Introduction to Energy Play – a class with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

People are often introduced to the idea of working with and playing with energy in spiritual practices like meditation, ritual, magick, yoga, reiki, tantra.

Sexual energy is the same as spiritual energy is the same as what some people call the subtle energies. The energy is raised in a different manner and used for a different purpose but it is, in essence, the same.

Energy play in Kink and BDSM is when people manipulate and exchange energy – usually through touch, as part of their sexual and BDSM play and scenes.

In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources.

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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on where b
In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources. oth her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at

Join Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott at their new Munch
Let’s Talk About Intersex, Baby

Let’s Talk About Intersex, Baby

Red hair. Unusual? Yes. Abnormal? No. Prince Harry is ginger. As is all seven of the Weasleys. Bette Midler didn’t try to hide her bright red locks from the public. According to the World Health Organisation and the UN, roughly the same number of intersex individuals exist as there are redheads; so approximately 1.7% of the population.

Intersex is the term given to people whose genitals, reproductive organs, chromosomes, or hormones vary from the male or female binary.

According to this mutually exclusive limitation of sex, their reproductive organs may not match typically together with their genitals or, perhaps, when they mature they might realise that their pubescent hormones are more consistent with those otherwise experienced by people of another sex. The vast majority of intersex qualities have no negative implications, just like the characteristic of ginger hair.


What does Intersex mean for individuals?

From auburn to pure carrot, babies with shades of red hair aren’t required to dye it by society. Yet, intersex new-borns have traditionally been forced to undergo genital normalisation surgery, aka Intersex Genital Mutilation, before they reach six months. Doctors are physically modifying infants all over the world in operations that they are too young to consent to. This is especially shocking considering that the operation in question is not imperative to the person’s (or baby’s) overall health.

These operations usually cause intersex people to rely on hormone medication for the rest of their lives and need to follow up surgeries for at least until they reach adulthood. Victims experience post-traumatic stress disorder, negative body image, and scarring. In the worst cases, some are left infertile. This harrowing procedure is imposed on individuals all over the world. Fortunately, the UN has now recognised such operations as a violation of human rights, although there is still a long way to go for thousands of people. In several countries, babies are murdered upon the discovery of their intersex identity; the fear of negative societal judgment is so real that some parents consent to this atrocity. 

“Normalisation” operations demonstrate the lengths that we, as a society, still need to go to understand and correctly separate sex from gender.

By practicing IGM, doctors are essentially guessing what gender an infant will feel most comfortable living as, in accordance to binary definitions of the male and female sexes. These assumptions are based around the exterior appearance of babies’ genitals. No doubt, they often get it wrong.

This may seem more out-dated than the marketing campaign of Yorkie chocolate bars but it is happening everywhere. Take the recent, infamous case of two-time Olympian Gold winner, Caster Semenya, for example.

After “suspicions” that Semenya has a higher level of testosterone than other runners in her category, she began a lawsuit against the international sporting organisation to fight the decision that she would have to take drugs to lower these hormones if she were to continue running for her country. Earlier this month, she lost her case. How ironic is this – coming from an industry governed by doping fears?

The sports world, like wider society, is failing individuals by continuing to implement increasingly archaic binaries. By doing so, they are stealing the individual’s autonomy over their own bodies. Throughout all of this, Semenya has remained defiant. Discovery US recently released this video on Twitter in support of the inspirational champion entitled, “How do you stop a determined woman?” We can’t get enough of it.

Who is fighting for the Intersex community?

A severe lack of awareness, acceptance, and visibility currently surrounds intersex people. However, there are many activists and organisations fighting to improve this. The Intersex Justice Project is one organisation that is currently pushing to de-stigmatize intersex and end non-consensual medical interventions. This project is gaining notoriety thanks to their leader, the activist, and filmmaker, Pidgeon Pagonis. Based in Chicago, Pagonis is involved with several protests at a local hospital that practice IGM on babies, named the Lurie Children’s Hospital. There is a petition that you can sign to support this mission, by following the link here.

Hida Viloria is another US based, intersex human rights activist fighting for equality. She was actually the second person in North America to be granted an intersex birth certificate. She has written a memoir entitled “Born Both: An Intersex Life“, and created this downloadable PDF; an educational tool that is primarily for new parents to intersex babies.

