage, we would recommend that you take the batteries (if there are any) out of your toys. You don’t want them to suddenly start buzzing as they go through the scanner and the Security Guards thinking they’re a bomb, rather than innocent little toys! When airport security removes a vibrator, it’s typically because they don’t know what it is, so it’s a good idea to pack your vibrators in a way that makes them easily identifiable. Some recommend to put a little note in the bag where you place them explaining what they are, or a bag that says “This bag contains sex toys”. If you still have the original packaging, pack your toys in that.

If you want a toy that is both mind-blowing and discreet, the Lelo Noa is designed to be worn during penetrative sex to give both partners a special kind of buzz. noa_contents_deep_rose-1It’s not just fun, it’s so stylish and unthreatening it’s hard to think it would attract unwanted attention.

This Peacock Feather Brooch Tickler will get you in touch with your wildest self, and you can even wear it over your coat or shirt!

There is nothing more sexy than strutting proudly through airport security with your sensual tickler. If they look at it twice, they know what it is, and if they know what it is, smile and move along 😉


Romantic Spa in the Mountain

Let the world fade away slowly in a mud bath with your partner’s legs wrapped around you.

Reaching these destinations can be tricky and exhausting, and you will usually need several modes of transport to get to your amazing spa.
If NOT loosing your toys or having them confiscated is your highest priority, we recommend packing your vibrators in your hand luggage (take the batteries out!) and carrying them with you.
If your carry-on baggage gets stopped and a security agent asks ‘what’s in your bag?’ or for you to explain unidentifiable items on the x-ray display; tell it to them straight. Repeat with us: “That is my sex toy and it is fantastic”.
No way around this one, but in adversity playing “I will survive” in your head will always put a smile on your face 🙂

To get in the mood of your spa, the Vibe Enoki Wand Massager looks like it’s been pulled out of a Bond movie.viv--enoki-small-wand-massager-flexi-wand1 Get an amazing massage from a professional, go to your room…and get an amazing massage from a professional! Your and you fun-buddy deserve that 5 star treatment.
And for those times in-between activities where you’re separated, this waterproof Remote Control Egg Vibrator is a lush way to make them remember you at all times 😉

Sex On the Beach is Not a Cocktail

Is January giving you the winter blues? Go to Bali, go to Cape Town! Take your fun-buddy with you, some piña coladas and don’t look back.

When you’re travelling to a culturally unknown place, The US Travel Security Administration is a good yardstick for which rules will apply for luggage items in general (as they are rather tough on their migration laws). The TSA states that “tools” with a length of 7 inches (about 17cm) are suitable for carry-on luggage.

mini-pink-vibratorA lovely vibe to fit is the Mini Pink Vibe (one of our best sellers!), which was recently reviewed by GenderQueerReviews – and she loved it! It’s compact and it’s vibrations so perfect there is no way it will slip your mind to pack it.



And if you want to hide your giggles as you go through security, this Curler Brush Vibrator is so discreet no one will look twice!
To fully get the Brush Vibrator experience, we recommend winking to your partner every time you check your make up.

But most importantly, repeat after us:
“This is my vibrator. And it is fantastic”.



If you have any further questions please don’t hesitate to contact us advice@sh-womenstore.com