Sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures, and something everyone should look forward to as a form of release, a way to connect with a partner and to increase self-confidence.
That is the dream, anyway.
We all know the reality can look very different. Busy schedules and long-term relationships often mean that couples find their sex lives become stagnant or even non-existent.
Whether it is due to a lack of excitement or adventure or simply not having the time to roll around in bed for a whole weekend, having a healthy and satisfying sex life can feel like a luxury that is somewhat unattainable.
If you’re feeling as though your sex life is dwindling, check out our tips for spicing things up and ensuring your fire is one that stays lit!
Explore an area that you haven’t before
Anal stimulation can be extremely erotic and if you’ve never tried this before, it’s well worth considering giving it a gentle go.
Thinking of it as a fun, new adventure and a chance for you both to explore yet-to-be-discovered parts of your bodies, will help to make it seem less intimidating.
Before dipping your fingertips in, so to speak, make sure to have smooth nails, a bottle of anal lube uncorked and lines of communication open.
Start off slowly by using only a finger for stroking, teasing and tapping around the anus before slipping deeper in.
As you both gain confidence and get hotter for more, lubed-up anal beads slipped into the tush one-by-one can offer amazing sensations for the partner on the receiving end. For a truly mind-blowing experience, insert the anal beads and gently remove them just as they (or you!) are about to reach orgasm.
Our day to day lives are full of responsibility so sometimes it can be refreshing to pretend to be someone else for a few hours. Let this expand to your bedroom sessions by dressing up for your partner.
There are too many options to count; you can be a sexy maid one day and a formidable Dominatrix the next… Choosing a roleplay persona that fits with your personality makes it a little easier to pretend, but choosing a persona who is your complete opposite is also lots of fun. If you are shy in real life, being a hard-ass cop for a couple of hours could spark all sorts of erotic fires!
Keeping it fun with a bit of roleplay will aid the excitement and mean that neither of you can wait to rip each other’s clothes off and get started…
Read erotic books or watch films together
Seeing or reading about other people having sex can be a real turn on and is also a great way to learn a few new moves in the process.
Be sure to talk to your partner about it first and agree on something that you both find sexy. We stock a wide range of erotic books that will be perfect for some bedtime reading.
Tip: Setting your partner the task of finding something you’ll like will give them cart blanche to watch as much porn as they can possibly find time for, as they’ll be searching for something that’ll turn you on. Be as specific as possible – this’ll make it harder to find the right clip or film and they simply ‘have to’ watch lots and lots of sexy stuff – and they’ll be keen to gain your approval once the mission has been completed!