As the Chairperson of the Organisation of Intersex International, she rebranded it with Dr. Dani Lee Harris and Dana Zzym, creating the Intersex Campaign for Equality (IC4E). Dr. Lee Harris is an activist, an author, and life coach. Meanwhile, Zzym was the first American ex-veteran to apply for an intersex passport. Together, they have formed IC4E to be a great resource for keeping up to date with Intersex news through radio, podcasts or articles. They promote human rights through the “arts, education and action” of intersex individuals and allies.

For example, the critically acclaimed film, Ponyboi, which premiered in Canada on May 30th, 2019, was celebrated on the site. Directed by River Gallo and Sadé Clacken Joseph, it is produced by Emma Thompson and Stephen Fry and is the first film to feature an intersex narrative. Woop!

Finally, what can allies do for Intersex/human rights?

First and foremost, be compassionate and listen. Do not make assumptions and recognise that the rights of intersex people are no different from those of basic human rights. Be aware that an intersex person may not identify as queer or trans.

The Intersex Society of North America has compiled a list of practical tips or otherwise, you can check out this PDF from the OII.




Win Prizes for National Orgasm Day

We love the month of July for many reasons; lazy days in the park, cocktails in the sunshine, and of course, long, light nights that are perfect for pleasure… Which neatly brings us to National Orgasm Day, an annual day that celebrates orgasms in any and many forms.

According to this article, sex toy designers Lelo offer their UK employees days off to enjoy finger shimmies as it boosts productivity, and surely there’s no better date to take a self-love day than on National Orgasm Day on 31st of July. Follow their lead, employers – allowing your employees to take the day off to polish their pearls will ensure a satisfied workforce in no time!

To help you celebrate in the best way we know how, we are giving away four bottles of Orgie Intense Orgasm Gel with Hemp, and one Ruby Glow Dusk ride-on vibrator!

We’ll pick one lucky entrant to win a bottle of orgasm gel each week and on National Orgasm Day itself, the person who has racked up most points in our competition will win themselves a Ruby Glow Dusk.

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Win a Ruby Glow Dusk (£40)

So new you can’t even buy this babelicious ride-on vibe at point of writing, this is the upgraded version of the award-winning toy designed by erotica author Tabitha Rayne. Covered in silky smooth silicone, Ruby Glow Dusk features a clitoral mound, a pubic dip and a small bump for the vaginal opening. This toy is for the humpers & grinders out there; designed for non-penetration and hands-free use, it allows you to rock yourself to orgasm.

We have one Ruby Glow Dusk to give away and a lucky winner will be picked on National Orgasm Day, Wednesday the 31st of July.

Win one of four Orgie Intense Orgasm Hemp! Gels (£19 each)

Using their latest Brazilian technology, award-winning brand Orgie have developed an arousal gel infused with hemp seed oil. Just one small squirt onto labia lips and clitoris will deliver multiple lovely sensations such as tingling, heating, and cooling. By encouraging blood flow to the area this increases sensitivity, meaning that orgasms are about to get super-charged.

We have four bottles of this lovely stuff to give away, and one winner will be picked each week leading up to National Orgasm Day.

Terms & Conditions

No purchase necessary to enter or win.

The competition ends on 31st of July 2019.

The winner will be notified by email at the email address provided in the Entry Information on or about 48 hours after the drawing. The potential winner must accept a prize by email as directed by Sh! within 48 hours of notification. Any winner notification not responded to or returned as undeliverable may result in prize forfeiture.

Prizes cannot be transferred, redeemed for cash or substituted by winner.

Seduce Yourself Class

10 Ways to Seduce Yourself – an erotic class with Immani Love

Single, in a relationship, or simply want to get better acquainted with yourself? This class is for you!

Learning to seduce yourself can be easy if you understand the little details that matter. This workshop will give you 10 Ways to Seduce Yourself and perhaps some ideas for spicing up a relationship as well!

Immani Love will host this class on how to turn yourself on in no less than 10 different ways because let’s be honest: it’s always fun to change things up!

Immani Love, Author, Erotic Poet & Love Goddess
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Immani Love was born in Philadelphia, Pa and is currently making her home in Florida, regularly performing in several places in the United States, United Kingdom, Europe, and Australia when booked.

