How come I have different orgasms with hubby and vibrator?
Full Question: I have different orgasms with my husband and vibrator! I normally "orgasm" when having sex with my hubby, I have what I've recently found out is known as "female ejaculation". Now I have recently purchased my first vibrator - a rabbit - WOW why didn't I buy one before now (age 31!)? Well when using my vibrator I experience the most amazing orgasms, completely different from those that I have with hubby. These orgasms are extremely powerful, send me to a completely different planet of extreme pleasure, then render me helpless and sleepy - WONDERFUL!
Can you explain why I experience different "orgasms" or perhaps I've never had a proper one until the arrival of jessica rabbit!??
The answer is simple: different stimulation = different orgasms!
Unless we have exactly the same sex with the same partner and expect the same outcomes, orgasms are as different as we are. We can have intense orgasms, wet orgasms (and you're lucky enough to have those!), quick orgasms, long, hard orgasms...all different!
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Jessica Rabbit Vibe does do a few things that the male member can't: it vibrates, it rotates, it has beads to stimlutate all around the labia and to flex PC muscles against and above all it stimulates your clitoris at the same time! Isn't it perfectly feasible that this vibrator does different things to your body that a non-twisting, non-vibrating piece of flesh (however lovely and loving it is) can't do? It's not a matter of "proper" orgasm and "not a proper" orgasm - it's just a different orgasm.
The other issue is that solo, with a vibrator, you are concentrating purely on your own pleasure. Sex with a partner is a two way thing, and we women often put other people's pleasure before our own. No matter how much you love your hubby and are comfortable being open with him, there may be a sense that you can't completely let go. This doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your relationship - it's just human nature. On our own we can be completely self-involved.
A good way to bridge this different intensity of your orgasms is to play with your rabbit with your husband - let him share your amazing g-spot orgasms!. Give him the controls of the buttons and let him see what happens to your body! If you can acheive the same orgasm in front of him, it will show that other orgasms are possible. Next step is to see if you can acheive similarly intense orgasms when you both have sex together.
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