I've been diagnosed with Vaginismus and told to get a dilating kit - Can you help?
Full Question
Hello. I've just been told I have something called vaginismus. i've spent years wondering why I couldn't have proper sex with boyfriends (and usually getting dumped because of it). I've never heard of vaginismus before, and it sounds pretty bad! I was told to get myself a dilating kit for vaginismus treatment. Can you help?
The Sh! Girlz answer
Vaginismus is actually pretty common, and every year we have hundreds of women coming through our doors who also have vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina go into spasm and make intercourse either very painful & difficult, or impossible. Vaginismus is usually seen as having psychological roots, so working to "repair" yourself physically and addressing any psychological issues about sex you may have lurking deep down (whatever they are and wherever they may have come from...) is the best way forward. Above all, don't despair! Vaginismus is something you can conquer with just a tiny bit of self-discipline.
There are few vaginismus dilating kits available; A standard hard plastic vaginismus dilating kit which look & feel very "medical". Because of this we developed our vaginismus dilating kit -
Sh! Training Kit. This is made up of 4 vibrators, graded in size like standard vaginismus dilating kit, strating very small/slim and progressing to larger/wider - all in pretty pink and purple colours!
The advantage of using vibrators instead of non-vibrating dilators for vaginismus treatment is that the vibrations will also help to relax your muscles, and you can have fun stimulating your labia and clit at the same time! Compliance is usually the problem with the whole dilating issue - but if you have a pretty little vibe to help you through the process, you are much more likely to pick it up and use it!
The most important thing is to try not to despair or give up on yourself - vaginismus is beatable!
We host a group,
Fannying Around at our
Hoxton Store which if very welcoming & supportive of women with "issues" around their nethers - one of the most important things is to know that you are not alone, so please do come if you can make it....
Customer Responds:
Just wanted to thank you all for advice about vaginismus. I was really quite depressed about the whole thing and your comments have really helped. I got your kit of this website, and it's really great. i showed it to my doctor and she was totally impressed! I've seen the NHS ones and they looked awful. I'm only at number 2, but I really feel much more positive and as I've never had a vibrator I've actually enjoyed experimenting with rubbing my clit - WOW!
Thanks again
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