How to introduce the idea of playing with a sex toy together to your partner.
Whether a sex toy that is specially designed to be a couples toy or a just simple vibrator can add a groove to sex with a lover, but go gently because hurt feelings or egos are real passion killers! Getting all hot and bothered about the
prospect of playthings enhancing the fantastic sex you're already enjoying together is stage one; now all you have to do is convey your lusty longings in
a way that excites your lover too.
Certainly, we'd never recommend whipping out a sex toy in bed unless you're 100% confident of a lover's delighted response: you may spark fireworks of the wholly un-erotic sort.
Introducing the idea away from the heat of the bedroom but still within a warm, romantic situation is probably the best way to go. . . .
The Language of Love
Use words that involve your lover in this fantasy, and its more likely to be embraced with baited breath rather than dashed with accusations of your dissatisfaction of your sex life together. - It might be a tiny change of words but it could make all the difference!
For instance, a proposal that starts i would love it if we played with a
.......... (fill in the blank!!) expresses your togetherness and how much their pleasure is vital to your enjoyment. Whereas one that starts " I would love to to play with a
.................... expresses a single-mindedness and could come across too mate-on-a-mission: more desperate than desirable!
Confidence is sexy!
Feeling a little flustered or embarrassed at the prospect of talking about sex/sex toys is natural. Getting up close to your lover and whispering your desires in their ear, will probably make you feel more confident (less voice-throwing and eye contact needed!) plus you will be so close to them that they wont even notice your rosy glow!Embarrassment also can cause us to yammer uncontrollably or clam up completely, neither of which will help you hear your lovers true response - so take a relaxing sip of wine and then a deep breath before you sidle up to them.
Second Hand Sex Toys :-( Mentioning previous sex-toy
encounters is surplus to requirements!!! Your excitement will be infectious and this will be your first time with them so don't dilute it with what is history.
Relegate to past, too, any erstwhile toys that may be collecting dust under your bed. Second-hand sex toys may hold too much history for your
current lover to swallow.
Your Journey starts here!
In our experience couples often get so much more than an a overflowing toy-box when choosing their toys together. Just browsing together opens up communication and intimacy. Chatting over sex toys gets you giggling together, fires up imaginations and fantasies and sets up the thrill of anticipation of what might happen ...
Couples Sex Toys
Some sex toys are by their very nature a sex toy for a couple; a cock ring or a strap on really need two to tango ... But they still need to be introduced with tact if they are going to add to the fantastic sex you are already having together.
With its pink pages, friendly atmosphere, expert advice and the UK's best collection of female-focused toys, a foreplay date surfing the Sh! Store might be the perfect place to start your adventures in lurve!.
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