Named 2013 Erotic Poet of the Year by the National Poetry Awards and invited to perform in the UK Black Pride in London, England, as well as EuroPride 2014 in Marseille, France and EuroPride 2016 in Amsterdam, Netherlands, now her popularity has grown! She has traveled throughout Europe every summer since 2014 and includes stops as far as Australia, England, Spain, France, Holland, Germany, Italy, and Greece.

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If you missed her event at Sh! last summer, you gotta join us for this one!

Understanding Sexless Relationships And Strategies To End The Dry Spell

Most relationships start hot and steamy with plenty of pleasure and intimacy, but as time goes by these often reduce in frequency and intensity and sometimes they come to a halt.

Is it possible that your relationship is just going through a temporary ‘dry’ spell or season or is this how it will remain forever? What can you do to change things for the better?

leah-SpasovaFind the answers to these questions and many more during this evening hosted by Leah Spasova of the Lifesexperts

A Social Psychologist, Situational Ethicist, and Sex & Relationships Educator, Leah focuses her work on helping individuals to improve their social skills, confidence, self-esteem, resilience, ability to deal with difficulties, maintain good physical and mental health and more.

The evening starts at 7.30pm with a unique panel discussion featuring 4 professionals working in the field of life, sex and relationships improvement. Make the most of this opportunity to ask them questions related to their expertise and work with individuals and couples who experience relationship and sexual struggles. After the panel we will move onto our talk for the night, exploring and learning more about Sexless Relationships.

The Panel

  • Leah Spasova – Social Psychologist and Sex and Relationships Educator – LIFESEXPERTS
  • Lori Beth Bisbey – Psychologist, Sex and Intimacy Coach, Author – Wolf’s Fire
  • Jacqueline Chan – Life Coach and Yoga & Meditation Practitioner – Energy Before Matter
  • Glen Wiseman, Panel Moderator – Sex and Relationships Educator – Brook and The Mix Charity
After the panel discussion, Leah will explore the topic of sexless relationships in 2 parts:

1. How relationships enter a dry season – from a psychological: personal and interpersonal perspective?

2. How to navigate better and get ourselves back on track to a more connected, intimate and pleasure filled relationship?

*Understanding sexless relationships

This talk will help you gain insight into the reasons why sex reduces and stops in relationships from a psychological and sexual perspective. Although we shall briefly explore some of the social aspects that affect us, our relationships and sexual life; such as having stressful jobs, having children and else – we will concentrate more on the personal and interpersonal aspects of what causes individuals to end up in sexless relationships. We shall explore what kills passion, desire, and connection between individuals and how our emotional and psychological needs are often unrecognised and unmet and thus we lose interest, we stop yearning, feel pushed away or neglected.   

*Ways to reconnect and end the dry season

Continuing with the psychological: a personal and interpersonal perspective which is rarely shared and spoken about yet it is so very important for us as individuals and partners – we explore how to end the dry season. We shall offer you invaluable strategies to reignite passion and desire, increase the connection and intimacy between you.

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All genders & sexualities welcome.

Attendees will receive a workbook to help them jot down notes and make the best out of the content this event has to deliver.

Who Are the Lifesexperts?

We provide high quality and unique Life Relevant Education for Adults!

Our content covers over 40 topics on all things related to sexuality, intimacy, relationships, mental health and well-being, interpersonal skills and more!

Our events are sex-positive, inclusive and welcoming to all human beings irrespective of sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, physical ability, relationship status, etc. Put simply, if you’re a human being open to learning and growing – you are welcomed.



The Secret Teachings of the Kama Sutra – an evening with Seema Anand

Did you know that the famous “positions” were based on classifications of genitals sizes – how to make them more compatible to ensure true pleasure.

Did you know the whole book of Kama Sutra is based on the textures of vulvas – how to arouse women with different textures, what kind of pressure to apply, what food they like, even the perfect environment for their sexual pleasure? According to the Kama Sutra with every changing phase of the moon, the erogenous zones shift around the body. An accomplished lover was one who understood where the erogenous spot rested every night and how it should be stimulated for maximum arousal.

Written in the 4th cen AD the Kama Sutra was the first book to acknowledge the idea of women’s pleasure – their capacity to feel pleasure and their right to experience it – separate to and independent of a man’s pleasure. With great perception, it explained the difference: Men’s desire is like fire, beginning in the groin and flaring upwards, it is easy to ignite and easier still to douse. Women’s pleasure, on the other hand, is like water – starting at the head it flows downwards, taking forever to come to the boil and equally long to cool down.

