Problems with Ovaries; Painful Sex

The Sh! Girlz Answer:
Painful sex can, of course, be a problem both for yourself and for your relationship - but please don't get too stressed about it as this can turn into a viscous cycle

It is difficult to get over the pain - or fear of the pain to come... Once it has become an issue, and this obviously then leads to a tensing up of the muscles and a negative physical response... or "stressing out", which is not at all conducive to "getting in the mood."

We know that in cases of vulval pain/ pain during intercourse where there is actual irritation of the skin in some way, women do sometimes get prescribed a steroid cream (by their doctor) which can numb the pain. This is slightly more on the more extreme end of things - perhaps the first thing to try is a good lubricant as well-lubricated sex is the first stage to pleasurable sex...

We'd recommend a good water- based lubricant . As you are allergic to latex, it is better to stick to simple formulas ( avoid silicone-based lubes in case you are also sensitive to that).

Lubricant will not numb any pain, but you will completely reduce any friction and therefore will not be putting unnecessary "strain" on yourself when penetrated. We have Liquid Silk which is a fantastic lubricant - very creamy and soft feeling, and doesn't get sticky when it dries out. Just use as much as you like! It's not a messy lube, so you can be very generous. Another lube - Probe is very good as it is as much as possible natural ingredients. It is designed to more closely match your own vaginal fluids, so it quite "mucus-like" - it does go quite stringy, and abit sticky when it dries.

If you try some lube, but still feel you need something to "numb pain", then the next stage is to consult your doctor.

Whilst there are commercial products available to numb, ( mostly marketed for anal sex) we don't stock them because numbing pain during sex, especially anal sex can be dangerous....

Perhaps this could become a positive experience you - as you are lucky enough to have has a steady partner for 3 years, you are in an ideal position to expand your sexual repertoires together. Longterm couples can get stuck in a sexual rut and so finding other ways to enjoy each other/ give each other orgasms outside of intercourse could actually enhance your relationship...

Check out sex guides for ideas... Erotica too is great for inspiration as well being a great way to turn yourself or each other on... i

Playing a sexy Game together or exploring the sensual side of sex is a great way enjoy one another without jumping straight into the penetrative side of sex....

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