A woman’s pleasure is complex and fragile, it was a skill that had to be learnt – (the Kama Sutra was written to teach men how to pleasure a woman) – what stories to tell before sex to arouse her, what conversation to have after sex to make her come back to your bed more readily the next time, with what kind of kisses to drive her distracted but not satisfy, with what kind of kisses to finally quench the desire. It even includes an entire Ayurvedic study on the different combinations of fingers that should be used to pleasure oneself. Each finger holds the energy of a specific element and each combination provides its own sensations.

Join Seema in an evening of decoding the secret teachings of the Kama Sutra on sensuality, pleasure and seduction.
Seema Anand

Seema Anand is a mythologist and storyteller specialising in women’s narratives. She is an acknowledged authority on the ancient erotic literature of the East. Ancient India believed that sexual pleasure was not just instinct but an art, the correct practice of which contributed to the wellbeing of all five senses and the development of the mind and the soul. It was essential for both the physical and mental wellbeing but could only be effective if understood properly.

“I believe that the erotic literature of ancient
India was written by a woman – it is the only thing that explains the detail, the elegance and the beauty with which the subject is handled, where pleasure becomes an art and sex a poetic experience…”

The Seema Sutra – on Pleasures of a Woman

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London’s Hottest Womxn Led LGBTQ+ Strxptease experience!

Where performance arts, contemporary theatre, Neo-burlesque and cabaret meets club culture, pole & striptease. 

The night will be jam-packed with award-winning performers, striptease & London Pride’s very first twerk contest.

We also have a VIP area where you can receive a deliciously Juicyyy private dance by one of our very own Juicebox Baddies & Daddies.


We believe in Womxn’s rights for all Womxn and we are extremely passionate about creating opportunities for Womxn and the LGBTQ+/QTPOC community to feel empowered and safe enough to express themselves fully and to accept themselves in their entirety, including their sexuality. Being LGBTQ/QTPOC Womxn ourselves we understand the frustration and disappointment in being a queer person of colour without a space to celebrate our culture and heritage safely. This is why we have created JuiceBox Events, to empower and provide a platform for the underrepresented in our community.

Our events will include Stud/Tomboy stage performances as we want to give our Masc/Dom performers a platform they don’t have at this moment in the UK.

We are proud to announce that we have been added to the official Pride In London festival program!!! In our research we found there to be a lack of safe spaces for our community and Womxn in London, and with the recent uproar of womxn’s rights campaigns such as the #metoo movement coupled with the rapid loss of some of London’s most respected and loved LGBTQ+ club nights makes clear tangible evidence that the fight for visibility is more important than ever.

We at JuiceBox Events believe strongly that all human beings deserve to feel heard and that it is a basic human need to feel a sense of belonging, we are an all-inclusive company that will empower and provides a platform for the underrepresented in our community by showcasing LGBTQ+, QTPOC & Womxn Talent.

Are You Ready To Twerk Out With Your Dollars Out?!!! Come & Make It Rain At The Ultimate Pre-Pride Warm Up

Come and join us on the 21ST JUNE 2019! at REDON for the launch of JUICEBOX EVENTS!!
Music Policy : Urban Music (HipHop/Bashment/Dancehall/Afrobeats/R&B/Grime)

Enjoy Our Line Up Of Award Winning Performers
  • Bunni Morretto
  • Tequila Rose
  • Kitty Velour
  • Foreign Freak
Whilst Exotic Strxpteasers – JuiceBox Baddies & Daddies Tease & Tantalize
  • Jada Love
  • Romeo De La
  • Cruz
With The Hottest All Womxn DJ Line Up, Serving You The Sickest Swaggiest Sets
  • DJ Kaspa
  • Lemonade Girlz
  • Nadine Artois (Pxssy Palace)

Come Bruk Out To Bashment/ Dancehall/Trap/ Hip- Hop/Grime/Afrobeats

This Is What We’ve Waited Our Whole Gay Lives For, Finally A Judgment Free Zone That Allows The LGBTQ+ Community To Live Their Best Life… Come Get That Booty Poppin’ With Us… Or Just Watch 😈

🌈This Is A Body Positive, Sex Positive, Twerk Positive, Yassssss Positive Womxn Led LGBTQ+ Event! 🌈 😈 Bring A Mate Or A Date & Don’t Be Late

  • Wheelchair Accessible Venue
  • We welcome all Womxn, Queer Bodies & Their Allies

@redonlive Cambridge Heath Road, Arch 289, London, E2 9HA



Anal for everyone! How to ease into it your first time and every time – a class with Lola Jean

Following her sold-out classes, Lola Jean is back with more! For all bodies and genital varieties.

There’s definitely a rise in attention on the booty and rightfully so! Ass play isn’t for everyone but how do you know if it’s for you? Some simply don’t enjoy the sensation but what if your fears are pain, poop or other?

Those are items that can be navigated around. How do you prepare? Do you need to prepare? How do you know you’re ready? Whether you have a vulva or a penis, everyone has a butt and there are many pleasure zones we can access safely and with care. In this class we will discuss the difference between anal stretching and stimulation, the variety of sensations that can occur in and around the butt as well as anal penetration.


Anal play is SO much more than just sticking something inside a butt. There is an easing-in process to make this enjoyable for all parties. Learn to understand the prostate from both internal and external stimulation as well as why stimulating different parts of the vagina can be more pleasurable via the anal canal.

And yes, we will go over poo and pain extensively.

More About Lola Jean

Lola Jean at Sh!
Lola Jean at Sh!

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder (wowzers!).

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!


There’s a New Munch in Town!

Are you into kink? Do you want to learn more about BDSM? Are you looking to meet like-minded peeps without having to take your clothes off?

If you tick those four boxes, you’re in luck: there’s a new munch in town and you are invited! (For those new to the lingo, a “munch” is a casual, social gathering for peeps who are into kinky stuff.)

Hosted by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott, the group will meet every 2 months, for 2 hours, and we’re delighted to share that their munch will be held right here at Sh!

Who is it for?

This group is for you if you are in a Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, Owner/property relationship or seeking to create a relationship of this type and wish to learn more about how to create and maintain these relationships.

All genders, sexualities, races, religions, and cultures are invited to join.

What happens at the Munch?

Each time the group meets, there will be a topic presentation and discussion for the first half of the group and the second half will be devoted to questions, answers, and discussions. Topics will be primarily focused on power exchange/ authority transfer based relationship and elements of the relationship. There will sometimes be demonstrations of types of play and techniques.

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Meet the Hosts

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott has been involved in a power exchange (Master/slave) relationship for 10 years and been married for 4 ½ years. They both identify as part of the leather community.

Lori Beth & Terence

Lori Beth has been a slave or submissive part-time in relationships since 1978, surrendering in four long term relationships each lasting more than 2 years. Terence has been a dominant in a variety of relationships since his early 20’s.

Lori Beth regularly presents at conferences and seminars on relationships, relationship styles, sex, sexuality, and BDSM. They have presented as a couple on creating a human drum circle and creating ritual in power exchange relationships.

Lori Beth is a polyamorous cisgendered queer leather woman masochistic slave whose pronouns are she, her. Terence is a polyamorous cisgendered bisexual leather man sadistic dominant whose pronouns are he, him.

Please note: Despite the munch taking place at Sh!, one of Europe’s most long-standing erotic emporiums, this is not an open invitation to get your kit off and get the party started; this is a social occasion and guests are expected to remain clothed.


Surrendering – a Workshop with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Does the idea of surrendering to a partner sexually, emotionally, or in a 24/7 relationship appeal to you?

Have you been submissive in relationships but found surrendering difficult?

Do you find letting go of control in other areas of life hard to do?

Surrender is extremely satisfying and is an essential ingredient in a power exchange relationship. It is often very difficult to do.

In this interactive workshop, we will explore surrender as a part of power exchange relationships. We will examine the different levels and depths of surrender. We will practice being present with a dominant partner. We will examine fears about being vulnerable, shame and learn methods of getting rid of these so that we can surrender more fully. We will cover in depth consent, surrender in a spiritual sense (surrender to a higher power, the divine). We will look at the role of trust in surrender. We will return to sexual surrender and do sensual exercises to deepen surrender.

Exercises will not involve sexual contact or any nudity.


All genders & sexualites welcome.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.


Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at

Pronouns: She, Her

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